Deck 10: Managing Relationship Challenges

Question 1

Maria's accusation that John cheated on her is called a(n)

A)reproach.
B)account.
C)excuse.
D)assent.

Answer 1

A

Question 2

When Carlos lies to Jacob about how much money he makes at his new job because he's embarrassed at how little he makes, his reason for lying is best described as to

A)avoid loss of resources.
B)protect Jacob's self-image.
C)avoid harm.
D)protect his self-image.

Answer 2

D

Question 3

Repeated, unwelcome intrusions that create concern for personal safety and fear in the target are collectively known as

A)stalking.
B)failure events.
C)reproach.
D)invulnerable responses.

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Jim uses verbal threats against Toni as a way of maintaining dominance in their relationship.Jim's actions display which type of partner violence as defined in the text?

A)violent resistance
B)situational couple violence
C)intimate terrorism
D)obsessive relational intrusion

Question 5

The reasons for evoking jealousy in a relationship include relational

A)rewards and relational revenge.
B)escalation and relational intimacy.
C)rewards and relational escalation.
D)intimacy and relational revenge.

Question 6

What did Cupach and Spitzberg describe as a repeated non-threatening invasion of a person's privacy by an acquaintance who desires or assumes a close relationship?

A)obsessive relational intrusion
B)stalking
C)surveillance behaviors
D)obsessive-compulsive stalking

Question 7

Trouble has been brewing in the relationship between Shawn and Trevor for quite some time.One problem seems to go away and another one emerges.At some point, the couple decides they can't take it anymore and decide to break up.This kind of breakup is best identified as an example of

A)unilateral dissolution.
B)incrementalism.
C)sudden death.
D)fading away.

Question 8

Laughing as a reaction to a potentially hurtful comment by another person is a(n)________ response.

A)invulnerable
B)vulnerable
C)active verbal
D)acquiescent

Question 9

In this stage of the ending of a relationship, one or both partners finalize the public story that they can share with others about what happened.This takes place during the ________ phase in the dissolution process.

A)grave-dressing
B)social
C)intrapsychic
D)dyadic

Question 10

In essence, we forgive others for a failure event when

A)our retaliation attempts fail.
B)it is culturally correct to do so.
C)it is in our own best interest to do so.
D)we are physically separated.

Question 11

One study suggests that people who are in long-distance relationships can maintain relationships similar to those between people who are geographically close, as long as they are able to get together at least

A)once a week.
B)once a month.
C)twice every three months.
D)every three months.

Question 12

Believing that our partner is the only person who can really meet our relational needs is known as perceived partner

A)allness.
B)uniqueness.
C)oneness.
D)cohesiveness.

Question 13

Henry always avoids talking about his past, in large part because he spent some time in prison.When his fiancée, Carla, finds out about it, she is horrified and calls him a liar.Carla is accusing Henry of deception by

A)commission.
B)omission.
C)bald-face lie.
D)white lie.

Question 14

Seemingly out of the blue, Harriot comes home from work one day and says to her partner Sherry, "I've found someone else.I'm moving out tomorrow." The type of breakup this example represents is

A)unplanned extinction.
B)fading away.
C)incrementalism.
D)sudden death.

Question 15

Of the following, the single strongest predictor of divorce is

A)defensive behavior.
B)criticism or attacks on someone's personality.
C)stonewalling.
D)display of contempt.

Question 16

When Maria accuses John of cheating on her, John admits that he did go out with Angela but that he only did so to help her through a difficult time and that Maria shouldn't worry about it.John's account is most appropriately labeled a(n)

A)reproach.
B)justification.
C)excuse.
D)absence of an account.

Question 17

When Albert calls his housemate Mark a slob, Mark responds with, "Right! Why don't you take a closer look at your room?" Mark's reaction is best characterized as a(n)________ response.

A)invulnerable
B)acquiescent
C)active verbal
D)vulnerable

Question 18

If all four signs of communication behaviors that indicate increasing problems in a marriage are consistently present, the chance a couple will eventually divorce is ________ percent.

A)70
B)80
C)63
D)94

Question 19

The two general categories of reasons people are deceptive are

A)altruistic and to gain resources.
B)altruistic and self-serving.
C)to protect one's self-image and self-serving.
D)self-serving and to gain resources.

Question 20

Lilah cried when Elmer said he thought she was "spoiled brat." Lilah's crying about Elmer's hurtful comment is a(n)________ response.

A)invulnerable
B)active verbal
C)acquiescent
D)vulnerable

Question 21

Researchers Vangelisti and Crumley found that, in general, harsh messages that invoke pain, such as "I don't love you anymore," have less of a negative impact than an accusation or comment about someone's abilities.

Question 22

In order, Duck's phases of ending a relationship are:

A)intrapsychic, confidant/dyadic, social, grave-dressing, and resurrection.
B)intrapsychic, social, confidant/dyadic, grave-dressing, and resurrection.
C)confidant/dyadic, social, termination, and grave-dressing, and resurrection.
D)confidant/dyadic, termination, social, resurrection, and grave-dressing.

Question 23

Obsessive relational intrusion is marked by such behaviors as unregulated self-disclosing, arranging coincidental meetings, and expressing a desire for physical contact.

Question 24

Max has been dumped by his girlfriend and is trying to work through his post-dissolution grief.One strategy that is helping him is to mentally review his ex's flaws.Max is engaging in which of Weber's strategies?

A)Figure out what happened.
B)Get some perspective.
C)Prepare to feel better.
D)Realize, don't idealize.

Question 25

When one researcher asked individuals to identify why their friendships with a friend of the same sex ended, first on the list of reasons was

A)new friends replacing old friends as circumstances changed.
B)physical separation.
C)people often just grow to dislike a characteristic of the friend's behavior or personality.
D)one friend's dating activity or romantic relationships interfering with the relationship.

Question 26

Bald-faced lies involve embellishing the facts.

Question 27

De-escalation is an indirect termination strategy.

Question 28

Ellie wants to break up with Kevin, but doesn't have the heart to tell him, so she starts criticizing things about him, like how sloppy and lazy he is and how his friends annoy her.Ellie secretly, and even somewhat unconsciously, hopes that Kevin will take the hint and ask Ellie to break up with him.Ellie's approach to ending this relationship is an example of the indirect strategy of cost escalation.

Question 29

Jealousy and envy are interchangeable terms.

Question 30

Reproaches are usually indirect statements conveyed through hints or nonverbal messages.

Question 31

When Felix tells Alex that he doesn't want to be friends anymore because, "I just don't like the way you behave around other people," the strategy for terminating their friendship, according to Baxter, is a(n)

A)indirect strategy of withdrawal.
B)direct strategy of negative identity management.
C)direct strategy of justification.
D)indirect strategy of de-escalation.

Question 32

According to the research by Michael Cody concerning students' assessments of what caused their intimate heterosexual relationships to break up, the number one cited cause was

A)faults.
B)infidelity.
C)unwillingness to compromise.
D)feeling constrained.

Question 33

When Alicia wanted to end her relationship with Todd, but Todd wanted the relationship continue, the relationship ended due to a bilateral dissolution.

Question 34

Research by Stafford and Reske found that couples in long-distance premarital relationships had less communication but greater satisfaction and higher expectation for the likelihood of marriage than those in geographically close relationships.

Question 35

Gay and lesbian couples engage in the same kinds of relational maintenance activities as heterosexual couples.

Question 36

Failure events can be implicit or explicit.

Question 37

Responding with violence to a specific relational conflict or tension is what Michael Johnson refers to as intimate terrorism.

Question 38

Generally, humorously phrased hurtful messages were found by researchers to be less hurtful than non-humorously phrased comments EXCEPT when they were about abilities or intelligence, de-escalating the relationship, or about a person's hopes or plans.

Question 39

Bald-faced lies are outright falsifications of information intended to deceive the listener and impact the behavior of those who hear them more than white lies or exaggeration.

Question 40

When Emily and Larry start asking each other whether their relationship is working, and whether they should continue to see each other exclusively, they have entered the intrapsychic phase of the dissolution of their relationship.

Question 41

Why do people lie to each other? Use examples to support your explanations.

Question 42

List and define the three types of partner violence as defined by sociologist Michael Johnson.

Question 43

What are two general categories and five specific reasons that people are deceptive?

Question 44

Describe the difference between a reproach and an account, and define and give an example of a failure event.

Question 45

Name and describe three types of deception by commission, or the deliberate presentation of false information.

Question 46

Describe six phases of Duck's model of ending relationships.

Question 47

Name and define the three paths by which relationships end.

Question 48

Explain the factors that determine the impact of physical separation and distance on long- distance relationships (LDRs).

Question 49

List and briefly describe the elements of five typical types of accounts put forth by relationship scholar Frank Fincham.