Deck 3: Communication: Enriching Your Sexuality

Question 1

The Onion Theory of communication refers to the tendency to reveal ourselves to others:

A)beginning with our unpleasant qualities.
B)from the inside out.
C)after testing the waters.
D)in layers beginning with the least personal.
E)as an embellishment to our cognitive skills.

Answer 1

D

Question 2

What factors contribute to communication problems for couples?

A)poor communication skills
B)inability to self-disclose
C)trouble listening
D)unwillingness to acknowledge a problem
E)all of these are true

Answer 2

E

Question 3

An example of a hedge in conversation is:

A)isn't it.
B)kind of.
C)I may be wrong.
D)I'm sure.
E)will you?

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Critiques of Tannen's work regarding gender differences in communication question her assumption that:

A)gender is biologically based.
B)gender is socially constructed.
C)not all women communicate in the same way.
D)there are gender differences at all.
E)psychological reasons explain the differences.

Question 5

Latoya says,"I might be wrong,but I think that it is going to rain today." This is an example of

A)a tag question.
B)a disclaimer.
C)a hedge statement.
D)a question statement.
E)none of the above

Question 6

The phrase,"That's an interesting idea,isn't it?" is an example of a/an __________.

A)disclaimer
B)tag question
C)hedge word
D)emoticon
E)overkill

Question 7

In a study conducted by Student Monitor looking at habits and preferences of college students from more than 100 U.S.universities,the three most popular things on college campuses were:

A)food,beer,and rallies
B)libraries,art galleries,and football games
C)sororities,fraternities,and beer
D)campus clubs,football games,and libraries
E)beer,Facebook accounts,and text messaging

Question 8

When we communicate with other people we have three competing goals.When we want to simply communicate our message we are focusing on which goal?

A)relational
B)kindness
C)getting the job done
D)sharing goal
E)identity management

Question 9

Which of the following would men be more likely than women to do in a conversation?

A)make a disclaimer
B)use a tag question
C)use hedge words
D)use a questioning statement
E)none of the above

Question 10

An example of a disclaimer in conversation is:

A)use of slang.
B)talk about home and family.
C)saying that one might be wrong.
D)hostile words.
E)questions at the end of a statement.

Question 11

According to communication experts,what type of speech pattern decreases the speaker's perceived assertiveness of speech?

A)overgeneralizations
B)name-calling
C)disclaimers
D)overkill
E)crying

Question 12

Comments such as,"sort of," "kind of," "aren't you," or "would you mind?" are examples of:

A)disclaimers.
B)tag markers.
C)overkill words.
D)expression tags.
E)hedge words.

Question 13

What does the term "genderlects" refer to?

A)using negative and gender stereotyping words to win an argument
B)the early babble young boys and girls engage in when first learning how to communicate
C)the term given to the communication styles of lesbians and gay men
D)couples who illustrate no gender differences when communicating
E)the fundamental differences between the way men and women communicate

Question 14

According to Tannen,women tend to use __________ talk while men use __________ talk.

A)rapport,report
B)intimacy,erotic
C)baby,robust
D)knowledge,connection
E)status,relational

Question 15

When we communicate with other people we have three competing goals.When we want to project an image with our message we are focusing on which goal?

A)relational
B)kindness
C)getting the job done
D)sharing goal
E)identity management

Question 16

When we communicate with other people we have three competing goals.When we want to maintain the relationship and not hurt or offend someone with our message we are focusing on which goal?

A)relational
B)kindness
C)getting the job done
D)sharing goal
E)identity management

Question 17

A speaker concludes what she has just said with,"Am I off base here?" This is an example of

A)a disclaimer
B)a tag question
C)a question statement
D)a hedge statement
E)assertiveness

Question 18

Raul said that he tried to offer his girlfriend suggestions for a problem she was having,and she became angry with him.Your text suggests she might have responded better had he:

A)given more specific solutions.
B)listened,but not said anything.
C)given her emotional support.
D)tried harder to fix the problem.
E)called another friend to listen.

Question 19

What is the name of the researcher who has done a great deal of research in the area of communication and gender differences and coined the term,"genderlects?"

A)Victoria Sternberg
B)William Masters
C)Deborah Tannen
D)Shelia Mosher
E)John Grafenberg

Question 20

The value of good communication in relationships is that it:

A)helps us avoid disagreements.
B)increases emotional intimacy.
C)gives the other ammunition for future fights.
D)reproduces the patterns we learned in childhood.
E)allows us to "read" the other person's mind.

Question 21

Sharing thoughts and feelings when communicating is known as:

A)self-expression.
B)self-restraint.
C)self-assessment.
D)self-centeredness.
E)self-disclosure.

Question 22

What is the name of the communication/listening technique where the listener uses nonverbal communication,such as nodding or eye contact,to let a partner know the listener is attentive?

A)pantomime
B)active listening
C)visual display
D)reception
E)active expression

Question 23

Which of the following is an example of a culture that puts the extended family before the self,uses less direct communication patterns,and rewards its members for contributions to group goals?

A)United States
B)Australia
C)Japan
D)Canada
E)Great Britain

Question 24

According to research,which of the following is most likely to create a favorable impression?

A)playing with hair
B)maintaining eye contact
C)keeping arms crossed
D)shifting positions frequently
E)finger tapping

Question 25

Concerning head-nodding in conversations between men and women,Maltz and Borker believe that:

A)men are signaling that they are listening.
B)women are signaling that they agree.
C)women may interpret men not nodding their heads as a lack of attention
D)men may interpret head-nodding in women as sexual interest.
E)contrary to popular opinion,there is no significance to head nodding.

Question 26

Which of the following is true about social networks?

A)Larger networks are more useful to the member than smaller ones.
B)The most common social networking site for college students is Facebook.
C)The typical size of a social network is 150 members.
D)Social networks are viewed in terms of "nodes" and "ties."
E)All of the above are true.

Question 27

Men and women raised in individualist cultures:

A)have a greater concern for the feelings of those around them.
B)are more likely to emphasize the communication needs of everyone in the group.
C)are likely to get bogged down in expressing emotions.
D)are more likely to encourage each person in a group to share their viewpoints.
E)are less concerned with emotions and feelings in communication.

Question 28

Maltz and Borker believe that early play experiences are related to communication styles.For instance:

A)girls are more likely than boys to play in same-sex groups.
B)in play,boys use speech to establish dominance and to lead.
C)in play,girls are interested in the hierarchy of status.
D)winning and losing is equally important to boys and girls.
E)boys' speech patterns are more complex than girls.

Question 29

IMing,emailing,text messaging,and posting on Facebook are all examples of:

A)nonverbal communication
B)nonconstructive communication
C)social networks
D)self-disclosure
E)computer-mediated communication

Question 30

What conversation technique below is critical in maintaining healthy and satisfying relationships?

A)projection
B)question statements
C)self-disclosure
D)overkill
E)tag questions

Question 31

Which of the following is true about differences in communication in gays and lesbians?

A)The speech patterns of homosexual men is indistinguishable from heterosexual men.
B)Lesbians are less likely to use hedge words than gay men.
C)Heterosexual men are more likely to use qualifying adjectives than gay men.
D)Gay men report more self-disclosure in intimate relationships than heterosexual men.
E)All of the above are true.

Question 32

Making statements that tend to exaggerate such as "Why do you always...?" or "You never...!" is called __________.

A)active speech
B)interpretation
C)overgeneralization
D)name-calling
E)overkill

Question 33

Body positions,periods of silence,and sending flowers are examples of:

A)nonverbal communication.
B)self disclosure.
C)cyberspace communication.
D)gender-based communication.
E)nondefensive listening.

Question 34

Which of the following researchers believed that American men and women came from different "sociolinguistic subcultures?"

A)Tannen
B)Maltz and Borker
C)Pearson and Lewis
D)Zuckerberg
E)Gottman

Question 35

For women,flirting is more likely to signal interest in __________ than it is for men.

A)getting to know the other person on a deeper level
B)a romantic relationship
C)going on a date
D)playing hard to get
E)exposing her true feelings

Question 36

According to your text,nondefensive listening relies on:

A)self-assertiveness.
B)self-efficacy.
C)self-restraint.
D)self-disclosure.
E)selfishness.

Question 37

Which of the following is a characteristic of effective listening?

A)nodding
B)eye contact
C)validating your partner's feelings
D)saying "um hum"
E)All of these are true

Question 38

Active listening involves __________.

A)nonverbal communication
B)self-disclosure
C)expressing one's own thoughts and feelings
D)expressing one's own displeasure
E)All of these are true

Question 39

__________ are symbols such as smiley faces used to communicate in text messages.

A)Disclaimers
B)Emoticons
C)Genderlects
D)Cyberlenses
E)Expressives

Question 40

According to the authors,which of the following statements regarding computer-mediated conversations is TRUE?

A)It can reduce the role that physical characteristics play in the development of attraction.
B)It can be easier to develop relationships than when meeting people at a party or bar.
C)It can be more intimate than face-to-face contact.
D)Gender role rules may be less prevalent.
E)All of these are true

Question 41

Women report more difficulties in same-sex conversations than men.

Question 42

Which of the following is an example of a nonconstructive communication pattern?

A)message interpretation
B)overkill
C)active listening
D)nonverbal expressions
E)counterintuitive thoughts

Question 43

Recent research has concluded that women talk more than men.

Question 44

The author of your textbook suggests that __________ is largely responsible for the level of body dissatisfaction in the United States.

A)education
B)family expectations
C)advertising
D)an emphasis on health
E)weight lifting

Question 45

What is a characteristic of a good lover?

A)He or she is not invested in having his or her own sexual needs met.
B)He or she is adept at employing overgeneralizations.
C)He or she is sensitive to a partner's needs.
D)He or she never engages in arguments with a partner.
E)All of these are true

Question 46

According to Tannen,women tend to use rapport talk while men use report talk.

Question 47

In the heat of the moment,Jeremiah tells his partner that if he doesn't do as he asks,he will pack all of his things and move out.In reality he would never actually leave.This is an example of:

A)defensiveness.
B)overkill.
C)a broken promise.
D)hyposensitivity.
E)a hedge.

Question 48

Which of the following is not a good suggestion for arguing fairly?

A)taking a time out
B)coming back to the argument at a later time
C)learning to compromise
D)validating each other's opinions
E)engaging in a nonconstructive communication pattern

Question 49

Neda says,"We never make love anymore." In reality,she and her partner have sex about twice a week,but this is less than they used to.Her statement is an example of

A)overkill
B)an overgeneralization
C)defensiveness
D)a disclaimer
E)a genderlect

Question 50

Women are better than men in decoding and translating nonverbal communication.

Question 51

According to communication experts,hedge words decreases the speaker's perceived assertiveness of speech.

Question 52

When we want to project an image with our message,we are focusing on the goal of getting the job done.

Question 53

Self-acceptance,autonomy,self-efficacy,resilience,and interest in others are all important components of:

A)intelligence.
B)physical safety.
C)spirituality.
D)self-esteem.
E)knowledge.

Question 54

Dating heterosexual couples are happiest when which the woman talks less than the man.

Question 55

An example of a hedge in conversation is,"isn't it?"

Question 56

What is overkill?

A)opening up,talking with your partner and sharing feelings in order to deepen intimacy
B)making statements that tend to exaggerate a particular issue
C)using tag questions and question statements during cyberspace communication
D)a mistake that couples make during arguments when one person threatens the worst but doesn't mean what is said
E)the problem of picking fights by incorporating emoticons and hedge words into conversations

Question 57

Genderlects refers to using negative and gender stereotyping words to win an argument.

Question 58

Men and women raised in individualist cultures have a greater concern for the feelings of those around them than those raised in other cultures.

Question 59

Gottman found that the ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions:

A)goes up as couples experience more distress.
B)goes down as couples experience more distress.
C)is about the same,regardless of level of distress.
D)is unrelated to level of distress.
E)cannot be measured in distressed couples.

Question 60

In the United States,we put a particularly high value on:

A)physical attractiveness.
B)accepting our bodies as they are.
C)being satisfied with less than perfect bodies.
D)being attractive while young,but not when old.
E)women who are of a healthy weight.

Question 61

Body positions,periods of silence,and sending flowers are examples of nonverbal communication.

Question 62

Verbal disagreements are generally considered to be harmful to a relationship.

Question 63

Sharing thoughts and feelings when communicating is known as self-centeredness.

Question 64

Emoticons are symbols such as smiley faces used to communicate in text messages.

Question 65

Gottman found that the ratio of positive interactions to negative interaction goes down as couples experience more distress.