Deck 10: Marriage and Communication in Intimate Relationships

Question 1

Which of the following comes from customs that symbolize the exchange of property or authority?

A)throwing a stag party
B)carrying the bride over the threshold
C)going on the honeymoon
D)tying shoes to the car bumper

Answer 1

D

Question 2

According to typologies invented by Cuber and Haroff,most marriages are

A)utilitarian
B)intrinsic
C)conflict-habituated
D)total

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Cuber and Haroff characterized conflict-habituated,devitalized and passive-congenial marriages as __________ marriages,because they appeared to be based on convenience.

A)utilitarian
B)intrinsic
C)exchange
D)passive

Answer 3

A

Question 4

The function of this rite of passage was for the groom to say goodbye to frivolities of bachelorhood while swearing his continued allegiance to his comrades,despite being married.

A)the stag party
B)the engagement party
C)the anniversary party
D)the wedding shower

Question 5

Which of the following is NOT one of the aspects of marital relations that contributes to success and stability?

A)compatibility
B)flexibility
C)conflict resolution
D)romantic bliss

Question 6

Marital __________ refers to whether a marriage is intact and whether the spouses have ever suggested divorce to each other.

A)health
B)stability
C)satisfaction
D)success

Question 7

In this type of marriage,partners participate in each other's lives at all levels and have few areas of tension or unresolved hostility.Spouses may even work together or share projects,friends,and outside interests.

A)total
B)vital
C)devitalized
D)passive-congenial

Question 8

Which of the following is NOT a reason some couples live in LAT (living apart together)relationships?

A)In China,rural husbands may move temporarily to work in urban areas while their wives stay with the land.
B)In some Scandinavian countries,some couples may move apart to save the relationship.
C)In many countries around the world,custom dictates that the couple live in separate houses.
D)In some Scandinavian countries,couples may move apart as a first step toward divorce.

Question 9

This type of marriage is established by partners who marry with low emotional investment and minimal expectations that do not change.Fairly independent,the partners achieve satisfaction from other relationships,such as those with their children,friends,and colleagues,and they maintain separate spheres of activities and interests.

A)vital
B)total
C)devitalized
D)passive-congenial

Question 10

Cuber and Haroff characterized vital and total marriages as __________ marriages,because the relationships seemed to be inherently rewarding.

A)utilitarian
B)intrinsic
C)vibrant
D)maximum

Question 11

After a man captured or bought a bride,he disappeared with her for a while,so that her family couldn't rescue her.By the time they found the couple,the bride would already be pregnant.This time of disappearance is known as the

A)engagement period.
B)stag party.
C)honeymoon.
D)bridal shower.

Question 12

The formalized recognition that a couple will marry is called a(n)

A)betrothal.
B)promise ring.
C)wedding shower.
D)engagement.

Question 13

In earlier times,this friend helped a man capture and kidnap a woman he desired.In a traditional wedding,this person is known as

A)the maid of honor.
B)the minister.
C)the ring bearer.
D)the best man.

Question 14

Which of the following is an accurate statement concerning American's self-reports of marital happiness?

A)Men report being less happily married than women.
B)Rates of marital satisfaction tend to be higher for African Americans than whites.
C)Marital happiness decreases when couples experience poverty,job loss,and financial problems.
D)People who were married in their teens tend to be happier than people who marry after age 20.

Question 15

This symbolizes the virginity of the bride.

A)something borrowed
B)the white wedding gown
C)the wedding ring
D)something blue

Question 16

Which of the following is NOT a function of engagements?

A)It sends a message to others to "keep their hands off"
B)It gives each partner a chance to become better acquainted with their future in-laws.
C)It provides an opportunity for premarital counseling.
D)It gives the couple the chance to strengthen their identities as individuals.

Question 17

This Anglo-Saxon word meant the groom's payment for the bride to her father,in other words,purchase of a woman.

A)wedd
B)marry
C)dowry
D)bride price

Question 18

The __________ was given to symbolize eternity.

A)wedding cake
B)stag party
C)bridal shower
D)engagement ring

Question 19

When Mike and Julie were first married,they spent much of their time together and had a strong,satisfying sex life.As time passed,they continued to spend time together-raising the children,entertaining,or meeting community responsibilities-but they did so out of a sense of obligation rather than out of joy.Make and Julie's marriage may best be characterized as

A)vital
B)conflict-habituated
C)devitalized
D)passive-congenial

Question 20

In this type of marriage,partners' lives are closely intertwined.They spend a great deal of time together,resolve conflict through compromise,and often make sacrifices for each other.They consider sex important and pleasurable.When a disagreement occurs,it is over a specific issue and is quickly resolved.

A)vital
B)conflict-habituated
C)total
D)passive-congenial

Question 21

Wives tend to be less healthy than husbands.Employed wives-especially those with children-are at especially high risk for

A)depression.
B)being overweight.
C)alcoholism.
D)diabetes.

Question 22

Which of the following statements about marriage and children is true?

A)Marital satisfaction tends to increase after a couple has children.
B)Marital satisfaction is not affected by having children if the marriage was already a good one.
C)Marital satisfaction tends to decrease after the couple has children.
D)Couples who marry before their out-of-wedlock child is born are less satisfied than couples who remain unmarried.

Question 23

Which of the following is NOT a part of what sociologist Susan Maushart calls "wifework"?

A)performing up to three-quarters of the unpaid household labor
B)assuming total responsibility for the husband's emotional caretaking
C)working outside the home to provide additional income to the family
D)maintaining the husband's extended family relationships

Question 24

If a wife earns more than her husband,

A)the husband is not likely to increase the amount of time he spends doing housework.
B)the husband is more likely to do most of the housework.
C)they will do an equal amount of housework.
D)she will usually do less housework than her husband.

Question 25

In which of the following situations will the wife get more household help from her husband?

A)if they have a lot of children
B)if she works long hours and has very young children
C)if he is unemployed and they have young children
D)if she is an educated,professional woman

Question 26

Mothers tend to be least satisfied with their marriages when

A)their husband try to take over the child care activities.
B)their husbands shirk their decision-making responsibilities.
C)they do most of the "emotional work" to develop or maintain intimacy.
D)they work outside the home.

Question 27

Which of the following is NOT one of the ingredients that seem to be present in a healthy marriage?

A)having similar personalities
B)recognizing and working at resolving problems and disagreements
C)maintaining high levels of romantic love
D)liking each other as a person and a good friend

Question 28

The one negative health factor for married men is that they tend to

A)have more depression.
B)have more mental illness issues.
C)be overweight.
D)be alcoholics.

Question 29

Married people are happier than unmarried people because

A)simply being married makes one happier.
B)marriage improves an already happy life.
C)they are financially better off.
D)romantic love improves their health.

Question 30

Which of the following is not one of the adjustments that couples must make in the early years of their marriage?

A)They must adjust to the new roles of wife and husband.
B)They must transition from "my" money to "our" money.
C)They must adjust to putting their relationship about others.
D)They must remember to take care of their individual needs.

Question 31

Wives tend to encourage behaviors that prolong life,such as their husbands' getting regular medical checkups.Consequently,the text observes that many married men enjoy "__________" because wives provide nurturing and companionship.

A)an ace in the hole
B)extra baggage
C)emotional capital
D)intimate vitamins

Question 32

The specific ways in which married couples define their behavior and structure their time are called marital

A)constructs.
B)roles.
C)schedules.
D)rituals.

Question 33

Which of the following is not a reason why there may be friction between female in-laws?

A)Women play a central role in family relationships.
B)American culture does not have clearly delineated roles for in-laws.
C)In-laws may refuse to help the new couple believing they should stand on their own.
D)The birth of a grandchild can cause tension over issues of child care.

Question 34

The process by which newly married partners modify their idealized expectations and deal with the realities of living together is called

A)identity bargaining.
B)growing up.
C)diminishing expectations.
D)role compromising.

Question 35

Which of the following statements concerning the empty nest syndrome is FALSE?

A)All parents experience depression and a lessened sense of well-being when their children leave home.
B)Many parents get a chance to relax and enjoy each other's company when the children leave home.
C)Both parents may experience a sense of freedom and easing of responsibility.
D)Marital satisfaction may improve because of the quality of time spent together after the children move out.

Question 36

When housework is unequal,the women who are the most likely to be unhappy or object are women who

A)spend few hours in the labor force.
B)make less money than their husbands.
C)view housework as boring.
D)endorse egalitarian attitudes about gender roles.

Question 37

Domestic work varies by a number of factors; which of the following is NOT one of these?

A)gender
B)presence of children
C)religiosity
D)life stage

Question 38

Some researchers claim that married people are healthier than their unmarried counterparts because healthy people are attracted to other healthy people and are more desirable marriage partners.This phenomenon is referred to as the __________ effect

A)protection
B)robust
C)emotional
D)selection

Question 39

"His and her marriage" refers to the notion that

A)men and women experience marriage differently.
B)marriages disintegrate into his and her marriages.
C)men and women experience marriage similarly.
D)married life increases the number of roles each partner plays.

Question 40

Which of the following is NOT included in the category of domestic work?

A)paid labor
B)outdoor work
C)home repairs
D)child rearing

Question 41

Which of the following illustrates "men's speech"?

A)"That must have been very difficult for you."
B)"I feel the same way sometimes."
C)"Were you glad it happened?"
D)"I'll need more information to make a decision."
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Question 42

__________ refers to discrete,isolated disagreements as well as chronic relationship problems.

A)Coercion
B)Conflict
C)Contempt
D)Communication

Question 43

Boomerang kids can have either a positive or a negative impact on their parents' marital life.For example,

A)co-residence is especially negative for parents on their first marriage because of the added stress of the situation.
B)marital satisfaction increases when a child returns home several times because the parents feel more needed.
C)marital satisfaction increases if the child interacts with the parents as little as possible.
D)marital satisfaction increases if the children can provide assistance,emotional support,advice,and companionship to the parents.

Question 44

Because self-disclosure is risky,many people

A)keep secrets from their partners.
B)tell a neutral third party first who can then tell the partner.
C)tell their partner as soon as possible so that their partner will not be hurt.
D)disclose important information but keep trivial secrets to avoid angering their partner.

Question 45

Which of the following is true?

A)Conflict in a marriage is not in and of itself a bad thing.
B)Conflict should be suppressed in marriages.
C)Actively addressing conflict tends to escalate the conflict.
D)Supportive and caring families hardly ever experience conflict.

Question 46

Which of the following types of support cam reduce a person's anxiety about troubling events or motivate people to change significant aspects of their lives?

A)esteem support
B)information support
C)instrumental support
D)motivational support

Question 47

When someone blames his/her partners for problems,implying that the partner should change and not him/her self,they are engaging in

A)the silent treatment.
B)scapegoating.
C)coercion.
D)contempt.

Question 48

As more spouses and partners collaborate in child rearing,

A)there are more opportunities for clashes.
B)disagreements over child rearing decrease.
C)couples tend to come to a common agreement over how to raise the children.
D)men resent having to make decisions about issues such as bedtimes or curfews.

Question 49

Sociologists define power as the ability to

A)lift heavy things.
B)impose one's will on others.
C)act in an intimidating way.
D)get an education.

Question 50

When a listener gives advice and guidance,she/he is giving __________ support.

A)esteem
B)information
C)instrumental
D)motivational

Question 51

In which technique of coping with conflict do partners find middle ground between their opposing positions,each partner giving a little?

A)accommodation
B)compromise
C)standoff
D)withdrawal

Question 52

Which of the following statements about retirement is true?

A)Retirement typically results in decreased marital satisfaction.
B)Retired couples have more conflicts and unresolved issues than younger couples.
C)Retirement usually produces a change in gender roles as husbands take on more domestic chores.
D)Retired couples typically have more time to enjoy each other's company.

Question 53

Which of the following is characteristic of "men's speech"?

A)It is often an end in itself.
B)It used to establish,enhance,or defend their personal status.
C)It is often laced with personal disclosures and anecdotes.
D)It is tentative.

Question 54

In which technique of coping with conflict does the conflict end when one person agrees with or goes along with the other?

A)accommodation
B)compromise
C)standoff
D)withdrawal

Question 55

Which of the following is not a goal of effective communication?

A)Telling the other how they are supposed to feel or behave.
B)Developing ways of interacting that are clear,nonjudgmental,and nonpunitive.
C)Resolving problems through problem solving.
D)Establishing an atmosphere of trust and honesty.

Question 56

Which of the following is characteristic of "women's speech"?

A)Women ask a number of questions that encourage conversation.
B)Women dominate conversations.
C)Women express themselves in absolutist ways
D)Women communicate in more abstract terms.

Question 57

Which issue is at the top of the list of the things couples fight about?

A)money
B)housework
C)children
D)sex

Question 58

Which of the following is not a common communication problem in relationships?

A)not listening
B)not responding to the issue at hand
C)too much self-disclosure
D)scapegoating

Question 59

When a listener gives encouragement,she/he is giving __________ support.

A)esteem
B)information
C)instrumental
D)motivational

Question 60

Telling another about oneself and one's thoughts and feelings with the expectation that truly open communication will follow is called

A)submission.
B)compromise.
C)self-disclosure.
D)negotiating.

Question 61

By age 34,the majority of U.S.adults have been married.

Question 62

Marital stability and marital satisfaction tends to be higher for those with a college education or higher.

Question 63

A majority of high school seniors,both girls and boys,say that having a good marriage and family is not important to them.

Question 64

The main reason most people get married is to have children.

Question 65

Consistently,men report being less happily married than women.

Question 66

The single greatest attraction of marriage is continuous,intimate companionship with a loved one.

Question 67

In which technique of coping with conflict do the disputants drop the argument without resolving it?

A)accommodation
B)compromise
C)standoff
D)withdrawal

Question 68

In a conflict-habituated marriage,the partners were deeply in love when they married but over time they stay married out of obligation rather than love.

Question 69

Marital satisfaction refers to whether a marriage is intact and whether the spouses have ever suggested divorce to each other.

Question 70

In which technique of coping with conflict does one disputant refuse to continue the argument,either by "clamming up" or by leaving the room?

A)accommodation
B)compromise
C)standoff
D)withdrawal

Question 71

Getting married for economic security is a good reason to marry.

Question 72

After marriage,personality may become increasingly important in maintaining a relationship.

Question 73

Using their typology,Cuber and Harroff determined that the majority of couples had utilitarian marriages,or marriages that appeared to be based on convenience.

Question 74

Prenuptial agreements only cover the couple's financial arrangements.

Question 75

Which of the following is one of the rules for fair fighting?

A)Use humor by laughing at your partner.
B)Avoid accusations and attacks.
C)Apologize for speaking directly.
D)Express anger indirectly rather than directly.

Question 76

One function of engagement is to give both partners a chance to become better acquainted with their future in-laws.

Question 77

In a passive-congenial marriage,the partners have a low emotional investment in the marriage and few expectations of each other.

Question 78

Which of the following is NOT a way to increase positive communication and decrease negative communication?

A)ask for information
B)express appreciation
C)make it kind
D)generalize

Question 79

Carrying the bride over the threshold originally symbolized the abduction of a daughter who would not willingly leave her father's house.

Question 80

Couples whose marriages begin in romantic bliss tend to do better over time than couples who start out as good friends.