Deck 7: Relationships, Intimacy, and Communication

Question 1

According to the ACBCE model, when couples seek ways to develop new aspects of their relationship, they enter a phase called

A)mutuality.
B)building.
C)continuation.
D)commitment.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

MacNeil and Byers(2009)found that those who talked to their partners about their sexual likes and dislikes

A)reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction.
B)had longer lasting relationships.
C)were more likely to have multiple partners.
D)were more sexually insecure.

Answer 2

A

Question 3

According to the ABCDE model, which stage of the relationship begins when two people find one another appealing?

A)continuation
B)building
C)attraction
D)excitement

Answer 3

C

Question 4

Following the breakup of a relationship, unwanted attention such as emails or phone calls is known as

A)surveillance.
B)obsessive compulsive syndrome.
C)deterioration patterns.
D)stalking.

Question 5

When a relationship starts to deteriorate, which of the following is not considered to be an active response?

A)seek professional help
B)improve communication skills
C)negotiate differences
D)avoid confrontational topics

Question 6

Self-disclosure is central to building

A)casual relationships.
B)intimate relationships.
C)trusting relationships.
D)lasting relationships.

Question 7

Which of the following does not predispose an individual to jealousy?

A)experience with former partners who cheated
B)a lack of self-confidence
C)fear of not being able to find another partner
D)a heterosexual orientation

Question 8

Exchanging information according to breadth of topic coverage but not depth is referred to as

A)self-disclosure.
B)surface contact.
C)evaluation.
D)small talk.

Question 9

Researchers have found gender differences in jealousy. Males seem to be most upset by ________, whereas females seem to be more upset by ________.

A)sexual infidelity; time spent away from home and family
B)emotional infidelity; sexual infidelity
C)sexual infidelity; emotional infidelity
D)sexual infidelity; a partner's lies

Question 10

Wentland, Muise, and Desmarais (2010)found that _____% of the undergraduates surveyed felt that men should pay the bill on a date.

A)71
B)65
C)86
D)95

Question 11

The second stage of the ABCDE model of relationships is

A)building.
B)bonding.
C)beginning.
D)balancing.

Question 12

Canadian research (MacNeil, 2004)on sexual disclosure found that

A)women placed a greater importance on nonsexual disclosure than did men.
B)men did not want to talk about their sexual likes and dislikes.
C)both men and women were equally concerned with nonsexual disclosure.
D)women considered sexual disclosure to be key to a satisfying sexual relationship.

Question 13

Which of the following is true regarding jealousy?

A)Jealousy is uncommon in some cultures.
B)Jealousy is more common among heterosexual couples than among gay couples.
C)Jealousy is common to all cultures.
D)Jealousy is more common among gay males than among lesbian women.

Question 14

It is an offence under the Criminal Code of Canada to create or distribute images that depict sexual activity or the sexual organ of a person under the age of _____.

A)16
B)18
C)21
D)14

Question 15

Research looking at jealousy and evolutionary theory indicates that females are made more insecure and angry when their partners

A)have sexual relations with someone else.
B)don't make a commitment even after a reasonable amount of time.
C)become emotionally attached to someone else.
D)refuse to have children with them.

Question 16

At what stage of the ABCDE model do relationships mature and evolve?

A)commitment
B)building
C)continuation
D)bonding

Question 17

The exchange of personal or intimate information is called

A)surface contact.
B)small talk.
C)self-disclosure.
D)the opening line.

Question 18

In studies investigating self-disclosure, researchers found that

A)self-disclosure is more difficult for women.
B)disclosing certain information too soon is a bad idea.
C)late disclosers were rated as guarded and cold.
D)self-disclosure is more difficult for men.

Question 19

Research from a cognitive theory perspective found that jealousy increased when infidelity was

A)caused by social pressures.
B)caused by substance use, e.g., alcohol.
C)through personal choice.
D)with the same sex partner.

Question 20

Research with Canadian undergraduates found that both men and women preferred to ask partners for a date

A)on Facebook.
B)in person.
C)via the internet.
D)via text message.

Question 21

What is not an exercise used by sex therapists to help couples with sexual dysfunction?

A)taking turns petting
B)audio stimulation
C)directing your partner
D)signalling

Question 22

In a Guelph University study (Cleary et al. 2002)of communication about sexual health issues, female students typically reported

A)that they were totally open with all partners.
B)that their partners encouraged discussion about sexual health issues.
C)that they did not discuss sexual health issues prior to sexual intercourse.
D)that they did not consider it important to discuss sexual issues with their partners.

Question 23

Skilled listening involves

A)repeating word-for-word what the other has said.
B)not letting your facial expression reveal your reactions.
C)active listening.
D)not asking questions of the other person.

Question 24

A core feature of intimacy is

A)honesty.
B)sexual attraction.
C)disclosure of past sexual experiences.
D)romantic love.

Question 25

Intimacy develops when an emotional bond, or ________, is developed.

A)compassion
B)respect
C)compatibility
D)caring

Question 26

A useful communication technique to use when discussing sexual matters with your partner is

A)paraphrasing.
B)self-disclosure.
C)signaling.
D)reinforcement.

Question 27

According to Sternberg, sexual involvement does not necessarily mean a relationship has

A)emotional intimacy.
B)commitment.
C)self-disclosure.
D)sexual intimacy.

Question 28

Studies on the frequency of sexual initiation by gender found that

A)more men than women initiated sexual activity.
B)more women than men initiated sexual activity.
C)men and women initiated sexual activity equally.
D)women who initiated sexual activity were more sexually satisfied.

Question 29

The first stage of mutual cyclical growth involves

A)the feeling that you need your partner, which promotes commitment to and dependence on the relationship.
B)your partner's perception of your pro-relationship acts.
C)your partner's feelings of trust, which increases his or her dependence on the relationship.
D)your commitment to the relationship, which encourages actions that are good for the relationship.

Question 30

When comparing the factors that lead to relationship satisfaction for heterosexual and gay populations, research shows that

A)communication is more important for gay couples.
B)similar factors exist for both gay and straight couples.
C)communication is more important for straight couples.
D)sharing power in the relationship is more important for gay couples.

Question 31

Which statement represents a common irrational belief about relationships and sex?

A)Men naturally know what to do to please their partners sexually.
B)Even in intimate relationships, partners need to discuss what pleases them.
C)Women will naturally let partners know what their sexual needs are.
D)Couples know that they must speak openly about sexual wants and needs.

Question 32

Which is true regarding intimacy?

A)People who are sexually involved are intimately involved.
B)Emotional intimacy does not always involve sexual intimacy.
C)Emotional intimacy is stronger between lovers than between friends.
D)Sexual intimacy is a necessary component of any emotionally intimate relationship.

Question 33

In healthy committed relationships,

A)couples spend the majority of their time together.
B)all decisions are joint decisions.
C)friends of each individual become friends of the "couple."
D)each partner maintains his/her individual interests and needs.

Question 34

What is a unique problem that gay couples may have to deal with in their relationships?

A)higher rates of infidelity
B)difficulties with sexual disclosure
C)social stigmatization
D)jealousy

Question 35

Which of the following questions is an example of a close-ended question?

A)What do you like best about the way we make love?
B)Do you want to make love with the lights off?
C)Does it bother you that I go to bed later than you?
D)What do you value most about our relationship?

Question 36

When looking at patterns of self-disclosure by Canadians regarding sexual activity, which of the following is true?

A)Men are much more open.
B)Men tend to be more tight-lipped.
C)There is very little gender difference.
D)Older individuals are more open.

Question 37

The statement, "There's something I need to talk about. Is now a good time?" represents a communication suggestion described as

A)signaling.
B)requesting permission to bring up a topic.
C)active listening.
D)reinforcement.

Question 38

When communicating about sexual matters, it is important to

A)not point out behaviour that you would like your partner to change.
B)limit the discussion to the bedroom.
C)choose the right time and place.
D)not admit that you find it difficult to discuss sexual topics.

Question 39

Both women and men indicate that the best way to initiate a new relationship is with

A)compliments on personal appearance.
B)candid self-disclosure.
C)nonverbal cues.
D)a direct opening line that signals interest.

Question 40

Researchers at Trent University found this trait to be a strong predictor of sexual communication.

A)general self-esteem
B)sexual self-esteem
C)sexual experience
D)superior verbal skills

Question 41

The process of mutual cyclical growth refers to the five stages of sexual development in a relationship.

Question 42

Self-disclosure in relationships is essential to developing intimacy.

Question 43

When looking at Canadians, which of the following is true regarding sexual initiation?

A)Men refused initiations to have sex proportionately as often as women.
B)Men initiated sex twice as often as did women.
C)Men considered initiated sex but did not do so more often than women.
D)Women accepted sexual initiations much less frequently than men.

Question 44

Research suggests that we should refrain from disclosing certain types of information too rapidly if we want to make a good impression on someone.

Question 45

Researchers have found that intimacy contributes to

A)self-esteem.
B)sexual satisfaction.
C)marital satisfaction.
D)physical well-being.

Question 46

Gay couples differ from heterosexual couples in that they

A)share household chores more evenly.
B)discuss sexual likes and dislikes more often.
C)aren't as possessive of each other.
D)share more common interests.

Question 47

If you are sexually intimate with a person, you are also emotionally intimate.

Question 48

Small talk is not a recommended method of starting a relationship.

Question 49

In a survey about rates of sexual disclosure among Canadians, ______% of those aged 18 and 19 years reported that they had disclosed to their friends.

A)94
B)75
C)86
D)62

Question 50

What percentage of Canadians is very comfortable asking a partner to try something new in their sexual relationship?

A)35%
B)45%
C)55%
D)65%

Question 51

Masturbation is one of the least disclosed sexual topics.

Question 52

Intimate relationships require each individual to disclose all of their past sexual experiences.

Question 53

People over the age of 50 are less comfortable asking their partners to try something new in their sexual relationships.

Question 54

Social exchange theory involves evaluating a relationship on a reward-cost basis.

Question 55

As couples age, _____________ becomes one of the most valued components of a relationship.

A)intimacy
B)sexual satisfaction
C)communication
D)trust

Question 56

Obsessive jealousy is not necessarily destructive in relationships.

Question 57

Females tend to get more upset by sexual infidelity than by emotional infidelity.

Question 58

What percentage of University of Guelph students reported they explicitly asked for sex when they wanted it?

A)25%
B)33%
C)50%
D)75%

Question 59

Creating and exchanging nude or semi-nude pictures of a person under the age of 21 is technically illegal in Canada.

Question 60

Patterns of interaction remain static during the continuation stage of a relationship.

Question 61

Do you agree that verbal sexual consent is necessary to obtain at every step of a sexual encounter? Explain.

Question 62

People over the age of 50 are more comfortable than younger people in asking their partners to try something new sexually.

Question 63

Identify and discuss what occurs in each stage the ABCDE model of relationships.

Question 64

Feelings of trust increase the willingness of the partners to concede that they need each other and the relationship.

Question 65

Accentuating the positive is one way of enhancing communication between partners.

Question 66

Assume that your partner is prepared to offer you some criticism regarding your recent behaviour. What suggestions should you consider as the receiver in order to enhance communication?

Question 67

The two most important ingredients of an intimate relationship are sexual involvement and honesty.

Question 68

What nonverbal techniques can couples use to enhance communication about sex?

Question 69

Assume that you are preparing to confront your partner about his/her recent behaviour. What suggestions should you consider as the sender in order to enhance communication?

Question 70

Women are more tight-lipped about sexual issues than men.

Question 71

Studies show that men are more reluctant than women to make commitments.

Question 72

Discuss the factors that make communication about sex difficult and offer suggestions that can help increase a couple's comfort level when communicating about sex.

Question 73

The majority of both men and women found it acceptable to ask someone for a date on Facebook.

Question 74

How can partners negotiate their need for intimacy with their need for personal development in the context of a relationship? Discuss issues related to individual need and togetherness.

Question 75

Discuss the use of communication technology in dating relationships. What are some of the benefits and drawbacks of using these technologies to form and develop relationships?

Question 76

A studied of married or cohabitating individuals found that men initiate sex twice as often as women do.