Deck 14: Healing the Hurt: Relationship Repair and Reconciliation

Question 1

What percentage of college student are involved in an on-again, off-again relationship?

A) over 2/3
B) about half
C) about a third
D) less than 10%

Answer 1

A

Question 2

The studies on jealousy and betrayal that are reported in your textbook suggest that:

A) satisfaction, investment, quality of alternatives, and commitment all lead directly to prosocial communication.
B) satisfaction, investment, and quality of alternatives lead to commitment, and commitment leads to prosocial communication.
C) satisfaction and investment lead to prosocial communication but quality of alternatives and commitment do not.
D) quality of alternatives and commitment lead to prosocial communication but satisfaction and investment do not

Answer 2

A

Question 3

According to Waldron and Kelley's research, _________________ is most likely when a transgression is serious.

A) explicit forgiveness
B) conditional forgiveness
C) minimization
D) discussion

Answer 3

B

Question 4

The term investment refers to:

A) how well your relational partner meets your expectations
B) resources that become attached to a relationship and would be lost if the relationship ended
C) the quality of potential relationships you could have with other people
D) how your relationship compares to the fictional relationships you see on T.V.

Question 5

____________________ behaviors involve standing by and letting conditions in a relationship get worse.

A) exit.
B) voice.
C) neglect.
D) loyalty.

Question 6

Costs of romantic relationships discussed in chapter 14 can include:

A) having to pay someone else's expenses.
B) giving up a job opportunity for the sake of the relationship.
C) Potential relationship transgressions.
D) all of the above

Question 7

Annabelle believes that Gordon has committed a relational transgression, but Gordon insists that he has "done nothing wrong" and that Annabelle is "making something out of nothing." Gordon's is using the strategy called:

A) metacommunication.
B) appeasement
C) refusal
D) relationship talk

Question 8

According to research cited in the text, forgiveness is most likely when:

A) people have low self-esteem.
B) revenge has taken place.
C) the relationship was previously rewarding.
D) the offender experiences guilt for what occurred.

Question 9

Which of the following individuals has a high quality of alternatives?

A) Gabriel, whose parents have a great relationship
B) Dominic, who would enjoy being on his own much more than being "stuck" in his current relationships
C) Jessica, who has several men attractive men pursing her
D) both Dominic and Jessica

Question 10

Independence theory and the investment model use the term outcome to refer to:

A) the ratio of rewards to costs in the relationship.
B) whether the relationship is terminated or not.
C) if people are generally happy or not in the relationship.
D) whether or not both partners achieve sexual satisfaction.

Question 11

According to the investment model, which of the following does NOT influence whether a person will work to save a troubled relationship

A) rewards
B) anger
C) satisfaction
D) quality of investments

Question 12

When people have good relational alternatives they

A) tend to be more committed to their relationships.
B) they tend to flirt more with many people.
C) they are less likely to tolerate abusive relationships
D) are often highly dependent on their partner.

Question 13

In the investment model of relationship-maintaining behavior, the idea of "derogating alternatives" means that people in committed relationships:

A) see their relationship as superior to the relationships of others.
B) seek positive alternatives for solving difficult problems.
C) find reasons to downgrade the attractiveness of potential partners.
D) only resort to the use of neglect or exit strategies when they have exhausted all the other alternatives.

Question 14

In Kelley and Waldron's research the most common strategy for communicating forgiveness was:

A) explicit forgiveness
B) conditional forgiveness
C) minimization
D) discussion

Question 15

Which of the following is NOT part of the definition of forgiveness:

A) acknowledging harmful conduct
B) undergoing an emotional transformation
C) repairing the relationship
D) extending undeserved mercy

Question 16

Dismissive individuals:

A) tend to dismiss negative feelings so they tend to be relationally successful.
B) value their independence over their relationships.
C) tend to be ignored or dismissed by others as potential partners.
D) all of the above

Question 17

One day at your job, you discover that one of your coworkers has told another coworker about your romantic relationship with a colleague. When you find out what happened and approach him about it, he says, "Everyone would have found out eventually anyway. It's not that bad." Which of the following remedial strategies has your coworker used?

A) refusal
B) apology/concession
C) appeasement
D) justification

Question 18

The term comparison level refers to:

A) how well your relational partner meets your expectations
B) resources that become attached to a relationship and would be lost if the relationship ended
C) the quality of potential relationships you could have with other people
D) how your relationship compares to the fictional relationships you see on T.V.

Question 19

According to the model of accommodation, when people encounter problems and become dissatisfied in their relationships, they:

A) make more investments into the relationship.
B) seek more attractive alternatives.
C) have a natural tendency to react with negativity.
D) have a natural tendency to accommodate their partner.

Question 20

In Rusbult's accommodation model, which strategy for coping with dissatisfying events is constructive and passive?

A) exit
B) voice
C) neglect
D) loyalty

Question 21

People communicate forgiveness in a variety of ways including:\

A) explicit forgiveness
B) minimization.
C) discussion
D) all of the above

Question 22

How does Facebook affect interpersonal relationships re to discuss relational initiation, maintenance, disengagement and reconciliation.

Question 23

Two people are most likely to become committed to each other when:

A) they are satisfied with the relationship
B) have low-quality alternatives
C) have made sizable investments.
D) all of the above

Question 24

Discuss how rewards and costs affect relationships in the interdependence or investment models. Do other factors also have an impact on relationships?

Question 25

Couples report several coping mechanisms that helped them deal with intercultural relational stressors:

A) maintenance of cultural gender roles.
B) maintaining humor about cultural differences.
C) trying to get their partner to be more multicultural.
D) emphasizing dissimilarities.
True / False

Question 26

Gay and lesbian couples report higher levels of satisfaction, contact, and emotional intimacy with their former partners than heterosexual couples.

Question 27

According to the investment model, what are the factors that predict whether a person will stay in or exit a relationship of these factors are strongest?

Question 28

The off-again part of romantic relationships tend to last around 1 to 2 months.

Question 29

Secure individuals are more likely than insecure individuals to use:

A) affection and assurances.
B) gloominess since they do not worry about relationship loss.
C) forms of communication that do not involve touch, like hugging and kissing.
D) often use neglect and negativity as strategies.

Question 30

Facebook may generally inhibits relational reconciliation and repair.

Question 31

Conditional forgiveness is the most common kind of forgiveness in dating relationships.

Question 32

Relationship stability is, to some extent, promoted when a relationship partner derogates alternative partners.

Question 33

According to the investment model, rewards, costs, the quality of alternatives, satisfaction, investments, and commitment all influence whether or not a person will work to save a troubled relationship.

Question 34

In both interdependence theory and the investment model, satisfaction is based on two things, sex and love.

Question 35

"Voice" means complaining excessively about relational problems.

Question 36

The investment model is an extension of Thibaut and Kelley's interdependence theory.

Question 37

Intercultural couples are:

A) becoming much less common in America.
B) usually have the same gender role expectations.
C) are subject to less outside pressure from relatives than single culture relationships.
D) often have very different philosophies about raising children.

Question 38

People usually make a clean break after breaking up, especially if they were in a long-term relationship and had a shared social network.

Question 39

Extrinsic investments are resources or benefits that are developed over time as a result of being in the relationship, such as material possessions.

Question 40

Reconnection with "lost" friends is one of the top three reasons why people use Facebook.

Question 41

Discuss the three types of insecure attachment: dismissive, preoccupied, and fearful. Indicate the positive and negative aspects of these three attachment styles on interpersonal relationships.

Question 42

Discuss the role of destructive behaviors in romantic relationships. Be sure to focus on both neglect and punishment in formulating your answer.