Deck 8: The Path to Commitment: Attraction, Dating, and the Experiences of Love

Question 1

The rituals associated with couple formation have changed dramatically over the past 60 years in most Western cultures.With this in mind,

A)Courtship as we knew it is virtually extinct.
B)Some people do continue the practice of courtship as a means of couple formation.
C)The primary means of couple formation is known as "hooking up."
D)Scientists predict that within 20 years almost all couple formations will stem from internet match-ups

Answer 1

B

Question 2

According to your text, if you wanted to witness a male only "beauty pageant" of sorts, in which men present themselves to unmarried women in hopes of being chosen by them, which of the following places should you seek?

A)The U.S: you are looking for the famous progressive Lutheran sect located on Mid-Atlantic coast who does this while celebrating the Spring Equinox.
B)An emergency room: you must need acute medical attention if you think this exists.
C)The continent of Africa: you are looking for a certain nomadic group called the Wodaabe, located in the country of Niger.
D)The closest television with cable: it is a new reality show on Lifetime Television.

Answer 2

C

Question 3

Sexual selection is an important step in the process of

A)natural selection.
B)eliminating mates who are already partnered from the dating pool.
C)animal husbandry.
D)All of the above.

Answer 3

A

Question 4

What does social exchange theory have to do with interpersonal attraction?

A)It explains the importance of the process for each person in terms of cash resources.
B)It explains the importance of the process for each person in terms of motivations to act.
C)It explains how the process through which people move from one mate to another.
D)All of the above.

Question 5

What advantage is gained by someone who "wins" sexual selection?

A)They obtain a viable mating partner.
B)They have a chance to out-reproduce their competitors.
C)They avoid missing out of a partner in the limited mating pool.
D)All of the above

Question 6

According to recent surveys, which of the following, if any, qualities do women find particularly attractive in a potential male mate?

A)openness
B)earning potential
C)well defined musculature
D)None of the above.

Question 7

According to evolutionary theory, the main goal of mate selection is

A)To develop a long lasting emotional bond.
B)To choose someone as similar to yourself as possible.
C)To increase our opportunities for reproductive success.
D)To ensure a future without financial struggle.

Question 8

What is exogamy?

A)The idea that we must marry outside of certain groups, like close cousins.
B)The idea that some people never get over a particular ex-mate though they are in new relationships.
C)The idea that some people have affairs with their most recent exes while partnered with someone new.
D)The idea that some relationships produce more external social friction than others.

Question 9

In brief, heterogamy is the way to describe partners who are

A)in plural committed relationships.
B)both monogamous and heterosexual.
C)both unfaithful and heterosexual.
D)dissimilar in some way, such as race, age, or religions.

Question 10

Homogamy refers to

A)the tendency to inadvertently marry people who look like ourselves.
B)the tendency to be attracted to people with whom we have a lot of different qualities in common.
C)the practice of same sex marriage.
D)the practice of choosing to satisfy oneself sexually without a partner.

Question 11

Most recent studies of the perception of female body image agree that

A)Men prefer women to be as thin as possible, in keeping with our popular culture's depiction of women.
B)Men are much harder on women when rating female bodies than women are.
C)Women are much harder on women when rating f3male bodies than men are.
D)Women tend to think that men want them to be curvier than they actually are.

Question 12

From an evolutionary perspective, what do women want most when searching for a mate?

A)The highest quality reproductive partner possible
B)Men who appear to be quite muscular
C)Men who appear to be needy
D)Both A and B are correct.

Question 13

According to recent surveys, when it comes to the importance of traits such as emotional stability and commitment to marriage and family,

A)Women rate these higher than men rate them.
B)Men rate these higher than women rate them.
C)Both women and men rate these very highly.
D)Neither women nor men rate these as being concerns at the start of a relationship.

Question 14

According to your text, the filter theory of mate selection may be useful when trying to understand how

A)people find long term relationships that start as online interactions.
B)most relationships are formed solely on the principles of reproductive fitness.
C)some seemingly incompatible people are able to form long lasting relationships.
D)None of the above

Question 15

From an evolutionary perspective, what do men want most when searching for a mate?

A)As many reproductive partners as possible
B)Women who physically appear to be fertile
C)Women who appear to be needy
D)Both A and B are correct.

Question 16

Which of the following is the most accurate statement about the principles of social exchange theory?

A)People are motivated to stay in relationships as long as the costs never outweigh the benefits.
B)People will tolerate short term lack of balance between costs and benefits if they are balanced in the long run.
C)There is always one person who gets virtually all of the benefits and pays none of the costs in a relationship.
D)Most people rate different traits and actions as having comparable costs or benefits in a relationship.

Question 17

Which of the following is not listed as a major consideration according to the filter theory of mate selection?

A)propinquity
B)physical attraction
C)reciprocity
D)monogamy

Question 18

According to your text, sexual selection is

A)A tactic used by matchmakers to predict good matches for clients.
B)Something that happens naturally in virtually all cases.
C)Defined by the struggles of individuals of one sex to possess those of the other sex.
D)A and C only.

Question 19

Propinquity refers to

A)social distance preferred during close conversation.
B)arranged relationships at the turn of the 20th century in America.
C)geographic closeness.
D)modern day arranged marriages.

Question 20

According to your text, it is traditional for the process of choosing a marital partner to be a family decision.This is primarily because

A)Islamic culture is so gender segregated that marriages are seen as a formality, and therefore it is not important for mates to be compatible or feel romantic.
B)parents have the right to impose their will on their children, no matter what their wishes.
C)the institution of marriage is seen as too important to leave out the family as part of the decision making process, especially because they are less influenced by romantic feelings.
D)None of the above.

Question 21

All aspects of life as a young adult college student have changed over the past 50 years.Recent studies seeking to see whether heterosexual expectations of dating experiences have stayed the same found that

A)Role scripts have also changed dramatically.
B)Women are no longer perceived as the "gatekeepers" of sexual contact.
C)Most men no longer expect to be the initiators of dating activity.
D)Most men had higher expectations of sexual activity than women did.

Question 22

According to your text, out of the following combinations of people who are dating, who is most likely to value friendship before dating?

A)Gay men
B)Straight women
C)Lesbian women
D)Bisexual men

Question 23

Which of the following most accurately describes "dating scripts?"

A)Notes made by well meaning friends and given to one going on a big date to make sure s/he has ways to keep the conversation from lagging.
B)Rules set by matchmakers for dates arranged by them.
C)Rules and conventions we internalize about how dates should happen.
D)A prescriptive arrangement made so that each person knows who will be paying for the date, to avoid awkwardness during the actual outing.

Question 24

Recent neurobiological research has found that the feeling of love is

A)completely illogical and difficult to trace in the brain.
B)physiologically similar to a hallucinogenic experience.
C)probably attributable to the release of a group of hormones.
D)None of the above.

Question 25

Which of the following, if any, is a major advantage to online dating compared to traditional dating, as noted in your text?

A)It opens up geographical possibilities.
B)It allows you to carefully construct a persona that may not be consistent with who you are currently.
C)You can fall in love before even seeing someone.
D)None of the above.

Question 26

What is the purpose of proposing internet dating guidelines for people to follow?

A)They provide information for interaction in a realm without existing behavior scripts.
B)They may increase the safety of face to face meetings with someone you met on the internet.
C)There are predators on the internet and we must minimize the danger of interacting with them online.
D)All of the above.

Question 27

It is easier for some to ______ over the internet than it is in face to face interactions.

A)disclose personal information
B)hold a relaxed conversation
C)explore alternative ways of sexual expression
D)All of the above.

Question 28

Which of the following, if any, are consistent with current research on role scripts among non-heterosexual couples?

A)There has been a lot of research done in this area.
B)Their dating scripts tend to mirror completely the dating scripts of heterosexuals
C)Their dating scripts tend to veer off in some ways from the dating scripts of heterosexuals
D)None of the above.

Question 29

Passionate love is ____________________ in long-term loving relationships.

A)present for the long run
B)mostly present after long partnerships
C)mostly present at the beginning of partnerships
D)largely irrelevant

Question 30

According to your text, _____________ tend to stress physical attraction over emotional aspects early in the relationship.

A)Straight men.
B)Non-heterosexual men.
C)Straight women.
D)A & B are both true.

Question 31

John Allen Lee's theoretical conceptualization of multiple types of love is similar to ideas expressed historically by the people of which culture?

A)Romans.
B)Greeks.
C)Early Christians.
D)Ancient Pagans.

Question 32

_______ forms of dating can lead to cohabitation or marriage.

A)Casual (e.g., hooking up)
B)Contemporary
C)None of the above
D)A & B only

Question 33

____________ are quickly replacing bars as the default route to meeting available single people.

A)Churches
B)House parties
C)Online interactions
D)Flash mobs

Question 34

Which of Lee's types of love would be most consistent with the principles of social exchange theory as it applies to relationships?

A)Ludus
B)Storge
C)Pragma
D)None of the above.

Question 35

Which of the following are documented examples of cyberstalking mentioned in your text?

A)Attempting to gain private information about the victim.
B)Encouraging others to attack the victim through the stalker's self-presentation as a false victim.
C)Meeting them under a false identity in person to get revenge for the online conflict.
D)A & B only

Question 36

What does your text say is the main difference between dating and courting?

A)Dating is for groups; courting is for pairs.
B)Dating is for pairs; courting is for groups.
C)Dating leads to marriage; courting is more recreational.
D)Dating is more recreational; courting leads to marriage.

Question 37

_____ is a kind of love characterized by sensuality or sexual love.

A)Agape
B)Storge
C)Eros
D)None of the above.

Question 38

Which of the following does your text mention as a commonly chosen activity for a date?

A)Cooking dinner at home.
B)Playing sports.
C)Going to see a movie.
D)Going out for drinks.

Question 39

For which of the following groups, if any, values emotional intimacy more quickly and more intensely in dating relationships?

A)Straight women
B)Gay men
C)Lesbian women
D)A & C only

Question 40

Jealousy, envy and the desire for exclusivity are characteristics of _____ love.

A)Eros.
B)Storge.
C)Manic.
D)Agape.

Question 41

There are reputable scholars and clinicians who believe that love is not an appropriate basis for a successful marriage.

Question 42

According to your text, which of the following are qualities associated with jealousy?

A)Emotional reactions to the perception of a relationship threat.
B)Real threats to the relationship only.
C)Intense consummate love.
D)All of the above

Question 43

Most studies on dating scripts find that women are responsible for keeping the conversation flowing during the date.

Question 44

Courtship rituals are meant to initiate couples into the process of lifelong commitment.

Question 45

Script theory argues that each of us use scripts to help us organize the expected information we need for different environments.

Question 46

Based on the details contained in Lee's typology, which kind of love relationship might pose the most challenging or troublesome situation during a breakup?

A)Agape
B)Eros
C)Manic
D)Pragma

Question 47

What is Sternberg's Triangle of Love?

A)A theory about couples having trouble with an over-involved outsider.
B)A model of how love travels through three stages over time.
C)A model of the three different components of love.
D)None of the above.

Question 48

Companionate love is characterized by which of the following?

A)Gradual growth over time.
B)Deep knowledge of your partner.
C)Knowing the best and worst of your partner and liking them anyway.
D)All of the above.

Question 49

According to your text, the filter theory of mate selection may be useful when trying to understand how some seemingly incompatible people are able to form long lasting relationships.

Question 50

According to your text, what is the primary difference between passionate and companionate love?

A)One is doomed, and the other is typically successful
B)One is seldom seen outside of popular culture, and the other is seen in "real life."
C)One is more characteristic of the beginning of relationships, and the other is seen when they endure.
D)A and B only.

Question 51

It is perfectly safe to interact with people you meet online, as long as you Google them before you meet them to check for questionable activity.

Question 52

Which of the following types of love proposed by Lee tend to be seen reliably regardless of cultural contexts?

A)Storge, Eros and Agape
B)Mania, Eros and Agape.
C)Ludus, Eros and Agape.
D)Both B and C are true.

Question 53

Which of the following types of love proposed by Lee tend to be expressed very differently depending on cultural contexts and values?

A)Agape, Storge and Ludus
B)Eros, Storge and Ludus
C)Pragma, Storge and Ludus
D)Both A and C are true.

Question 54

Passionate love tends to feel intoxicating and overwhelming and resembles what we see depicted as love in much of Western popular culture.

Question 55

The central emotion behind jealousy is love.

Question 56

What are Sternberg's three components of consummate love?

A)Intimacy, self-maintenance, and commitment
B)Intimacy, selflessness and commitment.
C)Selflessness, passion and commitment.
D)Intimacy, passion and commitment.

Question 57

Exogamy is the idea that certain groups marry within those same groups, like Catholics marrying Catholics, or Muslims marrying Muslims.

Question 58

Which of the following findings of research on the likelihood of male partners' verbal expressions of love in heterosexual relationships is factual?

A)Men tend to say "I love you" first.
B)Women tend to say "I love you" first.
C)Men tend to say "I love you" to increase the likelihood of sex.
D)A and C only.

Question 59

According to your text, which of the following statements about recent research is accurate?

A)Love that lasts involves accepting your partner as s/he is now.
B)Sexual desire is an important component of long lasting love
C)Long lasting love requires the desire to put your mate's well being above your own.
D)All of the above.

Question 60

Much more research is needed on the ways in which non-heterosexual couples initiate and form relationships.

Question 61

Describe some of possible differences in the ways that men and women view love and sex.Include a comment about an area in which you would like to see more research.

Question 62

Please explain how our families of origin and our past relationships can each influence the way in which we experience jealousy.

Question 63

Please define jealousy and stalking.Explain the main differences and commonalities between them.

Question 64

Using Sternberg's theory, please explain why part of your concern for the well-being of your loved one should be avoiding anything that hurts him or her.What if there is something that hurts your partner but not yourself? What reaction would Sternberg's theory predict?

Question 65

What do people do after a breakup? Please include the idea that there may be a mourning period involved.

Question 66

What is a relational transgression? What are some of the consequences such transgressions might result in for intimate relationships?

Question 67

If someone perceives a threat that makes them jealous, does it matter whether the threat is real or imagined? Why or why not?

Question 68

What is one of the most common barriers to love that impacts your ability to meet your partner's needs? How might someone end up with this problem?

Question 69

What are the two major categories of reactions to breaking up? Please define and discuss them.

Question 70

Discuss some of the things you can do to constructively cope with a breakup.Include mention of the signs that would let you know it is time to seek outside support to cope.

Question 71

What are the three phases that tend to follow a breakup, especially according to the research on college students? Please give an example of how one might act out each one.

Question 72

Briefly discuss the main research findings as to whether there are differences between men and women and their ability to engage in sexual activity with little or no emotional attachment to the sexual partner.Please give your opinion as to the validity and possible reasons for the findings.
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Question 73

According to your text, how often do most stalkers attempt to contact their victims? Why might this be?

Question 74

Can people do something that makes them effectively ineligible for a relationship despite their dating status? If so, what is it? How could someone avoid doing this?

Question 75

What is it about jealousy that makes it very difficult to research and understand comprehensively?