Deck 12: Stress and Conflict in Relationships

Question 1

Describe ways in which you can become more assertive.

Answer 1

NO Answer

Question 2

John Gottman can observe the way couples communicate, even for just a few minutes, and can predict with 90% accuracy whether the relationship will last or not. He identified four "relationship killers." Which one did he not mention?

A)defensiveness and blaming
B)stonewalling, withdrawal, and passivity
C)contempt, name calling, and mockery
D)financial conflicts and infidelity
E)criticism and verbal attacks

Answer 2

D

Question 3

Which are the four steps involved in an effective form of assertive communication known as DESC?

A)describe, explain, specific, collaborate
B)describe, express, specify, consequences
C)defer, explain, specify, collaborate
D)defer, express, state, collaborate

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Which of the following is not an assertiveness skill?

A)Explain or justify yourself, if obligated to do so.
B)Set rules.
C)Learn to say no.
D)Convey assurance.
E)Ask for what you want.

Question 5

What is the best definition of assertiveness?

A)ability to stand up for one's rights without trampling those of anyone else
B)ability to attack those who infringe one's rights
C)tendency to claim what is not yours
D)tendency to be shy and passive

Question 6

The exercise "In a 100 years" is used when

A)you want to look into the future.
B)you are feeling most out of control.
C)you want to reflect on your successes.
D)you want to compare yourself with a person whom you are in conflict with.
E)you need to set goals for the future.

Question 7

What game did Axelrod devise in which participants had to figure out the best way to "win" without sacrificing their own best interests?

A)truth or dare
B)truth or consequences
C)win or lose
D)tit for tat
E)prisoner's dilemma

Question 8

Which of the following is not an example of mindful communication?

A)mindful observation
B)acting with awareness
C)acting without judgment
D)resorting to reflexive habits

Question 9

Listening carefully to what was said, decoding the deep meaning of the message, and reflecting back what was heard by focusing on the underlying feelings are steps to which technique of communication?

A)reflection of feeling
B)actively listening
C)nonverbal attending
D)reflection of content
E)paraphrasing

Question 10

Which technique might be used by an active listener?

A)interrupting the speaker
B)paraphrasing the speaker's meaning
C)offering a point of view often when in conversation
D)expressing concerns

Question 11

In spite of the accompanying misery associated with arguments and overt hostility, there is some good that comes out of it. What are the constructive functions of conflict? Explain.

Question 12

Describe strategies that would be helpful for managing conflict.

Question 13

What does it mean to respond reflectively?

Question 14

Discuss how mindful communication skills can be deployed to resolve conflicts.

Question 15

Describe ways in which you can improve your relationship skills.

Question 16

Resolving relationship conflicts involves several steps, with each step requiring the individual to look inward rather than outward. List the six steps and give a brief explanation of each.

Question 17

Describe ways in which individuals can prevent sexual assaults.

Question 18

Understand and describe the functions of conflict.

Question 19

Describe seven myths and misunderstandings about conflict.

Question 20

Which of the following best describes reasons that date rapes occur?

A)miscommunication
B)drug or alcohol abuse
C)Rape myths and attitudes
D)all of the above

Question 21

All communications carry a concrete and obvious message known as:

A)superficial.
B)literal.
C)practical.
D)contextual.
E)surface.

Question 22

The statement "you're always late" should be changed into which statement to create more effective communication?

A)I am not happy when you're late for our appointments.
B)You don't respect my time when you're late for our appointment.
C)You ought to be on time.
D)You should keep your word when you agree to an appointment.

Question 23

Kiecolt-Glaser, Bane, Glaser, and Malarkey (2003) found that those who were experiencing conflict had elevated levels of which stress hormones as a result of the interpersonal stress?

A)serotonin and ACTH
B)dopamine
C)norepinephrine and epinephrine
D)GABA

Question 24

Which of the following is a true statement about research on relationships?

A)Conflicted relationships will create negative physiological symptoms and that mutually supportive relationships will moderate the negative effects.
B)Men are more likely than women to be more emotionally aroused and responsive during conflicts.
C)Men are the ones who most often manifest the overt symptoms of stress
D)in a relationship.
E)All of the above.

Question 25

Mindful observation is an effective communication skill that refers to attending only to internal phenomena such as thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations.

Question 26

One of the major predictors of divorce in a marriage is not the presence of conflict but its avoidance.

Question 27

The use of "I" during conflicts should be avoided, as it reflects control and egotism

Question 28

One research study found that husbands failing to respond to their wives' overtures for some type of interaction (i.e., "I'm busy now" or "I wasn't listening") resulted in over 80% divorce rate.

Question 29

Deep listening means to listen with focused attention and to give clear, well thought-out verbal responses back to the person whom you are listening to.

Question 30

Conflicts are always harmful to individuals.

Question 31

Which of the following is not a function of conflict?

A)power and control
B)attention-getting
C)promoting reflection and growth
D)promoting cohesion
E)regulating distance

Question 32

Which of the following is a conflict-resolution skill?

A)active listening skill
B)passive listening skill
C)avoiding the issue
D)accommodating

Question 33

Reflective listening can be useful in:

A)keeping individuals from defending themselves.
B)letting the person know that he/she has been heard.
C)encouraging deeper and more intimate explorations.
D)all of the above.

Question 34

Nonverbal cues affect the effectiveness of interpersonal communication. Which of the following is not a nonverbal cue?

A)choice of words
B)facial expression
C)tone of voice
D)body language

Question 35

Any unwelcome sexually related action that interferes with work performance is known as:

A)sexual misconduct.
B)rape.
C)sexual harassment.
D)molestation.

Question 36

Which of the following best describes sexual harassment?

A)sexual innuendos
B)sexual assaults
C)sexual advances from a superior
D)all the above are examples

Question 37

Which of the following categories of individuals are the most common perpetrators of sexual violence on college campuses?

A)stalkers
B)strangers
C)acquaintances
D)spouses

Question 38

According to the U.S. Department of Justice, a woman is sexually assaulted in the United States every ____ minutes.

A)two
B)ten
C)thirty
D)forty-five
E)sixty

Question 39

Which of the following is the least likely consequence of avoiding a conflict?

A)Resentment will build.
B)The issue will reappear in a different conflict.
C)The relationship will suffer.
D)The conflict will never occur.

Question 40

Which statement is a true statement about personal conflict?

A)conflicts are only about the present
B)conflicts are almost always interactive struggles
C)conflicts involve those visible participants
D)conflicts are always detrimental to our growth
E)conflicts often result from one person's faults

Question 41

Conflict occurs when people we have to choose between competing motives, behaviors, or impulses.