Deck 8: Listening and Relationship Building Friends and Romance

Question 1

In her career choices, Pilar desires to be a part of "something bigger than herself" so she can contribute to the larger whole. Pilar's desire demonstrates which of the following?

A) An external quality
B) An extrinsic quality
C) An intrinsic attribute
D) An intimacy attribute

Answer 1

C

Question 2

All of the following are considered fundamental characteristics of friendships, EXCEPT:

A) equality.
B) familiarity.
C) reciprocity.
D) voluntarily.

Answer 2

D

Question 3

In early childhood friendships, the word "friend" is most likely used to indicate

A) equality.
B) familiarity.
C) reciprocity.
D) creativity.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Friendships in children 5-8 years old are likely to be based on behaviors demonstrating

A) helpfulness.
B) proximity.
C) familiarity.
D) aggressiveness.

Question 5

Your 10-year-old cousin Mariah will tend to prefer playing with ________ groups, while her twin Marvin will prefer ______ groups.

A) smaller; larger
B) larger; smaller
C) medium-sized; larger
D) there is no difference in group size

Question 6

Emotional intelligence appears to develop at which age range?

A) 3-4 years
B) 5-7 years
C) 8-12 years
D) 13-15 years

Question 7

Listening is important as adolescent friendships develop because at that stage, adolescents are learning

A) to identify their emotions.
B) to be more competitive.
C) about relational maintenance.
D) to understand emotional differences between friends.

Question 8

Of the following strategies, which is most often used to maintain adult romantic relationships?

A) Avoidance
B) Assurance
C) Openness
D) Joint Activities

Question 9

Lydia opens conversation with a man beside her by saying, "Your legs must be tired because you have been running through my mind." Based on research on opening lines, which of the following would most accurately describe the man's reaction?

A) The man would tell Lydia to move.
B) The man would be threatened by Lydia.
C) The man would feel flattered by Lydia.
D) The man would marry Lydia.

Question 10

Esther mentions some details about her parents to her date. She expects that her date will also reveal some family details. Esther's expectations are guided by

A) Grice's concept of quantity.
B) Grice's concept of reciprocity.
C) Segrin's concept of readiness to listen.
D) Segrin's concept of intimacy.

Question 11

Salina is upset with her friend Raul. She purposely chooses to call rather than text him about how she feels. Salina's choice of medium is based in part on its

A) communication convenience.
B) communication expectations.
C) communication affordance.
D) communication allowance.

Question 12

If two people are "involved daters," which of the following is also true of the relationship?

A) Positive verbal messages are the focus of the relationship.
B) Nonverbal messages are a focus of the relationship.
C) Daters work less to communicate at the involved stage.
D) Confusing messages are not an issue at this stage.

Question 13

After her partner discloses information about a conflict at work Margo says, "I think what you are saying is important, and you really do have a point. I'd like to hear more." Margo is demonstrating

A) responsiveness.
B) hostility.
C) reciprocity.
D) suggestiveness.

Question 14

Ari does not realize that Gene's heavy sighs during conversation are a sign of frustration, and
Gene does not understand that Ari looking down at the floor signals that Ari is tired of the conversation. The misunderstandings of Ari and Gene in this situation are called

A) silent reciprocity.
B) decoding deficits.
C) avoidance.
D) vulnerabilities.

Question 15

The impressions that we form of others is called

A) mutual commitment.
B) verbal assurance.
C) indirect disclosure.
D) social perception.

Question 16

Boundary management addresses

A) the lines of communication that cause conflict in married couples.
B) the decisions we make about what information to share with others.
C) how often people might cross boundaries when using opening lines.
D) listening goals that committed partners agree to work toward.

Question 17

Which of the following is true of maintaining marital stability?

A) Positive and negative behaviors should equalize.
B) Two positive behaviors cancel out one negative behavior.
C) Five positive behaviors are recommended for each negative behavior.
D) Ten positive behaviors are recommended for each negative behavior.

Question 18

Which marital conflict style is the most regulated?

A) Conflict Engagers
B) Avoiders
C) Hostile
D) Hostile Detached

Question 19

You are dating someone from an individualistic culture. Which of the following best describes your partner's self-disclosure?

A) You are likely to hear little self-disclosure.
B) You are likely to hear about your partner's accomplishments.
C) You are likely to hear about your partner's extended family.
D) You are likely to hear less about your displays of affection.

Question 20

The relationship functions of maintaining liking, conflict resolution, and emotional support were suggested by scholars

A) Fitch-Hauser and Worthington
B) Blake and Mouton
C) Wolvin and Coakley
D) Dindia and Timmerman

Question 21

Mollie's dating script is as follows: The man asks her out on a date, plans the date, and picks her up for the date. If Mollie's date violates her script, research covered in the text suggests she will do which of the following?

A) Mollie will not go on the date.
B) Mollie will view the relationship less positively.
C) Mollie will appreciate the unpredictability.
D) Mollie will change her script.

Question 22

Children in a classroom are more likely to talk, smile, and laugh with friends than with other classmates.

Question 23

Friendships generally possess three characteristics: equality, proximity, and being voluntary.

Question 24

Boys tend to have fewer close friends than girls.

Question 25

Boys tend to have lower levels of intimacy in their friendships than girls.

Question 26

It is better to be humorous in an opening line than to be direct.

Question 27

Most members of mainstream culture in North America have similar dating scripts.

Question 28

It is possible to self-disclose too much.

Question 29

One suggestion for maintaining intimacy is to avoid using pet-names.

Question 30

Happily married couples tend to view their partners as more positive communicators than the partner views him or herself.

Question 31

According to Wolvin, Coakley, and Halone, children and adolescents equally acknowledge their roles in listening.

Question 32

In middle childhood friendships, boys tend to focus on developing same-sex friendships, while girls focus on being inclusive.

Question 33

Self-esteem affects how adolescents listen.

Question 34

Grice's maxim of reciprocity indicates that if one person initiates and plans a date, the other person should talk the most on the date.

Question 35

Relational maintenance is only needed if the relationship is in conflict.

Question 36

Doing favors and giving gifts are direct routes to escalating a relationship.

Question 37

The more serious a relationship gets, the more important nonverbal communication becomes.

Question 38

Borisoff and Hahn find that in adult relationships, men prefer discussing the details of a problem while women prefer communicating to solve the problem.

Question 39

Mason is wondering if he should tell his partner that he has applied for a job several states away. By wondering about this disclosure, Mason is in conflict withdrawal.

Question 40

Ziva is comfortable addressing issues with her husband, but she struggles to listen in response, making Ziva's conflict style avoidance.

Question 41

Poor listening is associated with greater marital instability.

Question 42

Most people value __________ qualities more in romantic relationships than in friendships.

Question 43

In friendships among 5- to 8-year-olds, __________ prefer groups, while __________ prefer working in dyads.

Question 44

Facebook would be considered a ________ medium of disclosure.

Question 45

One strategy for maintaining adult friendships, __________, is shown through self-disclosure.

Question 46

According to research, the most common dating problem is __________.

Question 47

__________ are verbal and non-verbal messages that do not match.

Question 48

Lucy scratches her husband's prize sports car pulling it out of the garage. Lucy wonders if she should tell her husband about the damage, or try to get it repaired without telling him what happened. Lucy's dilemma is one of ____________________.

Question 49

In early childhood friendships, a child uses the word friend to indicate proximity and
__________.

Question 50

"Do you believe in love at first sight?" is an example of a(n) ____________________.

Question 51

Two people have different expectations for what should happen during a first date. When these dating __________ are violated, they will likely have an awkward date.

Question 52

________________ refers to what goal we can reach with a particular communication medium.

Question 53

While relational researchers have different definitions for the term, addressing conflict, making sure partners are satisfied with the relationship, and keeping a relationship developing are parts of ____________________.

Question 54

Wiley is not involved with one specific partner, making him a(n) __________ dater.

Question 55

Charlotte's and Simon's relationship is in trouble. They tend to see every message the other sends in a negative light. They are very likely experiencing _________________.

Question 56

Fitzpatrick refers to the types of conversations that occur at the end of the day, or over dinner, or about every day routines, as __________ conversations.

Question 57

Indirect vulnerable disclosures are often used in a relationship when one partner is looking for support and understanding of his or her __________.

Question 58

The typology of marital conflict styles includes conflict engagers, hostile, hostile detached, and __________.

Question 59

Jacob's partner blames Jacob for housework not getting done, and Jacob attacks his partner regarding who should walk the dog. In terms of ratio of positive to negative behaviors, this couple could be described as __________.

Question 60

What are the three fundamental characteristics that friendships generally possess?

Question 61

How does the focus of friendship differ between very young children and children ages 5-8?

Question 62

In middle childhood, the differences between popular children and other children are often attributed to Emotional IQ. Describe how researchers see emotional intelligence demonstrated in popular children.

Question 63

According to Chris Segrin, how can relationships affect friendships?

Question 64

Distinguish between nondirected and directed mediums of self-disclosure. Be sure to give an example of each.

Question 65

Describe four strategies we can use to build friendships with others.

Question 66

What are intrinsic attributes, and how are they valued in friendships and relationships?

Question 67

According to research, how do men and women typically respond to the opening line?

Question 68

How might scripts affect one's dating relationships?

Question 69

Dindia and Timmerman suggest several relationship maintenance functions. List the five functions addressed in this chapter.

Question 70

Describe the two suggestions by Borisoff and Hahn for improving listening in close relationships. Provide examples of how they might work in a close relationship.

Question 71

You are trying to determine if two people you just met are in a committed relationship. Describe at least four research-based communication behaviors that are commitment indicators.

Question 72

Marriage therapist John Gottman claims that he can tell within five minutes whether or not a couple will remain together. What does he do or observe to make this determination?

Question 73

Which two of Grice's maxims are important to remember with regards to self-disclosure?

Question 74

According to Professors Roberts and Greenberg, how can one show validation in a relationship? Identify and describe the three specific ways that validation can be seen.

Question 75

Briefly discuss the differences in self-disclosure between individualistic and collectivistic cultures.

Question 76

What is a decoding deficit, and in what type of relationship might one experience a decoding deficit?

Question 77

Partners can escalate a relationship through direct or indirect means. Give one example of a direct route and one example of an indirect route.

Question 78

What is authenticity and how is it related to self-disclosure and listening in relationships? Describe at least three factors associated with authenticity?

Question 79

In adult friendships, partners tend to use five explicit strategies to maintain relationships. What are these five strategies? Give a specific example of how each one is shown in the relationship.

Question 80

Borisoff and Hahn believe that men and women in committed relationships differ in what they listen to and how they express listening behaviors. Explain the primary difference, and what Borisoff and Hahn recommend to remedy the difference.