Deck 12: Communicating in Intimate Relationships: Long-Term Romantic Relationships, Family, and Friends

Question 1

A characteristic of successful long-term romantic relationships is _________, which means showing regard or consideration for your partner, that person's point of view, and the person's rights.

A) comfortable level of closeness
B) mutual respect
C) presence of a shared plan or life vision
D) managing life transitions

Answer 1

B

Question 2

Exchanging messages or behaving in ways that keep a relationship at a desired level of intimacy, satisfaction, and health is known as ________.

A) integrating social networks
B) continuing self-disclosure
C) expressing assurance
D) relational maintenance

Answer 2

D

Question 3

Routine relational maintenance happens ________.

A) when messages and behaviors are deliberately performed in order to maintain the level of intimacy in the relationship
B) when verbal messages and behaviors contradict the nonverbal cues in the relationship
C) when messages and behavior that are performed without any deliberate intention to affect the relationship have the effect of preserving the intimacy
D) when one partner's messages and behaviors exhibit control over the other partner

Answer 3

C

Question 4

Lack of confidence in the relationship itself is ________.

A) life transition
B) interference
C) relational turbulence theory
D) relational uncertainty

Question 5

Mindy and Rhianna have conversations where they plan activities together, call each other "BFF" when talking with others, and share deeply personal information with each other. Mindy and Rhianna are having ________.

A) small talk
B) family attachments
C) intimate interactions
D) life transitions

Question 6

Close male relationships are often characterized by ________.

A) sexual intimacy
B) covert intimacy
C) overt intimacy
D) no intimacy at all

Question 7

Same-sex female conversations tend to be ________.

A) personal
B) about feelings
C) emotionally supportive
D) all of the above

Question 8

When couples are concerned about the distribution of responsibilities, the goal should be to achieve a(n) ________ relationship, where partners agree to what each will contribute to their shared life and that their individual contributions are equally valued.

A) affectionate
B) long-term
C) egalitarian
D) inclusive

Question 9

Mike has taken a job that requires extensive travel, leaving his wife Janie to assume more household responsibilities. They may experience ________, when one partner's actions or choices create obstacles for the other.

A) transitional turbulence
B) relational uncertainty
C) interference
D) egalitarian distribution

Question 10

Research indicates that, in marriages and other long-term romantic relationships, sexual satisfaction is closely connected with ________.

A) relationship satisfaction
B) commitment
C) love
D) all of the above

Question 11

"Hey, Heather, my co-worker David is throwing a tailgate party before the game, and I'd love for you to come with me to meet my co-workers." Including your partner in interactions with one's colleagues, friends, and family is known as _________.

A) integrating social networks
B) expressing assurance
C) routine relational maintenance
D) promoting intimate interactions

Question 12

Partners in long-term romantic relationships experience ________ when they are satisfied with the amount and quality of their romantic encounters, affection displays, and time they spend together.

A) presence of a shared plan or life vision
B) comfortable level of closeness
C) mutual respect
D) strategic relational maintenance

Question 13

Self-concept formation, recognition and support, and a model of communication behaviors are all functions of ________.

A) the family
B) friendship networks
C) marriage
D) interpersonal cross-sex relationships

Question 14

To effectively praise your partner and demonstrate your gratitude when you notice something for which you are grateful, you must _________.

A) give a general phrase such as "thanks" and nothing more
B) explain why the action makes you grateful
C) speak in general, simple phrases without worrying about feelings
D) express your gratitude and then change the subject immediately

Question 15

_________ tells us that parents who use destructive conflict strategies with each other such as counter-blaming and cross-complaining teach their children that this is how to handle conflict.

A) Conversation orientation
B) Permissive parenting style
C) Modeling
D) Low conformity orientation

Question 16

A new development in friendships is ____________, friendships that have a sexual component but are not intended to be romantic.

A) short-term romantic relationships
B) friends with benefits relationships
C) covert intimacy
D) cross-platonic relationships

Question 17

Often lasting from infancy to old age, ________ relationships can span more time than any other family relationship.

A) sibling
B) parent-child
C) intergenerational
D) long-term romantic

Question 18

Friendships are unlikely to develop if neither partner is adept at beginning enjoyable conversation. This process is ________.

A) responsiveness
B) initiation
C) self-disclosure
D) emotional support

Question 19

_____, an emotional reaction to the belief you might lose a valued relationship to a third party, is one of the major destructive forces within relationships.

A) Possessiveness
B) Stereotyping
C) Jealousy
D) Loathing

Question 20

The desire to control another person to ensure that he or she is one's exclusive partner is _________.

A) possessiveness
B) relational jealousy
C) covert intimacy
D) infidelity

Question 21

Jealousy may cause all of the following except ________.

A) physical or psychological intimidation
B) possessiveness
C) covert intimacy
D) relationship break-up

Question 22

A nurturing parental communication style includes ________.

A) encouraging messages
B) displays of affection
C) praise
D) all of the above

Question 23

The type of parental communication style that is marked by negotiation, persuasion, and disciplining messages is ________.

A) nurturing
B) commanding
C) controlling
D) attachment

Question 24

Infants develop mental models of ______ based on whether caregivers are trustworthy and whether the infants are worthy of care.

A) discipline
B) attachment
C) love
D) affection

Question 25

A parent who provides inconsistent nurturing, meeting infant's needs only time to time, will have a child who develops ________.

A) an avoidant attachment
B) a secure attachment
C) an anxious-ambivalent attachment
D) dismissive attachment

Question 26

Infants who feel worthy of care and that others can be trusted to care for them develop ________.

A) an avoidant attachment
B) a secure attachment
C) an anxious-ambivalent attachment
D) preoccupied attachment

Question 27

________ infidelity occurs when one partner develops romantic feelings toward someone else.

A) Emotional
B) Jealous
C) Sexual
D) High

Question 28

_______, describing feelings and behaviors, is important in maintaining friendships.

A) Responsiveness
B) Initiation
C) Self-disclosure
D) Conflict management

Question 29

Which of the following is not an adult attachment style discussed in the text?

A) secure attachment style
B) anxious-ambivalent attachment style
C) dismissive attachment style
D) fearful attachment style

Question 30

The adult attachment style characterized by low self-worth and low trust in others is _________.

A) fearful attachment style
B) preoccupied attachment style
C) dismissive attachment style
D) secure attachment style

Question 31

Louis owns his own business, is self-reliant and independent, but he has never been able to sustain close relationships. His attachment style is ________.

A) fearful
B) preoccupied
C) dismissive
D) secure

Question 32

Jana has been a friend of the Monroe family for years. She regularly attends holiday celebrations and takes vacations with the family. She is considered

A) extended family
B) indirect kin
C) fictive kin
D) none of the above

Question 33

Delivering messages that use mild insults, competition, or put-downs to signal closeness, trust, and equality is known as ________.

A) possessiveness
B) paradoxical intimacy
C) covert intimacy
D) relational turbulence

Question 34

The best approach to managing infidelity is to ________ it.

A) explore
B) prevent
C) hide
D) ignore

Question 35

A(n) ________can be defined as a "self-defined group of intimates who create and themselves through their own interactions and their interactions with others."

A) long-term romantic relationship
B) circle of friends
C) integrated social network
D) family

Question 36

Elderly and younger family members may find it difficult to communicate with each other due to _________.

A) different interests and values
B) geographic distance
C) the fast pace of contemporary life
D) all of the above

Question 37

_________ refers to the extent of a family's willingness to listen to and value diverse ideas, and the degree to which family members are encouraged to think and behave independently.

A) Attachment style
B) Conformity orientation
C) Conversational orientation
D) Permissive parenting style

Question 38

Families high in ________ interact frequently, spontaneously, openly discuss a variety of topics, and include children in decision making.

A) conformity orientation
B) controlling parenting style
C) possessiveness
D) conversational orientation

Question 39

Firm control balanced with ample nurturing are characteristics of the ________ parenting style.

A) permissive
B) authoritative
C) authoritarian
D) non-traditional

Question 40

Commitment, understanding, trust, and disclosure in depth and breadth are all characteristics of

A) intimate relationships
B) platonic relationships
C) emotional disclosures
D) personal self-disclosures

Question 41

Families can be bound by ________ ties.

A) legal
B) blood
C) emotional
D) all of the above

Question 42

Social networks are home to many ________, potential relationships within a social circle that are present but have not been activated. Friends of friends on Facebook would be an example.

A) strong ties
B) hyperpersonal relationships
C) latent ties
D) egalitarian relationships

Question 43

Which of the following would not be considered a strong emotional tie?

A) friends
B) romantic partners
C) family members
D) acquaintance

Question 44

Sandra uses social networks like Facebook, Skype, texting, and blogs to keep up with her friends and family. Which type of relationship ties is she demonstrating?

A) weak ties
B) strong ties
C) friendship ties
D) latent ties

Question 45

Many people present themselves online in a "better than real" way, contributing to some online relationships becoming ________, or intense and intimate beyond what would occur if the relationship were conducted face to face.

A) networked
B) idealized
C) complex
D) hyperpersonal

Question 46

Men often report that their relationships with women friends are closer than those with male friends.

Question 47

Male relationships tend to develop quickly, while female relationships are more intense.

Question 48

It's safe to say that partners in platonic relationships are not sexually attracted to each other.

Question 49

According to your text, the only real difference between a platonic intimate relationship and a romantic intimate relationship is the display of sexually oriented behavior.

Question 50

To sustain positive relationships with family members, time needs to be set aside for talk that involves more than requests, orders, or mundane planning.

Question 51

Modeling does not take place when children are not directly interacting with their children.

Question 52

Families are bound by ties of legality, blood, commitment, or simply just considering themselves to be a family.

Question 53

A long-term intimate relationship built on repeated intimate conversations cannot withstand periods without them.

Question 54

Covert intimacy is best understood as a respectful and honest self-disclosure of your feelings.

Question 55

The presence of a long-term plan or vision for life is not a characteristic of successful long-term relationships.

Question 56

Jealousy is inherently a bad thing.

Question 57

Conflict management is one of the communication skills especially important for friendships.

Question 58

There are two fundamental dimensions of parents' communication with their children: nurturing and controlling.

Question 59

Parental messages cannot be simultaneously nurturing and controlling.

Question 60

Sibling rivalries are a form of jealousy.

Question 61

Media multiplexity means that we carry out our relationships through more than one form of social media and that those in closer relationships use more forms of social media.

Question 62

Family communication is an important aspect of the family system. According to the text, what strategies can be used to improve the overall quality of family communication?

Question 63

Describe some of the gender differences in same-sex friendships. Provide examples.

Question 64

Discuss the characteristics of successful long-term relationships. Define each, and offer examples.

Question 65

What are some of the challenges associated with long-term romantic relationships? How can these problems be addressed? Provide examples.

Question 66

What role, if any, does technology play in the creation and maintenance of intimate relationships? Discuss some advantages and disadvantages of using technology-mediated interactions to communicate with friends and family.

Question 67

Compare and contrast high and low conformity orientation and describe the effects of both on family interactions and relationships.