Deck 4: Love, Intimacy, and Sexual Communication

Question 1

In the 1700s marriages were _______.

A)motivated by love and intimacy
B)motivated by a couples desire to make a lasting commitment
C)formed based on the decision of the couple.
D)formed to increase the wealth of both families

Answer 1

D
Explanation: During that period in American history, a "good match" was considered one that increased the wealth of both families, through the professional "prospects" of the young man to earn a good living and the young woman's dowry, usually money, land, or other property given to the groom's parents in exchange for "allowing" the woman to marry their son.

Question 2

Which of the following statements about flirting behaviors is true?

A)Flirting is more common in Western societies.
B)Flirting usually begins when a man touches a woman's arm or shoulder.
C)Flirting behaviors vary widely from society to society.
D)Flirting behaviors are similar in all humans and usually follow predictable patterns.

Answer 2

D
Explanation: Flirting may be defined as subtle behaviors designed to signal sexual or romantic interest in another person, and humans across all cultures share the tendency to flirt. The behaviors involved in the flirtation process are quite similar in all humans and tend to follow fairly predictable patterns.

Question 3

Which of the following is a research finding about the effects of physical attractiveness?

A)Attractive children are less popular with both classmates and teachers.
B)Attractive applicants are paid less than their lesser attractive colleagues.
C)Attractive people are found guilty less often in court.
D)Attractive people are reacted to less favorably than lesser attractive people.

Answer 3

C
Explanation: The influence of physical attractiveness goes well beyond how drawn one person is to another. For example, in court, attractive people are found guilty less often. When they are found guilty, they receive more lenient sentences.

Question 4

Which of the following is the correct order in which the steps of flirting occur?

A)approach, talk, swivel and turn, touch, synchronization
B)talk, swivel and turn, approach, touch, synchronization
C)swivel and turn, approach, synchronization, touch, talk
D)synchronization, approach, swivel and turn, talk, touch

Question 5

When a man and a woman are flirting with each other, it's usually the woman who _______.

A)talks more than the man
B)approaches the man to begin a conversation
C)initiates the first touch
D)ends the flirtation

Question 6

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, the three fundamental components of love are _______.

A)intimacy, infatuation, passion
B)passion, commitment, infatuation
C)intimacy, passion, commitment
D)passion, liking, infatuation

Question 7

People are more apt to become romantically involved with others who _______.

A)possess characteristics different than their own
B)possess characteristics similar to their own
C)live in a state other than their own
D)are more attractive than themselves

Question 8

According to the _______, humans have a natural tendency to grow fonder of a novel stimulus the more they are exposed to it.

A)proximity effect
B)mere exposure effect
C)matching hypothesis
D)field of eligibles theory

Question 9

Which of the following is an example of the proximity effect?

A)Carla and Dan attended the same college and married each other.
B)Erin is attracted to Francine because they look alike.
C)Greg and Geoff are friends because they both like baseball.
D)Helga and Ian have very wealthy parents.

Question 10

Stephanie has been married for five years.She and her husband enjoy intimacy and passion, but their relationship lacks a sense of commitment.According to the triangular theory of love, this couple is experiencing _______ love.

A)empty love
B)fatuous love
C)companionate love
D)romantic love

Question 11

"Bundling" was a method used for _______.

A)hurrying the courtship process
B)prolonging intimacy
C)identifying unmarriageable women
D)forcing unmarried men to pay a bachelorhood tax

Question 12

Bart is seeking a potential romantic partner who is between 25 and 35 years of age.All individuals who meet Bart's criteria are referred to as _______.

A)being within his proximity
B)synchronization
C)his field of eligibles
D)selection similarity

Question 13

What is meant by the term reciprocity of attraction?

A)People tend to love their partner unconditionally.
B)People tend to love others who have higher self-esteem than themselves.
C)People need to feel that others like them back in approximately the same way.
D)People need to feel worthy of their partner's love.

Question 14

Ana is a 25-year-old unmarried female.If living during the 1700s, Ana would _______.

A)be forced to pay a "singles" tax
B)be considered unmarriageable
C)engage in bundling in order to find a mate
D)raise her sibling's children

Question 15

According to the matching hypothesis, people _______.

A)seek out others who had similar life experiences
B)seek out others who have characteristics similar to their own
C)are attracted to others who live and work in their geographical area
D)are attracted to others who share their level of physical attractiveness

Question 16

Carlos and Charlie share a strong sexual bond and work hard to make their relationship last over the long term.According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, this couple is experiencing _______ love.

A)empty love
B)fatuous love
C)companionate love
D)romantic love

Question 17

Janette is in a bar and is making eye contact with a man across the room.Janette is in the _______ stage of flirting.

A)synchronization
B)approach
C)touch
D)swivel and turn

Question 18

According to the triangular theory of love, which type of love is based on commitment only?

A)empty love
B)fatuous love
C)companionate love
D)consummate love

Question 19

Quincy and Roberta have a sexually charged relationship, know little about each other, and have no interest in pursuing each other as long-term partners.According to the triangular theory of love, this relationship is based on _______.

A)intimacy
B)commitment
C)romance
D)infatuation

Question 20

While talking, Ken and Louis periodically turn toward to each other.Ken and Louis are in the _______ stage of flirting.

A)swivel and turn
B)touch
C)synchronization
D)approach

Question 21

According to the styles of love theory, storge love is characterized by _______.

A)passion
B)intimacy
C)friendship
D)selflessness

Question 22

Violet and Vicky have a relationship that possesses intimacy, passion, and commitment.According to the triangular theory of love, what type of love includes these components?

A)consummate love
B)fatuous love
C)companionate love
D)romantic love

Question 23

Zora and Anthony insult each other to the point that their interactions are abusive.According to Gottman, Zora and Anthony use _______ as their main communication style.

A)defensiveness
B)criticism
C)contempt
D)stonewalling

Question 24

While attending a conference, Morris meets Noemi and they immediately become lovers.Although they feel very passionate about each other, their relationship may not last very long.This is an example of which style of love?

A)eros
B)ludus
C)storge
D)agape

Question 25

According to the styles of love theory, _______ love is a style in which partners are selected in a businesslike way.

A)eros
B)agape
C)storge
D)pragma

Question 26

Pauline strives to give her partner whatever he wants without the expectation of receiving anything in return.According to the styles of love theory, Pauline is engaging in _______ love.

A)mania
B)agape
C)storge
D)pragma

Question 27

According to Gottman, _______ allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict.

A)defensiveness
B)criticism
C)contempt
D)stonewalling

Question 28

One strategy that couples can use to maintain positive communication is to work on preventing any of the "four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse." Which of the following are the four horsemen?

A)criticism, contempt, defensiveness, criticism
B)contempt, defensiveness, commitment, stonewalling
C)stonewalling, criticism, contempt, complaining
D)criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling

Question 29

According to Gottman, couples that use _______ communication resolve conflicts through calm discussion and compromise.

A)volatile
B)validating
C)conflict-avoiding
D)self-disclosing

Question 30

According to the styles of love theory, what is mania love?

A)a love based on passion and eroticism
B)a selfless, unconditional type of love
C)a possessive, dependent type of love
D)a love based on caring and friendship

Question 31

According to Gottman, complaining is _______.

A)healthy because it is an expression of each partner's needs
B)unhealthy because it is a form of blaming
C)unhealthy because it expresses disrespect
D)healthy because it leads to stonewalling

Question 32

Which of the following describes Gottman's conflict-avoiding communication style?

A)conflicts are resolved through calm discussion
B)conflicts are resolved by fighting them out
C)conflicts are resolved by reaching a mutually acceptable conclusion
D)conflicts are downplayed and resolution is not important

Question 33

Beatrice becomes unresponsive and withdraws during disputes with her partner.According to Gottman, this is an example of _______.

A)stonewalling
B)defensiveness
C)contempt
D)criticism

Question 34

When Oliver meets a new woman, he is extremely attentive, affectionate, and charming until he has sex with her.He then quickly becomes bored and begins thinking of his next challenge.His behavior is an example of _______ love.

A)mania
B)ludus
C)storge
D)agape

Question 35

Ted and Ursula are truly committed to each other and enjoy intimacy, but have lost the passion in their relationship.According to the triangular theory of love, what type of love lacks passion?

A)consummate love
B)fatuous love
C)companionate love
D)romantic love

Question 36

According to Gottman, _______ is the result of blaming an unmet need on one's partner.

A)complaining
B)criticism
C)contempt
D)controlling

Question 37

Which theory states that people follow individual psychological motifs in relating to a love partner?

A)styles of love
B)triangular theory of love
D)proximity effects

Question 38

Xavier and Yolanda solve their conflicts by fighting until they can reach a conclusion that they both can accept.What does Gottman call this type of communication?

A)volatile
B)validating
C)conflict-avoiding
D)self-disclosing

Question 39

According to the textbook, the amount of self-disclosure a person engages in is usually a function of their _______.

A)initial physical attraction to another person
B)need to be in a relationship
C)level of self-confidence
D)perceived closeness of the relationship

Question 40

According to Gottman, it is _______ that determines the happiness and success of a relationship.

A)how much a couple fights and argues
B)a couple's style of fighting and arguing
C)their level of passion
D)the amount of romance

Question 41

People with low self-esteem are prone to _______ in relationships.

A)overdependence
B)independence
C)promiscuity
D)aggression

Question 42

According to the textbook, acceptance of sexual myths and stereotypes can sabotage a relationship because they _______.

A)lead to low self-esteem and overdependence
B)cause an imbalance in decision-making power
C)lead to false expectations
D)cause one partner to control another

Question 43

In their five rules for enhancing intimate communication, Notarius and Markman state that _______.

A)each partner can call for a break at any time
B)couples should never take a break until the argument is finished
C)couples should drop the subject if they can't come to a solution within 30 minutes
D)couples should ask for help from a third person if the discussion turns into an argument

Question 44

Abusive relationships are about the use of _______ and _______ that is achieved through a variety of tactics

A)power; jealousy
B)control; criticism
C)power; control
D)jealousy; criticism

Question 45

The most serious outcome of a controlling relationship is ________.

A)violence
B)loss of personal freedom
C)isolation
D)frequent arguments

Question 46

In their five rules for enhancing intimate communication, what do Notarius and Markman mean by using the "speaker-listener tool" when discussing relationship problems?

A)Only the partner who has the floor may speak, and the other must listen attentively.
B)Each partner can take a break from the discussion at any time.
C)Each person must focus on his or her feelings and their role in the problem.
D)The couple must try to stay on one topic at a time.

Question 47

_______ jealousy is based on a real threat to the relationship.

A)Normal
B)Delusional
C)Control
D)Excessive

Question 48

For some people, the embarrassment of talking about explicit sexual topics is so great, especially when the topic under discussion relates to themselves, that they _______.

A)end the relationship rather than disclose personal sexual information
B)have to seek counseling in order to discuss such topics
C)should practice discussing such topics with someone they know very well
D)should just get over it

Question 49

Griselda and Gilberto are trying to communicate more effectively with each other when a problem arises.According to Notarius and Markman's five rules for enhancing intimate communication, which of the following is a technique they can use?

A)focus only on the problem
B)force each other to discuss the problem
C)talk without taking a break until the problem is resolved
D)identify the person who is at fault and hold them accountable

Question 50

Which of the following statements about jealousy is true?

A)It should be a part of every relationship.
B)Men are usually more jealous than women.
C)It's a sign of true love.
D)It is one of the most frequent causes of the breakup of romantic relationships.

Question 51

As soon as John and Alma started sleeping together, it became apparent that John knows much more about sex than Alma does.John should _______.

A)take an understanding and gentle approach when discussing sexual issues with Alma
B)leave Alma and find someone who knows more about sex
C)suggest that Alma take a course in human sexuality
D)be patient; Alma will catch on eventually

Question 52

In addition to their five rules for enhancing intimate communication, Notarius and Markman also emphasized that one of the most important attributes of successful relationships is _______.

A)shared interests
B)politeness
C)the ability to forgive and forget
D)financial security

Question 53

Georgina is extremely controlling and requires her partner to call her every hour to report her whereabouts.Based on the information from the textbook, Georgina _______.

A)was probably very spoiled as a child
B)probably has low self-esteem
C)is probably extremely independent
D)is probably too caring

Question 54

_______ is an important component of intimacy with a partner and is related to relationship success and happiness

A)Stonewalling
B)Sexual self-disclosure
C)Complaining
D)Conflict-avoiding

Question 55

Statistics show that _______ of all women who are murdered are killed by their male partners.

A)one-third
B)one-half
C)one-quarter
D)one-fifth

Question 56

Frances is incessantly suspicious of her partner even though her partner is extremely faithful.Frances is experiencing _______ jealousy.

A)normal
B)pathological
C)control
D)excessive

Question 57

Eduardo is unable to communicate his dissatisfaction with the sexual side of his relationship with his partner.According to the text, what might be a common outcome in this type of situation?

A)loss of trust
B)withdrawal
C)infidelity
D)frustration

Question 58

Which of the following is one of Markman, Stanley, and Bloomberg's "five keys" to understanding intimate communication?

A)When a relationship is failing there is no hope.
B)Only large changes can lead to huge changes.
C) Each partner must take his or her share of the responsibility for making the relationship work.
D)Relationship skills come naturally.

Question 59

According to Notarius and Markman's five rules for enhancing intimate communication, it is recommend that couples should _______.

A)only fight about important matters
B)learn to become more aggressive in expressing their needs
C)promise to never raise their voices during an argument
D)incorporate couples meetings into their relationship

Question 60

Which of the following types of violence is most common among relationships?

A)men against men
B)men against women
C)women against women
D)women against men

Question 61

According to the triangular theory of love, consummate love is made up of commitment and intimacy.

Question 62

Matt has become physically violent and hit his partner Natalia.This relationship is in the _______ phase of the cycle of violence.

A)tension-building
B)explosion
C)honeymoon
D)resolution

Question 63

Which of the following is a characteristic of a potential abuser?

A)being overly responsible
B)engages in controlling behavior
C)has been in many past relationships
D)initially appears to be charming

Question 64

Which of the following is a guideline for safely leaving an abusive relationship?

A)Trust that the abuser will not seek out the victim after leaving the relationship.
B)Keep phone numbers of trustworthy people available at all times.
C)Ask the abuser to stay away after leaving the relationship.
D)Have a discussion with the abuser regarding one's desire to leave the relationship.

Question 65

Ophelia left her abuser a few weeks ago but decided to give the relationship a second chance.According to the textbook, which of the following is a possible outcome of Ophelia's returning to the abuser?

A)The violence will stop.
B)The couple will enter counseling.
C)The abuser's violent behavior will escalate.
D)Ophelia will become violent.

Question 66

Research shows that attractiveness plays a key role in the early formation of a potential intimate relationship.

Question 67

Jay regularly belittles, accuses, blames, insults, puts-down, and humiliates his partner.This type of behavior is considered _______ abusive.

A)emotionally
B)verbally
C)physically
D)spiritually

Question 68

A person's field of eligibles can change over time.

Question 69

As victims look back on the violent relationship, they typically report that the abuser _____.

A)showed signs of violence when they first met
B)always had unpredictable mood swings
C)did not show signs of violence when they first met
D)was sensitive to criticism

Question 70

Michaela's partner regularly grabs and twists her arms and waves a fist at her.This type of behavior is considered _______ abuse.

A)emotional
B)verbal
C)physical
D)spiritual

Question 71

During the _______ phase of the cycle of violence, an event occurs that creates strain between the couple.

A) tension-building
B)explosion
C)honeymoon
D)resolution

Question 72

Lucia was recently beaten by her partner.Her partner has asked for forgiveness, promises he will never hit her again, and bought her a present.This relationship is in the _______ phase of the cycle of violence.

A)tension-building
B)explosion
C)honeymoon
D)resolution

Question 73

Being able to share private thoughts with a partner is an example of intimacy as defined by the triangular theory of love.

Question 74

"Distance makes the heart grow fonder" is an example of the proximity effect.

Question 75

Which of the following is the order in which the phases of the cycle of violence occur?

A)honeymoon, explosion, tension-building
B)tension-building, explosion, honeymoon
C)explosion, honey-moon, tension-building
D)honeymoon, tension-building, explosion

Question 76

Usually, the only way to stop relationship violence is for the victim to ______.

A)leave the relationship
B)obey the abuser
C)seek counseling
D)have a child

Question 77

Flirting communicates mutual sexual interest and commitment.

Question 78

People are more likely to become romantically involved with someone who possesses characteristics that are different from their own.

Question 79

Reciprocity of attraction may help explain why individuals with poor self-esteem have trouble forming lasting romantic relationships.

Question 80

Which of the following is a form of emotional abuse?

A)misrepresenting the victim's feelings
B)criticizing
C)trivializing the victim's ideas
D)use of sarcasm