Deck 7: Relationships, Intimacy, and Communication

Question 1

At what stage of the ABCDE model do relationships mature and evolve?

A)Commitment
B)Building
C)Continuation
D)Bonding

Answer 1

C

Question 2

According to the ABCDE model, which stage of the relationship begins when two people find one another appealing?

A)Continuation
B)Building
C)Attraction
D)Excitement

Answer 2

C

Question 3

In studies investigating self-disclosure, researchers found that

A)self-disclosure is more difficult for women.
B)disclosing certain information too soon is a bad idea.
C)late disclosers were rated as guarded and cold.
D)self-disclosure is more difficult for men.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Jesse wants to have sex with her partner, and so tells him that she is in love with him. This is an example of _______ initiation of sex.

A)direct verbal
B)female-typed
C)indirect verbal
D)explicitly cued

Question 5

Kimberly feels that her husband is not emotionally open to her. This likely stems from

A)the fact that her husband is a man, and not a woman.
B)a "strong and silent" masculine psychology.
C)evolutionary differences in information sharing.
D)the failure to resolve the Oedipus complex.

Question 6

It is an offence under the Criminal Code of Canada to create or distribute images that depict sexual activity or the sexual organ of a person under the age of _____.

A)16
B)18
C)21
D)14

Question 7

Lydia has been making eye contact with an attractive man at a party. Which of the following is the most effective way for Lydia to pursue this man for a date?

A)Wait silently for the man to approach her and ask for her phone number.
B)Appear disinterested in him by texting with a friend on her cell phone.
C)Approach the man and ask how he knows the hosts of the party.
D)Leave the party and hope that he asks her friends where she went.

Question 8

Essie has signed up for an online dating service because she has trouble meeting single men. Which of the following may be a drawback of using these services?

A)She might dismiss a potential date because there are so many profiles to choose from.
B)She might not find out intimate details about a potential date for a long period of time.
C)She will be unable to communicate with a potential date until they have met in person.
D)She may find potential dates that she would not otherwise meet in the offline world.

Question 9

When a relationship starts to deteriorate, which of the following is not considered to be an active response?

A)Seek professional help
B)Improve communication skills
C)Negotiate differences
D)Avoid confrontational topics

Question 10

The second stage of the ABCDE model of relationships is

A)building.
B)bonding.
C)beginning.
D)balancing.

Question 11

Avery and Hannah are experiencing problems in their relationship. Instead of seeking couples counselling to address their issues, they ignore their difficulties in hopes that the issues will resolve on their own. This is an example of a(n) _______ response to relationship deterioration.

A)active
B)intuitive
C)passive
D)pragmatic

Question 12

According to the ABCDE model, when couples seek ways to develop new aspects of their relationship, they enter a phase called

A)mutuality.
B)building.
C)continuation.
D)commitment.

Question 13

MacNeil and Byers (2009) found that those who talked to their partners about their sexual likes and dislikes

A)reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction.
B)had longer lasting relationships.
C)were more likely to have multiple partners.
D)were more sexually insecure.

Question 14

Research with Canadian undergraduates found that both men and women preferred to ask partners for a date

A)on Facebook.
B)in person.
C)via the Internet.
D)via text message.

Question 15

Canadian research (MacNeil, 2004) on sexual disclosure found that

A)women placed a greater importance on nonsexual disclosure than did men.
B)men did not want to talk about their sexual likes and dislikes.
C)both men and women were equally concerned with nonsexual disclosure.
D)women considered sexual disclosure to be key to a satisfying sexual relationship.

Question 16

Self-disclosure is central to building

A)casual relationships.
B)intimate relationships.
C)trusting relationships.
D)lasting relationships.

Question 17

Wentland, Muise, and Desmarais (2010) found that _____% of the undergraduates surveyed felt that men should pay the bill on a date.

A)71
B)65
C)86
D)95

Question 18

Lemar is a 21-year-old male and Tyra is an 18-year-old female. Tyra decides to take a nude photograph of herself and send it to Lemar. Why might Tyra want to reconsider her choice?

A)Distributing images depicting the genitals of anyone under the age of 19 is a criminal offence in Canada.
B)Any photograph has the potential to be distributed without the permission of the individual.
C)Canada prohibits the possession of pornographic materials, regardless of the age of the subject.
D)Sharing explicit photographs is detrimental to the formation of short-term relationships.

Question 19

The exchange of personal or intimate information is called

A)surface contact.
B)small talk.
C)self-disclosure.
D)the opening line.

Question 20

Both women and men indicate that the best way to initiate a new relationship is with

A)compliments on personal appearance.
B)candid self-disclosure.
C)nonverbal cues.
D)a direct opening line that signals interest.

Question 21

Imagine a heterosexual couple who both suspect that the other person is having an affair. Considering sex differences in jealousy, the woman in the relationship would be most upset if the affair is

A)with someone of the same sex.
B)nonsexual, but emotionally intimate.
C)purely sexual in nature.
D)with a family relative.

Question 22

Which of the following does not predispose an individual to jealousy?

A)Experience with former partners who cheated
B)A lack of self-confidence
C)Fear of not being able to find another partner
D)A heterosexual orientation

Question 23

When comparing the factors that lead to relationship satisfaction for heterosexual and gay populations, research shows that

A)communication is more important for gay couples.
B)similar factors exist for both gay and straight couples.
C)communication is more important for straight couples.
D)sharing power in the relationship is more important for gay couples.

Question 24

Researchers have found gender differences in jealousy. Males seem to be most upset by ________, whereas females seem to be more upset by ________.

A)sexual infidelity; time spent away from home and family
B)emotional infidelity; sexual infidelity
C)sexual infidelity; emotional infidelity
D)sexual infidelity; a partner's lies

Question 25

What percentage of University of Guelph students reported they explicitly asked for sex when they wanted it?

A)25%
B)33%
C)50%
D)75%

Question 26

Eric and Tanya have been in a long-term, sexually active relationship. According to research by Humphreys (2007a), this couple is likely to agree that consent would be required before

A)hugging each other.
B)kissing on the mouth.
C)vaginal intercourse.
D)anal intercourse.

Question 27

Research looking at jealousy and evolutionary theory indicates that females are made more insecure and angry when their partners

A)have sexual relations with someone else.
B)don't make a commitment even after a reasonable amount of time.
C)become emotionally attached to someone else.
D)refuse to have children with them.

Question 28

Following the breakup of a relationship, unwanted attention such as emails or phone calls is known as

A)surveillance.
B)obsessive compulsive syndrome.
C)deterioration patterns.
D)stalking.

Question 29

Researchers have found that intimacy contributes to

A)self-esteem.
B)sexual satisfaction.
C)marital satisfaction.
D)physical well-being.

Question 30

A core feature of intimacy is

A)honesty.
B)sexual attraction.
C)disclosure of past sexual experiences.
D)romantic love.

Question 31

According to Sternberg, sexual involvement does not necessarily mean a relationship has

A)emotional intimacy.
B)commitment.
C)self-disclosure.
D)sexual intimacy.

Question 32

In healthy committed relationships,

A)couples spend the majority of their time together.
B)all decisions are joint decisions.
C)friends of each individual become friends of the "couple."
D)each partner maintains his/her individual interests and needs.

Question 33

Research from a cognitive theory perspective found that jealousy increased when infidelity was

A)caused by social pressures.
B)caused by substance use, e.g., alcohol.
C)through personal choice.
D)with the same sex partner.

Question 34

Gay couples differ from heterosexual couples in that they

A)share household chores more evenly.
B)discuss sexual likes and dislikes more often.
C)aren't as possessive of each other.
D)share more common interests.

Question 35

As couples age, _____________ becomes one of the most valued components of a relationship.

A)intimacy
B)sexual satisfaction
C)communication
D)trust

Question 36

Which is true regarding intimacy?

A)People who are sexually involved are intimately involved.
B)Emotional intimacy does not always involve sexual intimacy.
C)Emotional intimacy is stronger between lovers than between friends.
D)Sexual intimacy is a necessary component of any emotionally intimate relationship.

Question 37

Vince's wife Clair had sex with another man. If Clair wants to decrease Vince's emotional distress over her infidelity, she should

A)claim that she was intoxicated at the time.
B)downplay emotional aspects of the affair.
C)frame the affair in terms of sexual needs.
D)say she will never have another affair.

Question 38

The first stage of mutual cyclical growth involves

A)the feeling that you need your partner, which promotes commitment to and dependence on the relationship.
B)your partner's perception of your pro-relationship acts.
C)your partner's feelings of trust, which increases his or her dependence on the relationship.
D)your commitment to the relationship, which encourages actions that are good for the relationship.

Question 39

Which of the following is true regarding jealousy?

A)Jealousy is uncommon in some cultures.
B)Jealousy is more common among heterosexual couples than among gay couples.
C)Jealousy is common to all cultures.
D)Jealousy is more common among gay males than among lesbian women.

Question 40

If Jake is like most Canadians, he is mostly likely to initiate sex by

A)taking his clothes off in front of his partner.
B)telling his partner that he is very handsome.
C)explicitly requesting that his partner has sex.
D)waiting for his partner to make the first move.

Question 41

Which statement represents a common irrational belief about relationships and sex?

A)Men naturally know what to do to please their partners sexually.
B)Even in intimate relationships, partners need to discuss what pleases them.
C)Women will naturally let partners know what their sexual needs are.
D)Couples know that they must speak openly about sexual wants and needs.

Question 42

Men no longer feel obligated to pay the bill for their date.

Question 43

A useful communication technique to use when discussing sexual matters with your partner is

A)paraphrasing.
B)self-disclosure.
C)signalling.
D)reinforcement.

Question 44

Researchers at Trent University found this trait to be a strong predictor of sexual communication.

A)General self-esteem
B)Sexual self-esteem
C)Sexual experience
D)Superior verbal skills

Question 45

Skilled listening involves

A)repeating word-for-word what the other has said.
B)not letting your facial expression reveal your reactions.
C)active listening.
D)not asking questions of the other person.

Question 46

Patterns of interaction remain static during the continuation stage of a relationship.

Question 47

Social exchange theory involves evaluating a relationship on a reward-cost basis.

Question 48

What is not an exercise used by sex therapists to help couples with sexual dysfunction?

A)Taking turns petting
B)Audio stimulation
C)Directing your partner
D)Signalling

Question 49

When communicating about sexual matters, it is important to

A)not point out behaviour that you would like your partner to change.
B)limit the discussion to the bedroom.
C)choose the right time and place.
D)not admit that you find it difficult to discuss sexual topics.

Question 50

The best way to find a compatible romantic partner is to use an online dating service with software that matches personality profiles.

Question 51

The majority of both men and women found it acceptable to ask someone for a date on Facebook.

Question 52

Which of the following questions is an example of a closed-ended question?

A)What do you like best about the way we make love?
B)Do you want to make love with the lights off?
C)Does it bother you that I go to bed later than you?
D)What do you value most about our relationship?

Question 53

In Canada, a 17-year-old girl can legally send nude photographs of herself to her boyfriend.

Question 54

The statement, "There's something I need to talk about. Is now a good time?" represents a communication suggestion described as

A)signalling.
B)requesting permission to bring up a topic.
C)active listening.
D)reinforcement.

Question 55

Grant feels like his partner, Elton, never really listens to him when he talks about problems in their relationship. How can Elton demonstrate that he is actively listening to Grant?

A)Avert his gaze to show mental concentration
B)Signal openness with a neutral facial expression
C)Rephrase his partner's point to show understanding
D)Convey empathy by speaking in a louder voice

Question 56

In a University of Guelph study (Cleary et al., 2002) of communication about sexual health issues, female students typically reported

A)that they were totally open with all partners.
B)that their partners encouraged discussion about sexual health issues.
C)that they did not discuss sexual health issues prior to sexual intercourse.
D)that they did not consider it important to discuss sexual issues with their partners.

Question 57

Intimacy develops when an emotional bond, or ________, is developed.

A)compassion
B)respect
C)compatibility
D)caring

Question 58

Small talk is not a recommended method of starting a relationship.

Question 59

The majority of romantic relationships are initiated online.

Question 60

The process of mutual cyclical growth refers to the five stages of sexual development in a relationship.

Question 61

Accentuating the positive is one way of enhancing communication between partners.

Question 62

Discuss the factors that make communication about sex difficult and offer suggestions that can help increase a couple's comfort level when communicating about sex.

Question 63

If you are sexually intimate with a person, you are also emotionally intimate.

Question 64

What nonverbal techniques can couples use to enhance communication about sex?

Question 65

Janice's husband Ralph had sex with another woman. According to evolutionary theory, which aspects of the affair would be most distressing to Janice? What aspects would make the affair less distressing to Janice?

Question 66

How can partners negotiate their need for intimacy with their need for personal development in the context of a relationship? Discuss issues related to individual need and togetherness.

Question 67

Psychological factors are a better predictor of self-disclosure than is anatomical sex.

Question 68

Females tend to get more upset by sexual infidelity than by emotional infidelity.

Question 69

If you feel the need to discuss sexual issues with your partner, you should wait until you are in the process of having sex.

Question 70

Identify and discuss what occurs in each stage the ABCDE model of relationships.

Question 71

Intimate relationships require each individual to disclose all of their past sexual experiences.

Question 72

Research suggests that we should refrain from disclosing certain types of information too rapidly if we want to make a good impression on someone.

Question 73

Self-disclosure in relationships is essential to developing intimacy.

Question 74

Studies show that men are more reluctant than women to make commitments.

Question 75

The two most important ingredients of an intimate relationship are sexual involvement and honesty.

Question 76

Feelings of trust increase the willingness of the partners to concede that they need each other and the relationship.

Question 77

Do you agree that verbal sexual consent is necessary to obtain at every step of a sexual encounter? Explain.

Question 78

Assume that you are preparing to confront your partner about his/her recent behaviour. What suggestions should you consider as the sender in order to enhance communication?

Question 79

No amount of sexual knowledge can take the place of true love when it comes to a great sex life.

Question 80

Assume that your partner is prepared to offer you some criticism regarding your recent behaviour. What suggestions should you consider as the receiver in order to enhance communication?