Deck 11: Mistaken Goals, Motivation, and Mindfulness

Question 1

A child who feels that he or she has received a great deal of hurt and unfair treatment in life will not easily place ____________________ in adults.

Answer 1

trust​

Question 2

The perception of ____________________ that children place on themselves reflects the value that others who are important place on them.

Answer 2

value​

Question 3

Sometimes manipulativeness can become excessive and vengeful as children struggle to gain ____________________ of the children and adults around them.

Answer 3

control​

Question 4

We need to set firm limits and help children know that they are loved for ____________________, not for their fake charm.

Question 5

As children develop stronger ____________________, they will feel more comfortable expressing their feelings and actively standing up for themselves.

Question 6

The behavior of children whose self-esteem is lacking may deteriorate into disruptive habit patterns of destructiveness and ____________________.

Question 7

The destructive or aggressive child must know that he or she will be ____________________, that others' rights will be protected.

Question 8

Dreikurs believed that four ____________________goals are the root of troubling behavior.

Question 9

Children begin to develop self-esteem from ____________________ if attentive caregivers meet their needs while making sure they feel safe and loved.

Question 10

Each of the four mistaken goals identified by Dreikurs is directed toward getting a(n) ____________________ need met.

Question 11

The child filled with contempt and mistrust needs to work on the basic development of ____________________ that most children develop as babies.

Question 12

If the child is able to help us understand his or her ____________________ better, we can go right to the heart of the reason for misbehavior.

Question 13

Some children resort to bullying and rebelling to gain ____________________.

Question 14

Seeing children as lovable, capable, and ____________________ human beings supports the growth of positive self-esteem.

Question 15

Lazy, compulsive, or obnoxious behaviors may be a child's unconscious way of forcing adults to pay ____________________.

Question 16

Clingy children feel comfortable and loved only when they are being ____________________ over and cared for.

Question 17

Children use clowning, acting out, and silliness to get ____________________ from not only adults but from other children.

Question 18

Some children, when failing to gain control by other means, resort to bullying or ____________________.

Question 19

It is essential for adults to avoid power ____________________with the bullying or rebelling child.

Question 20

Although most children do things to make themselves feel better from time to time, the withdrawn child may sink into constant ____________________.

Question 21

Adults must ____________________ their own needs, biases, and imperfections in order to be effective in child guidance.

Question 22

Self-esteem has been identified as a characteristic that seems closely tied to​

A)school success.
B)social isolation.
C)punishment.
D)emotionally unstable children.
E)one of these

Question 23

Mindfulness​

Question 24

Establishing self-esteem, trust, and a sense of ____________________ are the essential three factors for building connections with the child who seems to have no interest in others.

Question 25

____________________ created a pyramid showing levels of psychological and physical needs to explain his theory of human motivation.

Question 26

Logical consequence​

Question 27

Every state has a designated agency that is mandated by federal law to receive and to investigate reports of suspected child ____________________ and neglect.

Question 28

Manipulative​

Question 29

The severely withdrawn child may avoid ____________________ contact, refuse to talk or play, and stay apart from others most of the time.

Question 30

Social-emotional intelligence quotient (EQ)​

Question 31

Authentic self-esteem activities involve ​

A)valuing the child.
B)giving the child sincere recognition.
C)treating the child with respect every day.
D)listening to the child.
E)11of these

Question 32

Cyclical self-stimulation​

Question 33

Rescued​

Question 34

Intermittent reinforcer​

Question 35

Time-away​

Question 36

Natural consequence​

Question 37

Overwhelming disruption in children's daily lives may contribute to their display of listlessness, ineptness, and ____________________.

Question 38

Behavior modification​

Question 39

Inhibited children sometimes turn all their bad feelings ____________________.

Question 40

The process by which children develop positive self-esteem begins​

A)from birth.
B)if caregivers consistently see them as lovable, capable, and worthwhile.
C)if attentive caregivers meet their needs.
D)if attentive caregivers make sure they feel safe and loved.
E)ll of these

Question 41

Child abuse and neglect may include all of the following except​

A)self-esteem.
B)positive feelings of self-worth.
C)stunted sense of self.
D)bonding.
E)behavioral problems.

Question 42

Which of the following is not one of Dreikurs's four mistaken goals?​

A)To get attention
B)gain a sense of control
C)know and understand
D)get revenge for perceived hurts
E)remove oneself from frightening or painful situations

Question 43

Time-out is not appropriate if it ​

A)used as a threat.
B)feels like guidance.
C)used with a child who is older than three years old.
D)is used very rarely.
E)ll of these

Question 44

Punishment ​

A)builds self-esteem.
B)improves self-image.
C)respects.
D)thwarts efforts.
E)ll of these

Question 45

Bullying includes all of the following except​

A)harassing.
B)ugly names.
C)crying.
D)shunning.
E)humiliating.

Question 46

Coping techniques for adults include ​

A)not taking crying personally.
B)taking deep breaths.
C)seeking expertise from books.
D)exercising, praying, and meditating.
E)all of these.

Question 47

Children who regularly indulge in tantrums need to know that​

A)they will be ignored.
B)the adults who care for them will not explode into their own fits of anger.
C)that the logical consequence of a tantrum is spending a lot of time in time-out.
D)the adults will do anything to keep them from throwing a tantrum in a public place.
E)all of these.

Question 48

We need to allow clowning so that a child can ​

A)use opportunities.
B)take responsibility.
C)save his or her dignity.
D)none of these.

Question 49

The severely withdrawn child may ​

A)refuse to talk or play.
B)stay next to others most of the time.
C)make eye contact.
D)use trickery to coerce.
E)ll of these.

Question 50

Guidance

A)builds self-esteem.
B)strengthens character.
C)models coping skills.
D)gives emotional support.
E)all of these.

Question 51

The severely withdrawn child may ​

A)rely excessively on self-stimulation.
B)avoid eye contact.
C)refuse to talk or play.
D)stay apart from others most of the time.
E)all of these.

Question 52

Valuing individual children as lovable, capable, and worthwhile ​

A)risks spoiling them.
B)is emotionally supportive but unrelated to shaping appropriate behavior.
C)gives them false expectations.
D)fosters a strong sense of positive self-esteem.
E)ll of these

Question 53

The destructive or aggressive child must know that​

A)we will connect emotionally with the challenging child during calm times.
B)he or she will be stopped.
C)others' rights will be protected.
D)destructive and aggressive behavior will not be allowed.
E)all of these.

Question 54

Children who are insecure in their sense of belonging​

A)should be given sincere affection and encouragement.
B)lack maturity and coping skills.
C)need to be pushed into social activities.
D)should not be placed in child care settings.
E)none of these.

Question 55

Logical consequences ​

A)result from a situation without any external intervention to control the conclusion.
B)involve our control in selecting and imposing a consequence.
C)should be used as punishment.
D)one of these
E)ll of these

Question 56

Steps in behavior modification include which of the following?​

A)Observing a child's present behavior
B)Identifying a desired future behavior
C)Breaking the distance between two behaviors into tiny steps
D)None of these
E)All of these

Question 57

Abuse and neglect have a profoundly negative effect on children's

A)behavior.
B)developmental growth.
C)physical well-being.
D)emotional health.
E)all of these

Question 58

Repeating patterns of inducing pleasurable or reassuring sensations ​

A)is a way children make themselves feel better.
B)includes thumb-sucking, hair-twisting, nail-biting, or rocking.
C)is called cyclical self-stimulation.
D)is a way children reduce feelings of stress.
E)all of these.

Question 59

What are some ways that children can make amends?

A)Blame the friend.
B)Give a hug.
C)Stay away from the friend.
D)Say "I'm sorry," even if it is not sincere..
E)All of these are correct

Question 60

A child's feelings of listlessness, ineptness, and hopelessness can be caused by

A)too much adult attention and affection.
B)adults' failure to rescue the child from the logical consequences of inappropriate behavior.
C)overwhelming disruption in the child's life.
D)the family's nontraditional family structure.
E)all of these.

Question 61

The destructive or aggressive child must know that he or she will be punished.

Question 62

Being a bully allows a child to develop functional behavior patterns that will affect him or her socially and professionally throughout life.

Question 63

Which of the following is not a useful guideline for effective child guidance?

A)Simple, consistently enforced guidelines develop a basis for trust and respect.
B)Having a child sit in time-out is always an appropriate response to misbehavior.
C)Adult anger triggers misbehavior and models aggression and hostility.
D)Many behavior problems can be prevented through proper planning.

Question 64

Dreikurs proposed that a hierarchy of desires causes children to misbehave to get attention, gain control, get revenge, or for self-stimulation.

Question 65

Maslow proposed that basic needs are arranged in a hierarchy of successive levels of need.

Question 66

To avoid stifling creativity, adults should avoid setting limits on children's behavior

Question 67

Being manipulative usually involves trying to trick someone into doing something that he or she really does not want to do.

Question 68

We must help clingy children feel more dependent.

Question 69

Self-esteem has been identified as a characteristic that seems closely tied to school success and social adjustment.

Question 70

Effective child guidance is best supported by adults who ​

A)insist on perfection.
B)are able to keep their own feelings hidden from children.
C)shield children from any unpleasantness.
D)recognize their own needs and imperfections.
E)all of these.

Question 71

Children begin to develop self-esteem from birth if their needs are met by attentive caregivers.

Question 72

Adults must earn children's trust through unfailing playfulness and indulgence.

Question 73

Authentic self-esteem activities include avoiding eye contact and rarely using the child's name.

Question 74

Unmet needs are a hidden cause of dysfunctional behavior.

Question 75

At the heart of almost any behavior lies the desire to be the center of attention.

Question 76

Seeing children as lovable, capable, and worthwhile supports the growth of egocentrism.

Question 77

Healing can only take place when the child feels that he or she is accepted, has some control, is treated fairly, and can succeed.

Question 78

Children who are clowning should be given positive opportunities for responsibility and leadership, and chances to entertain others in appropriate ways.

Question 79

Maslow identified three mistaken goals that he considered the root of troubling behavior.

Question 80

In dealing with a very difficult child, behavior modification may be an essential and effective tool for regaining a manageable relationship with the child?​