Deck 6: Communication: Realizing Effective Intimacy

Question 1

According to Arlie Hochschild, marital conflicts include

A)schedules.
B)housework.
C)standards.
D)All of the above

Answer 1

D

Question 2

Concerning hostility, detachment, and marital stress as measured by a 2000 study, a primary predictor of unhappiness for wives was their husbands'

A)avoidance of intimacy.
B)avoidance of conflict.
C)angry withdrawal.
D)hostile responsiveness.

Answer 2

D

Question 3

Men tend to engage in

A)report talk.
B)rapport talk.
C)intimate talk.
D)concrete talk.

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Marital counseling that helps couples identify and break free of destructive emotions and build trust is called

A)behavioral therapy.
B)emotionally focused therapy.
C)insight-oriented therapy.
D)peer counseling.

Question 5

Loyalties in stepfamilies are complicated because

A)children sometimes feel a parent abandons them for the new spouse.
B)parents feel torn between their children and the new spouse.
C)children feel confused if they have feelings toward their stepparent.
D)All of the above

Question 6

Eye rolling is an example of

A)criticism.
B)contempt.
C)stonewalling.
D)defensiveness.

Question 7

Positive conflict

A)allows partners to air their differences.
B)builds self-confidence.
C)bonds partners closer together.
D)All of the above

Question 8

Unequal power

A)affects self esteem.
B)encourages manipulation among partners.
C)diminishes the love and satisfaction in the marriage.
D)All of the above

Question 9

Resource theory identifies ________ as a resource to be bargained in marriage.

A)money
B)education
C)occupation
D)All of the above

Question 10

Which of the following is one of the MOST common sources of conflict for stepfamilies?

A)children's anxiety
B)discipline issues
C)finances
D)child visitation

Question 11

John Gottman observed that ________ is the best predictor of marital success.

A)how couples talk to each other
B)what couples talk about
C)how frequently couples communicate
D)how much personal space each partner is given

Question 12

A partner who is less interested in the relationship but has more power is explained by

A)needs theory.
B)unequal power theory.
C)principle of least interest theory.
D)resource theory.

Question 13

According to Virginia Satir, those who avoid disclosing their feelings are called

A)placaters.
B)blamers.
C)reporters.
D)distractors.

Question 14

Power that stems from the belief your partner has more knowledge is called

A)coercive power.
B)reward power.
C)expert power.
D)legitimate power.

Question 15

Couples who view conflict as a battle to be won use the ________ style of conflict.

A)parallel
B)avoiding
C)competing
D)accommodating

Question 16

Touching

A)indicates intimacy between people.
B)that declines in a relationship suggests a loss of affection.
C)allows people to feel more comfortable disclosing personal information about themselves.
D)All of the above

Question 17

Which of following is an example of passive aggression?

A)displacement
B)gaslighting
C)procrastination
D)All of the above

Question 18

In the ________ style of conflict, you exhibit assertiveness and cooperation.

A)accommodating
B)competing
C)collaborating
D)parallel

Question 19

________ are those who change the subject to avoid a fight.

A)Placaters
B)Blamers
C)Computers
D)Distractors

Question 20

Power and compliance based on a sense of duty often found in traditional cultures is called

A)referent power.
B)legitimate power.
C)informational power.
D)coercive power.

Question 21

In one study, what percentage of American women reported their partners forced them to have sex?

A)9%
B)15%
C)23%
D)34%

Question 22

Money generates conflict for which of the following reasons?

A)Money represents power.
B)Money represents our values and attitudes.
C)Money is a private matter.
D)All of the above

Question 23

In a 1994 study of 218 married couples, ________ of wives stated they expressed their feelings more openly than their husbands.

A)24%
B)39%
C)54%
D)62%

Question 24

________ signals interest and sexual attraction between two people.

A)Gazing
B)Body movement
C)Interpersonal space
D)Head turning

Question 25

Which of the following is a criticism of email conversations in building intimate relationships?

A)too much feedback
B)too little detail
C)reduced social cues
D)convenience

Question 26

The organization of marriage and family therapists created by therapist William Doherty to promote saving relationships is called

A)the American Association for Marital and Family Therapy.
B)Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills.
C)Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program.
D)The National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists.

Question 27

Women's speech tends to be

A)status oriented.
B)report oriented.
C)personal.
D)cognitive.

Question 28

When a partner feels neglected by the other and thus embarks on a series of affairs, the partner who feels neglected is really engaging in conflict over the issue of

A)loyalty.
B)nurturance.
C)power.
D)privacy.

Question 29

If one partner avoids conflict and the other likes to address problems immediately in order to solve them, this couple is struggling over what common area of conflict?

A)differences in style
B)differences in nurturance
C)differences in privacy and personal space
D)differences over power

Question 30

Examples of gaslighting include

A)using sarcasm.
B)diminishing the partner's self-esteem.
C)denying the other's self-worth.
D)All of the above

Question 31

Sociologist Arlie Hochschild identifies the "second shift" as

A)the problematic situation that arose from women's changing roles and men's reluctance to change .
B)working women performing the majority of household and childcare chores.
C)the evening shift a spouse takes to earn more income.
D)All of the above

Question 32

John Gottman found that couples who experience ________ more positive feelings and interaction than negative ones have the most enduring marriages.

A)two times
B)five times
C)ten times
D)twelve times

Question 33

Spousal physical or emotional abuse is an example of

A)expert power.
B)legitimate power.
C)coercive power.
D)referent power.

Question 34

________ means being specific and authentic about how you feel in your relationship.

A)Gaslighting
B)Gunnysacking
C)Leveling
D)Self-disclosure

Question 35

Childrearing conflicts arise over

A)discipline styles.
B)schedules.
C)childrearing philosophies.
D)All of the above

Question 36

Research indicates that for most couples, _________ is the major focus of conflict.

A)money
B)sex
C)child-rearing
D)cheating

Question 37

________ is the expression of anger indirectly.

A)Scapegoating.
B)Repressed anger
C)Passive aggression
D)Conflict taboo

Question 38

Today, power in most American marriages is derived from

A)male authority.
B)egalitarianism.
C)the partners' personalities.
D)traditional norms.

Question 39

The statement "If problems are ignored, they will eventually go away" is an example of the ________ style of conflict.

A)accommodating
B)parallel
C)compromising
D)competing

Question 40

In the ________ style of conflict, a person is both unassertive and cooperative.

A)parallel
B)accommodating
C)compromising
D)collaborating

Question 41

Non-verbal gestures always match the verbal communication being given.

Question 42

According to research, how often do most couples fight on average?

A)once a day
B)once a week
C)once a month
D)twice a month

Question 43

People who are chronically powerless often suffer from depression.

Question 44

Gaslighting occurs when one partner gives the other the silent treatment to express anger.

Question 45

________ occurs when one partner constantly belittles and denies the other partner's needs and concerns.

A)Conflict taboo
B)Scapegoating
C)Gaslighting
D)Passive aggression

Question 46

Conflict over sex

A)is about the timing of sex.
B)can be about other issues in the marriage, such as money or communication.
C)is about intimacy in the marriage.
D)All of the above

Question 47

According to Panel 6.1, which licensed therapist is the only one that can prescribe medications?

A)clinical psychologist
B)psychiatrist
C)clinical social worker
D)marital therapist

Question 48

In a 1994 study of 218 married couples, what percentage of wives stated they had better communication with their female friends than their husbands?

A)24%
B)34%
C)49%
D)58%

Question 49

To identify with and admire your partner and want to please them is called referent power.

Question 50

Which of the following types of counselors is an M.D.?

A)clinical psychologist
B)psychiatrist
C)licensed clinical social worker
D)marriage and family therapist

Question 51

Conflict between couples exists in happy marriages.

Question 52

Conflict is inevitable in all marriages.

Question 53

Which of the following statements are true regarding women's speech styles?

A)Women's speech is concrete and tentative.
B)Women's speech is abstract and report oriented.
C)Women's speech is personal and authoritative.
D)There are no differences between women's and men's speech styles.

Question 54

Being provocative and challenging to a partner's power and authority is an example of

A)stonewalling.
B)belligerence.
C)defensiveness.
D)criticism.

Question 55

In the statement "Well look who finally made it home, his lord highness!" the ________ style of communication is used.

A)stonewalling
B)scapegoating
C)defensiveness
D)contempt

Question 56

Extramarital sex is a primary cause for divorce.

Question 57

An environment of ________ will increase positive communication among family members.

A)mutual affection
B)respect
C)control
D)Both A and B are correct.

Question 58

Research completed in 2002 found that IQ scores were not linked to self-esteem.

Question 59

According to Blood and Wolfe's theory, power in a relationship reflects the amount of resources of each spouse.

Question 60

An abusive spouse uses expert power.

Question 61

________ is the blaming of one family member for what goes wrong in the family.

Question 62

How you handle money in a dating relationship is an indicator of how you will handle money as a married couple.

Question 63

The happiest couples try to reduce negative emotions and express affection while ironing out differences.

Question 64

Resource theory identifies ________, ________, ________, and ________ as resources in marriage.

Question 65

According to Gottman's research, a partner who rolls his/her eyes while the other is talking is a predictor of divorce.

Question 66

Arlie Hochschild's research found working wives work a ________ ________ at home.

Question 67

As much as 95% of face-to-face communication is through body language.

Question 68

Conflicts about sex are always about the sexual issues between couples.

Question 69

Conflicts over sex are common in the first year of marriage.

Question 70

In the ________ ________ _________ _________ theory, the partner who is less interested has more power in the relationship.

Question 71

The ________ _________ _________ _________ emphasizes support and understanding and warm holiday rituals.

Question 72

Marital conflicts include more than arguments about an imbalance in hours devoted to housework. Other issues are ________, ________, and ________.

Question 73

Nagging, sarcasm, and procrastination are examples of ________ _________.

Question 74

Intimate touch can lower stress hormones.

Question 75

The unconscious suppression of anger that is later released in other ways is called ________ ________.

Question 76

In intimate relationships people crave two things, ________ and ________.

Question 77

In the ________ style of conflict, a person demonstrates an unassertive but cooperative stance.

Question 78

Men may become irritated when women talk about life's little details.

Question 79

Eye contact in U.S. culture can signal emotion such as sexual interest or disgust.

Question 80

In the female-demand/male withdraw pattern, the wife has lost interest in the relationship and seeks to provoke arguments to end the relationship.