Deck 9: Gendered Close Relationships

Question 1

Which of the following tends to be true about lesbian relationships?

A) One partner tends to be expected to be the breadwinner.
B) They tend to be based on tangible investments such as money and possessions.
C) They tend to be bound by traditional gender roles.
D) The partners involved tend to have the most equality of all types of relationships.
E) None of the above.

Answer 1

D

Question 2

Emily feels that she and her partner Luke spend too much time together,and she wants more time for her individual interests and activities.Luke feels that they should spend most of their time with each other.The tension between them reflects

A) tension over autonomy and connection.
B) tension over bonding rituals.
C) differences between desires for doing and talking.
D) differences between desires for expression and instrumentality.
E) none of the above.

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Lesbian relationships tend to be

A) nonmonogamous.
B) low in disclosure and support.
C) egalitarian in distributing responsibilities for maintaining the relationship.
D) primarily based on doing things rather than talking.
E) longer-lasting than heterosexual relationships.

Answer 3

C

Question 4

Typically,men do not value friendships as much as women.

Question 5

Which of the following are features of feminine (often female)friendships?

A) They often contain covert intimacy.
B) Doing activities together is the primary way to build closeness.
C) The friends do things for each other to show that they care.
D) They are less likely than men's friendships to last if one friend moves away.
E) None of the above.

Question 6

Men who have sex with a lot of partners tend to be judged more harshly than women who do the same.

Question 7

Kaitlin and her partner Adam have spent a lot of time fighting and avoiding each other recently.Kaitlin is upset about the situation and wants to fix the problem.Adam doesn't seem to have noticed that anything is wrong.Kaitlin takes it upon herself to start a conversation with Adam about their issues.This reflects Kaitlin and Adam's

A) tension between autonomy and connection.
B) differing ways of showing affection.
C) gendered responsibility for relational health.
D) gendered power dynamics.
E) none of the above.

Question 8

Regardless of sexual orientation,most couples have one partner that takes on most of the burden of caring for the relational health of the couple.

Question 9

In a heterosexual relationship,the male partner would be the one most likely to be responsible for remembering the child's doctor's appointments.

Question 10

Gender differences are apparent in the ways people manage conflict.Feminine people, in general,tend to respond to conflict by

A) defering or compromising to reduce tension.
B) issuing ultimatums.
C) refusing to listen or discuss an issue.
D) asserting that the partner is blowing things out of proportion.
E) all of the above.

Question 11

Which of the following is true about romantic relationships?

A) Women tend to fall in love faster and harder than men.
B) Women perceive of love in terms of taking trips to romantic places, spontaneously making love, and surprising their partners.
C) In romantic relationships between women and men, attitudes toward sexual activity have undergone profound changes over the last several decades.
D) Women are more likely than men to focus on relationship dynamics.
E) All of the above.

Question 12

How do masculine people,often men,who are friends tend to build closeness?

A) share activities
B) talk about their friendship
C) engage in personal disclosure
D) engage in small talk
E) masculine people who are friends do not build closeness

Question 13

Gay and lesbian relationships tend to follow a best-friend model with the additional dimensions of sexuality and romance.

Question 14

Which of the following is true about nonromantic friendships between men and women?

A) For many women, a primary benefit of friendships with men is that they are emotionally closer than their friendships with women.
B) For many men, a primary benefit of friendships with women is that they are lighter and more fun than their friendships with men.
C) In friendships between women and men, men typically talk more and get more attention than they offer.
D) Nonromantic friendships between women and men have the advantage of being free from sexual tension.
E) Both women and men tend to seek out men in times of stress.

Question 15

Working women in heterosexual relationships typically engage in the majority of home and family care taking duties,which are frequently routine,repetitive,and constrained by deadlines.The term that this statement best defines is

A) psychological responsibility.
B) wonder woman syndrome.
C) soccer mom.
D) second-shift job.
E) the Mommy Myth.

Question 16

The demand-withdraw pattern explains why sexual tension often exists in cross-sex friendships

Question 17

Why are men assumed by some approaches to personal relationships to be deficient at developing and sustaining personal relationships?

A) Men have been proven empirically to be bad at relationships.
B) Women have been proven empirically to be the best at relationships.
C) Many studies of men's relationships use the "feminine ruler" of talk as the basis of close relationships to judge men's relationships.
D) Both A and B
E) All of the above.

Question 18

In heterosexual couples in which the woman earns substantially more than the man,the man performs the majority of household labor.

Question 19

Cross-sex friendships tend to benefit women more than men.

Question 20

Lesbians report greater satisfaction with their romantic relationships than either gay men or heterosexuals.

Question 21

Describe the division of labor in a typical heterosexual household.Why does the division exist in this form? Do you think it is possible for the division of labor in the home to be exactly equal? Why or why not?

Question 22

Gay and lesbian couples tend to share perspectives on how to communicate affection.

Question 23

Male deficit model

Question 24

The Mommy Myth

Question 25

Feminine ruler:

Question 26

Socialization into gendered speech communities can make it challenging for men and women to be friends.

Question 27

Identify general patterns of similarities and differences in how masculine and feminine communication occurs within same sex friendships.(To make this question more challenging and integrateChapter 7 material,add: Explain how these differences grow out of gendered family socialization.)

Question 28

Psychological responsibility

Question 29

Second shift

Question 30

In the movie When Harry Met Sally,Harry says to Sally that men and women cannot be friends.Your book discusses some challenges and benefits of cross-sex friendships.Note at least two challenges and two benefits of cross-sex friendships.For each of the challenges you mention,note one way that friends could help to navigate that potential issue.

Question 31

Reflect on a nonromantic,close,same-sex friendship.In what ways does your friendship match or deviate patterns of friendships described in the book?

Question 32

Alternative paths model

Question 33

The author of your textbook writes that gendered orientations influence four dimensions of long-term love relationships: modes of expressing care,needs for autonomy and connection,responsibility for relational maintenance,and power.Discuss how heterosexual couples may differ from same-sex couples on two of the four dimensions.