Deck 4: Intimate Relationships and Communication

Question 1

_____________ is an idealized attraction toward a loved one.

A)Infatuation
B)Passion
C)Intimacy
D)Commitment

Answer 1

Infatuation

Question 2

A common issue that can hurt a relationship is expecting

A)your partner to change.
B)that your partner loves you.
C)physical and emotional intimacy.
D)that you can trust your partner.

Answer 2

your partner to change.

Question 3

______________ includes the activities,abilities,and characteristics that our culture has deemed appropriate for us based on whether we are male or female.

A)Gender identity
B)Sexual identity
C)Sexual orientation
D)Gender role

Answer 3

Gender role

Question 4

Real friends

A)can be tense and unhappy with each other.
B)do not share each other's difficulties.
C)do not have to show respect for each other.
D)include passion in their relationship.

Question 5

__________ is NOT a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

A)Physical or emotional abuse
B)Conflict
C)Codependency
D)Communicative withdrawal

Question 6

Jealousy is

A)proof that love exists.
B)a harmless emotion.
C)a measure of insecurity.
D)unrelated to self-esteem.

Question 7

Emotional intelligence includes

A)responding impulsively to feelings.
B)responding reactively to feelings.
C)recognizing feelings as they occur.
D)rejecting all emotional support.

Question 8

Reciprocity refers to

A)give-and-take between friends.
B)mutual respect.
C)over-dependence.
D)sexual desire.

Question 9

A successful relationship has proven to improve an individual's

A)physical strength.
B)ability to feel secure.
C)professional status.
D)earning power.

Question 10

The element that is LEAST characteristic of enduring love relationships is

A)pursuit of common goals.
B)closeness to each other.
C)absorption in each other.
D)promise of a shared future.

Question 11

The transformation of love progresses in the following way:

A)high levels of passion,increasing intimacy,diminished romance,emergence of enduring love.
B)high levels of passion,increasing intimacy,diminished romance,break up of relationship.
C)high levels of passion,diminished romance,emergence of enduring love,break up of relationship.
D)either high levels of passion,increasing intimacy,diminished romance,emergence of enduring love or high levels of passion,increasing intimacy,diminished romance,break up of relationship.

Question 12

The first relationships people form outside their families are

A)friendships.
B)professional relationships.
C)love relationships.
D)dependent relationships.

Question 13

Mindfulness can be cultivated by

A)speeding up our thought process.
B)planning and thinking ahead.
C)concentrating on multiple tasks.
D)maximizing awareness of ourselves.

Question 14

The roots of our identity and sense of self are found in our

A)childhood.
B)peer group.
C)profession.
D)community.

Question 15

Intimate partnerships differ from friendships in that intimate partnerships

A)do not require exclusiveness.
B)are more accepting and less critical.
C)are more stable and enduring over time.
D)include the presence of sexual desire.

Question 16

Characteristics of friendships include all of the following EXCEPT

A)respect.
B)trust.
C)dependence.
D)loyalty.

Question 17

The most long-lasting element of love is

A)euphoriA.
B)preoccupation with the loved one.
C)commitment.
D)idealization of the loved one.

Question 18

Anxious/avoidant relationships with parents may produce children who,when they reach adulthood,

A)find it easy to establish relationships.
B)are satisfied living a solitary lifestyle.
C)tend to stay married to the same person for a lifetime.
D)are inclined to run from relationships.

Question 19

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of commitment?

A)responsibility
B)passion
C)reliability
D)faithfulness

Question 20

Friendships usually include all of the following characteristics EXCEPT

A)companionship.
B)mutual acceptance.
C)reciprocity.
D)sexual passion.

Question 21

Of the following,which is the MOST constructive conflict resolution strategy?

A)providing selective information to minimize conflict
B)identifying alternatives to get what each person wants
C)keeping track of who "wins" and who "loses"
D)using sexual intimacy to smooth over disagreements

Question 22

If you and your partner find that you argue again and again over the same issue,you should

A)seek professional help.
B)end the relationship.
C)accept the differences between you.
D)deal with the issue at another time.

Question 23

It appears that your partner may NOT be interested in what you are saying if he or she responds by

A)looking in your eyes.
B)touching your hand.
C)looking around the room.
D)leaning toward you as you speak.

Question 24

All of the following are important guidelines for ending a relationship EXCEPT

A)"Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up."
B)"Be fair and honest."
C)"Be tactful."
D)"Move on as quickly as possible."

Question 25

Which of the following factors is NOT associated with the increasing popularity of cohabitation?

A)increased availability of contraceptives
B)younger average age at marriage
C)greater social acceptance of premarital sex
D)a larger pool of single and divorced people

Question 26

Which of the following is usually the basis of first attraction to another person?

A)values
B)appearance
C)religious affiliation
D)educational level

Question 27

Which of the following is NOT a component of good listening?

A)judging
B)respecting
C)empathy
D)genuineness

Question 28

If your partner expresses unhappiness about your relationship,it is best to

A)validate your partner's feelings and disclose your own feelings.
B)defend yourself and your actions.
C)leave the room before saying something you will regret.
D)offer constructive criticism on how your partner can meet your needs.

Question 29

If you want to pursue an online relationship,

A)use sexually oriented Web sites that will get your message across.
B)hold out for a "perfect" partner;after all,you have thousands to choose from.
C)give out only your name and place of employment/school;never give out your phone number.
D)find out the other person's situation and intention for the relationship.

Question 30

Once the euphoria of initial romance dies down,which of the following characteristics will help determine the quality and depth of the relationship with one's partner?

A)style of dress
B)physical attractiveness
C)general interests
D)future aspirations

Question 31

The three keys of good communication in a relationship include all of the following,EXECPT

A)negative criticism.
B)self-disclosure.
C)listening skills.
D)feedback skills.

Question 32

In cultures where parent-arranged marriages are common,marriages are often

A)stable and permanent.
B)likely to end in divorce.
C)part of polygamous relationships.
D)contingent on the fertility of the partners.

Question 33

The most important question for potential mates is,

A)"How much money do you make?"
B)"How much do we have in common?"
C)"How attractive are you?"
D)"Will your parents like me?"

Question 34

When you want to have a serious discussion with your partner,

A)do so immediately without preparation.
B)state your concern in a general,not too detailed way.
C)focus on the whole person,not just one behavior.
D)avoid blaming,accusing,or belittling him or her.

Question 35

All of the following are steps in effective conflict resolution EXCEPT

A)clarifying the issue.
B)finding out what each person wants.
C)not giving in to compromise.
D)reviewing and negotiating.

Question 36

____________ is a constructive response to another's self-disclosure.

A)Criticism
B)Feedback
C)A nonverbal cue
D)Issue clarification

Question 37

One advantage cohabitation has over marriage is

A)health insurance benefits are better.
B)most societies are prefer cohabitation.
C)inheritance rights are better.
D)partners have a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 38

Which of the following is NOT a constructive strategy for conflict resolution?

A)finding out what the other person wants
B)clarifying the issue
C)reviewing and renegotiating
D)issuing an ultimatum

Question 39

All of the following are drawbacks to online relationships,EXCEPT that

A)people can misrepresent themselves.
B)people can communicate in a relaxed way.
C)investing emotional resources in an unrealistic romance may be painful.
D)the relationship may become dangerous.

Question 40

"Revealing personal information that we ordinarily wouldn't reveal because of the risk involved" describes

A)non-verbal communication.
B)self-disclosure.
C)feedback.
D)constructive listening.

Question 41

Children in single-parent families are more likely to

A)demonstrate self-confidence.
B)have academic difficulty.
C)avoid relationships with others.
D)have early professional success.

Question 42

The birth of the first child is most likely to

A)cause very little change in a marriage.
B)reinforce traditional marital roles.
C)cause an equal degree of change for fathers and mothers.
D)reduce relationship stress.

Question 43

Which of the following is NOT a predictor of happy marriage?

A)good communication
B)previous positive sexual experience
C)agreement on religious values
D)feeling good about the personality of the other

Question 44

After a divorce occurs,the recovery period usually does not start for about

A)3 months after the divorce.
B)6 months after the divorce.
C)1 year after the divorce.
D)1 month for every year of marriage.

Question 45

Which of the following statements about gender roles in marriage is FALSE?

A)Married women,even those who work,do most of the domestic tasks.
B)Married men suffer more job-related stress than married women.
C)Society is moving toward equalization of responsibilities in marriages.
D)Married men have assumed an equal share of child-care responsibilities.

Question 46

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic that helps couples avoid marital dissatisfaction after the birth of a baby?

A)having a strong relationship before the baby is born
B)earning a high annual income
C)planning the birth of the child beforehand
D)communicating about feelings and expectations

Question 47

The greatest stress-producing event in life is usually

A)divorce.
B)marriage.
C)the death of spouse.
D)the birth of a chilD.

Question 48

The primary problems for single-parent families headed by women are

A)social.
B)academic.
C)religious.
D)economic.

Question 49

Once children grow up and leave home,marital satisfaction often

A)increases.
B)decreases.
C)severely decreases.
D)does not change.

Question 50

The high American divorce rate is probably the result of

A)high emotional expectations of marriage.
B)a growing need to be independent.
C)increased mobility in our society.
D)the trend of marrying at younger ages.

Question 51

All of the following contribute to the increasing popularity of singlehood EXCEPT

A)career goals.
B)the desire for financial independence.
C)greater sexual freedom.
D)low divorce rates.

Question 52

The four general parenting styles include all the following EXCEPT

A)authoritarian.
B)authoritative.
C)permissive.
D)absent.

Question 53

Commitment is based on

A)the level of romance in a relationship.
B)conscious choice.
C)the amount of sexual intimacy in a relationship.
D)feelings and emotions.

Question 54

Sexual orientation is best described as

A)sexual attraction to individuals of the opposite sex.
B)one's choice of sexual partner.
C)a consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex.
D)one's preference regarding the type of sexual activity in which one wants to engage.

Question 55

Family rituals can best be described as

A)methods by which parents control their children.
B)ceremonies performed for religious reasons.
C)traditions that build family ties.
D)regularly repeated daily activities.

Question 56

One difference between heterosexual and homosexual couples is that same-sex partnerships tend to

A)be more egalitarian.
B)have clearly defined roles for each partner.
C)have one partner provide for the other financially.
D)have special legal protections.

Question 57

The divorce process usually begins with

A)legal separation.
B)emotional separation.
C)physical separation.
D)social isolation.

Question 58

Approximately what percentage of divorced people marry again?

A)15 percent
B)50 percent
C)75 percent
D)95 percent

Question 59

Legally,marital status affects all of the following EXCEPT

A)Social Security.
B)federal tax status.
C)medical decision making.
D)the right to use contraceptives.

Question 60

Today,most people marry mainly

A)to form an economic unit.
B)to raise children.
C)for personal,emotional reasons.
D)for a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 61

Conflict is an inevitable part of any intimate relationship.

Question 62

Effective communication includes making sure that your words match your body language.

Question 63

The ability to interpret nonverbal messages correctly is important to the success of relationships.

Question 64

It is possible to work on unresolved,past issues within an adult relationship.

Question 65

Intense passion is required for love to endure.

Question 66

Which of the following statements about strong families is FALSE?

A)Family members rarely seek counseling.
B)Family members express appreciation for one another.
C)Family members communicate with one another.
D)Family members share a sense of spiritual wellness.

Question 67

The satisfaction in a relationship may increase when the intensity and excitement of initial passionate love subsides.

Question 68

The foundation of most relationships is sexual compatibility.

Question 69

Having the conviction that you are always right is harmless competitiveness.

Question 70

Violence in dating and marriage relationships can be precipitated by jealousy.

Question 71

Our adult styles of loving may be based on the type of attachment we established in infancy with our mothers,fathers,or other caregivers.

Question 72

Current research reveals that men and women find it equally easy to separate love and sex.

Question 73

Intimacy and sex are the same.

Question 74

If you are the rejected person in a failed relationship,you should go out and begin a new relationship immediately.

Question 75

Out of necessity,commitment and passion do diminish over time.

Question 76

In order to develop an identity as a couple,individuals need to lose some autonomy.

Question 77

The majority of the communication between two people is nonverbal.

Question 78

Lovers are usually more accepting and less critical than friends.

Question 79

A helpful skill in relationships is to be able to observe our emotions without judging them or immediately acting on them.

Question 80

People who have a positive self-concept are more likely to develop successful intimate relationships.