Deck 10: The Practice of Forgiveness and Reconciliation

Question 1

Sarah has recently been robbed and is leery of leaving her apartment if unnecessary.According to Layton's forgiveness process,Sarah is in the midst of which of the following steps?

A)Injured innocence
B)Obsession
C)Fear
D)Transformation
E)Transcendence

Answer 1

A

Question 2

Unlike giving forgiveness,receiving forgiveness is a simple task.

Answer 2

False

Question 3

A person who is caught up in what has happened to her or him and uses the story to get sympathy from others may be caught up in the "eddy" of:

A)resentment.
B)victimization.
C)revenge.
D)depression.
E)withdrawal.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Revenge,especially in the form of violence,seems to settle the score in the short run,but almost always provides justification for counter-revenge.

Question 5

An effective apology includes making amends for the wrongdoing.

Question 6

Which of the following statements is true of the ancient Hawaiian practice known as Ho'oponopono?

A)It states that the most effective form of apology requires some sort of accompanying justification.
B)It reinforces the idea that expedient apologies are more effective than compelled apologies.
C)It requires conflicting parties to apologize by making a ritual sacrifice of a valued possession.
D)It recognizes that grievances are often tied together and that one layer of resentment underlies another.
E)It believes that apologies should be strictly voluntary and that one should never be asked to make any form of restitution.

Question 7

Part of the process of forgiving someone is to face the anger you feel.

Question 8

The text suggests that children who've been abused should try to forget about the events and memories so they can move on more easily.

Question 9

Which of the following is a characteristic of forgiveness?

A)Dismissing or minimizing a situation
B)Excusing the actions or behavior of the other
C)Indifference about justice
D)Acknowledging the truth about what has happened
E)Punishing the transgressor

Question 10

Repairing a relationship so that reengagement,cooperation,and trust become possible after a transgression is what your book calls "reconciliation."

Question 11

According to the text,sometimes forgiveness is best approached as a decision in order to give a person something to "do."

Question 12

"If you think you are going to walk out on me,I'll make sure your parents know everything you did when we were living with them" is an example of what type of hurtful message?

A)Desire
B)Threat
C)Advice
D)Evaluation
E)Accusation

Question 13

Pressure to forgive,especially when it is applied by those with more power, may serve to eliminate the hierarchical structures that made the abuse possible in the first place.

Question 14

Your book says that memories are essential to the forgiveness process since they may help you become less susceptible to repeated injury.

Question 15

One effective way to offer forgiveness to another is to ask the person to meet a condition that is important to you.

Question 16

A common misconception about forgiveness is that it excuses the behavior of the transgressor seeking forgiveness.

Question 17

In the phase of "transcendence," a person is able to stop obsessing over images and messages from the past.

Question 18

When Lisa says to her husband,"You'd make a lousy father," she is communicating which type of hurtful message?

A)Accusation
B)Advice
C)Evaluation
D)Threat
E)Desire

Question 19

The question "Am I willing to consider forgiveness as an option?" is most closely related to which of the following stages of forgiveness?

A)Uncovering
B)Work
C)Decision
D)Outcome
E)All of the answers are correct.

Question 20

Jim and Susan are getting a divorce,and they have been going to court to obtain a custody settlement.Jim suddenly realizes that his fight for the children has more to do with hurting Susan than with the children's well-being (they both are good parents to the children).Jim is portraying which stage in the forgiveness process?

A)The strand of empathy
B)The strand of forbearance
C)The strand of commitment
D)The strand of truth
E)The strand of interaction

Question 21

Individuals are more likely to renegotiate a relationship through forgiveness when they know which of the following?

A)There is essential agreement regarding the nature of the violation to the relationship.
B)The other has acknowledged the hurt experienced.
C)An apology for the hurt will be included.
D)The other is willing to apologize for the offensive behavior.
E)All of the answers are correct.

Question 22

Which of the following is not necessary for an effective apology?

A)Acknowledgement of responsibility
B)Awareness of harm resulting from one's actions
C)Promises of not engaging in the offensive behavior again
D)Expression of regret or remorse
E)An expression of wrong-doing

Question 23

Which of the following dimensions of interpersonal conflict is most relevant to the discussion of offering and accepting forgiveness?

A)Expressed struggle
B)Interdependence
C)Incompatible goals
D)Scarce resources
E)Interference from the other in achieving goals

Question 24

Brett has clobbered his brother Tyler over the head with a toy.Immediately,their mother pulls Brett aside and tells him to go over to his brother and apologize.Brett glances in Tyler's direction and says (with a bit of sarcasm)"Sorry." Brett's apology is an example of which of the following forms of apology?

A)Expedient apology
B)Compelled apology
C)Delayed apology
D)Sincere apology
E)Public apology