Deck 14: Maintaining and Repairing Relationships

Question 1

Although he knows his wife can sometimes be rude and has some annoying habits,Keith thinks these are unintentional and don't happen that often.It seems Keith:

A) has a positive illusion about his wife.
B) has a belief in perceived superiority.
C) is inattentive to alternatives.
D) is experiencing the Michelangelo phenomenon.

Answer 1

A

Question 2

Completely in love with his wife,Andy hardly notices the flirting of a coworker.As a contented partner,Andy is displaying:

A) positive illusions.
B) inattention to alternatives.
C) inattention to propositions.
D) positive inattention.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

Research on derogation of tempting alternatives has shown that:

A) all alternatives are derogated.
B) only alternatives that are potential threats to the relationship are derogated.
C) derogation only occurs if the partner will know about the alternatives.
D) derogation occurs for tempting personal or professional alternatives (e.g., new job) but not relationship alternatives (e.g., attractive woman).

Answer 3

B

Question 4

Seeing a movie that interests your partner but not you is a(n):

A) unproductive strategy.
B) behavioral maintenance mechanism.
C) cognitive maintenance mechanism.
D) form of derogation of alternatives.

Question 5

Samantha and Sam often talk about how their relationship is better than most.Reminding each other of all the marriages that end in divorce,they consider their 28 year marriage to be very special.This is an example of how Samantha and Sam:

A) are derogating alternatives to maintain their relationship.
B) have a perceived superiority with regard to their relationship.
C) have a willingness to sacrifice to maintain their relationship.
D) are engaging in the Michelangelo phenomenon.

Question 6

The shift from thinking of oneself as an "I" to a "we" in relationships is known as:

A) cognitive dissonance.
B) cognitive-behavioral maintenance.
C) cognitive interdependence.
D) cognitive decline.

Question 7

Which of the following is NOT a behavioral maintenance mechanism?

A) Willingness to sacrifice
B) Derogation of tempting alternatives
C) Play
D) Michelangelo phenomenon

Question 8

The text emphasizes the concept of relationship maintenance mechanisms as:

A) a relationship stage.
B) actions taken to sustain a relationship.
C) the positive side of relationships (trust, commitment, satisfaction, stability, etc.).
D) a way of fostering the gradually increasing quality of relationships.

Question 9

_____ partners tend to stay alert for better relationship options.

A) Uncommitted
B) Committed
C) Long-married
D) Young

Question 10

Perceived superiority,or thinking that your relationship is better than others,is associated with:

A) contempt for others.
B) more relationship conflict.
C) stability of the relationship.
D) magical thinking.

Question 11

When Crystal's husband comes home from work and snaps at her over some trivial issue,she understands that he's probably had a stressful day and resists the urge to snap back.In this scenario,Crystal practices:

A) the Michelangelo phenomenon.
B) prayer.
C) accommodation.
D) willingness to sacrifice.

Question 12

_____ is the leading reason why marriages end.

A) Infidelity
B) Abuse
C) Drug addiction
D) Stress

Question 13

After going out with her boyfriend for six months,Lucy finds herself often talking using the pronouns "we" and "us" rather than "I" and "me." This self-definition change is referred to as:

A) cognitive dissonance.
B) cognitive-behavioral maintenance.
C) cognitive interdependence.
D) cognitive decline.

Question 14

Accommodation requires:

A) martyrdom.
B) a counselor's guidance.
C) making one's partner a better person.
D) self-control.

Question 15

Derogation of tempting alternatives allows people to feel that other potential partners are:

A) unavailable.
B) less attractive than one's current partner.
C) likely to be rejecting of one's advances.
D) all from similar backgrounds.

Question 16

Our enhanced well-being and enhanced relationships due to partners that encourage us to be all that we can be is named the:

A) positivity phenomenon.
B) enhancement phenomenon.
C) Michelangelo phenomenon.
D) Monet phenomenon.

Question 17

Which of the following is NOT a cognitive maintenance mechanism?

A) Positive illusions
B) Cognitive interdependence
C) Derogation of tempting alternatives
D) Accommodation

Question 18

Most relationship problems:

A) are insurmountable.
B) can be dealt with but leave lasting scars.
C) are fixable.
D) happen to people with insecure attachment.

Question 19

Relationship maintenance mechanisms have been studied in two basic ways:

A) investment and communication.
B) attachment and contentment.
C) commitment and intimacy.
D) credits and debits.

Question 20

The maintenance mechanism of prayer:

A) is most effective when we pray for our own needs.
B) is less effective than other mechanisms.
C) leads to relationship satisfaction for a person who prays for their partner's well-being.
D) has been debunked by leading scientists.

Question 21

The long-term effects of premarital preparation programs (PREP,etc.)are:

A) uncertain.
B) overwhelmingly positive; most marriages begun this way stay together for many years.
C) negligible.
D) actually negative; marriages that begin this way are more likely to end in divorce.

Question 22

Unified detachment is a tactic in which partners are encouraged to view their problems:

A) in an unemotional way.
B) with emotional engagement.
C) as nonexistent.
D) through the eyes of a third party.

Question 23

Which type of therapy is likely to focus on agreements to reward positive actions of your spouse with positive actions of your own?

A) Traditional behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Emotionally focused couple therapy

Question 24

Which type of therapy is likely to focus on helping to train spouses to treat each other in a manner that provides safety,security,and love?

A) Behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Emotionally focused couple therapy

Question 25

To show that he is committed to their relationship,Cameron often engages his girlfriend in discussions about their plans for the future.He is engaging in the maintenance mechanism of:

A) understanding.
B) joint activities.
C) sharing tasks.
D) assurance.

Question 26

Wes and Sandra are in a couple therapy.Their therapist is focusing on replacing their current negative interactions with more pleasant and rewarding interactions.This is an example of:

A) traditional behavioral couple therapy.
B) insight-oriented couple therapy.
C) integrative behavioral couple therapy.
D) emotionally focused therapy.

Question 27

The outcomes literature suggests that premarital programs are:

A) not effective.
B) effective in the early years of marriage.
C) effective over the long-term.
D) yet to be studied.

Question 28

Of the following maintenance mechanisms,which is the best predictor of a happy marriage?

A) Sharing tasks
B) Openness
C) Social networks
D) Understanding

Question 29

Carl and Janet have an agreement that if she will vacuum the house on Saturday,he will dust on Sunday.This is a(n):

A) good faith contract.
B) relationship belief.
C) quid pro quo contract.
D) attribution.

Question 30

To repair their relationship,Andrew and Betty obtain help from a family therapist.After de-escalating their problematic interactional cycles,the therapist asks the couple to accept their own disowned needs,to accept their partner's evolving construction of the situation,and to create emotional engagement with each other.Lastly,the therapist tries to consolidate new patterns of attachment behavior.Which approach does this description best represent?

A) Behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Emotionally focused couple therapy

Question 31

With regard to self-help relationship books and websites,consumers should:

A) avail all the information from these sources that they can.
B) steer clear-these sources cannot be trusted.
C) be wary and check the credentials of the author or site before acting on their advice.
D) only trust books because websites are not as well monitored.

Question 32

One of the relationship maintenance mechanisms endorsed by PREP is:

A) the Michelangelo phenomenon.
B) social networks.
C) accommodation.
D) play.

Question 33

The effect of maintenance mechanisms:

A) declines slowly, so the effect of one activity can last a long time.
B) declines quickly, so if they are stopped satisfaction begins to decline.
C) is permanent and activities need not be repeated.
D) is effective only once; new maintenance mechanisms must be used to have continued satisfaction.

Question 34

Forgiving an intimate partner:

A) is a sign of weakness in a relationship.
B) will only draw out an inevitable breakup.
C) is less stressful than holding a grudge.
D) is not recommended by most counselors.

Question 35

Insight-oriented couple therapy puts a greater emphasis on _____ than other types of couple therapy.

A) openness
B) partners' individual vulnerabilities
C) bringing out the best in one another
D) sharing tasks

Question 36

Of the following,which therapy does NOT have a primary focus on understanding or change of emotions?

A) Insight-oriented couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Emotionally focused therapy

Question 37

Which of the following factors does not contribute to contentment in relationships?

A) Positivity
B) Reassurance seeking
C) Providing assurances of love
D) Relationship talk

Question 38

Which type of therapy is likely to focus on accepting incompatibilities that partners cannot change?

A) Traditional behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Insight-oriented couple therapy

Question 39

Which type of therapy is likely to focus on instilling reasonable expectations and relationship beliefs?

A) Traditional behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Emotionally focused couple therapy

Question 40

In the textbook,the prescription for contentment is to:

A) ask for help when you need it; accept with appreciation; return the favor.
B) accommodate your partner; maintain your calm in all situations; expect your partner to accommodate for you.
C) appreciate your partner; express your gratitude; repeat.
D) argue rarely; celebrate often; keep having fun.

Question 41

Regarding the effectiveness of marital therapy:

A) traditional behavioral marital therapy is the most effective.
B) cognitive-behavioral marital therapy is the only demonstrably effective therapy.
C) emotional and insight-oriented therapies are superior to behavioral approaches.
D) all types of therapy have demonstrable effectiveness.

Question 42

Couples therapy is:

A) largely underutilized. Couples do not seek it as much or as soon as they should.
B) largely overutilized. Couples seek it too soon and too much.
C) somewhat overutilized. Although some couples do not, many couples use therapy too much.
D) appropriately utilized. Couples seek it when they need it and before problems get severe.

Question 43

Most couples who participate in couple therapies are:

A) worse off afterward.
B) better off afterward.
C) in about the same condition after therapy as they were before.
D) are better off for a few weeks, but then fall back into old patterns.

Question 44

People are most likely to experience favorable outcomes from marital therapy when:

A) there are children involved.
B) it is their last resort before divorce.
C) they have positive expectations.
D) they use a psychoanalytic approach.

Question 45

In marital therapy,the therapist:

A) is not as important as the therapeutic approach.
B) is just as important as the approach used.
C) should be chosen by one partner.
D) need not be researched by the couple as long as they're listed on a creditable website.

Question 46

Most people who seriously participate in any of the marital therapies are likely to be better off afterward,and (as a very rough average)about _____ of them will no longer be dissatisfied with their marriages.

A) one-fourth
B) one-third
C) half
D) two-thirds

Question 47

Which type of therapy is likely to encourage participants to re-imagine their relationship histories in an effort to identify problematic patterns?

A) Behavioral couple therapy
B) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy
C) Integrative behavioral couple therapy
D) Insight-oriented couple therapy

Question 48

Most people divorce:

A) without consulting a marital therapist.
B) within a year of marriage.
C) without much thought.
D) out of boredom.

Question 49

Which therapy will work best for you?

A) Insight-oriented couple therapy works best for most people, so it's likely to work best for you.
B) Whichever therapy appeals to you the most.
C) Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy works best for most people, so it's likely to work best for you.
D) Whichever therapy your spouse suggests.

Question 50

What is common to all of the marital therapies reviewed?

A) All provide explanations for the difficulties.
B) All focus on emotional expression.
C) All focus on the therapeutic relationship.
D) All include homework.