Deck 4: Communication

Question 1

When one spouse insults, swears, or shouts, the other is likely to:

A)get depressed
B)engage in the same behavior
C)ignore the behavior
D)feel upset and silently plan to get back at the partner

Answer 1

B

Question 2

Reflective listening involves which of the following?

A)listening with the "third" ear so the person will know you understand
B)paraphrasing or restating what the person you are listening to has said to you
C)listening to your "inner voice"
D)saying something pleasing to the partner to keep the interaction going

Answer 2

B

Question 3

With regard to new research on sexting, which of the following was found to be false?

A)About sixty percent of undergraduates in one study reported sending erotic texts.
B)Men were more likely than women to send erotic text messages.
C)There were no gender differences in sending sex text messages.
D)Nonwhites were more likely to report using technology to send sex content.

Answer 3

B

Question 4

With regard to division of labor and satisfaction, Claffey and Mickelson (2010) found that:

A)women are more dissatisfied because they do most of the work.
B)the perception of the division of labor upsets partners more than the actual division of labor.
C)men feel guilty because they do not do their share.
D)both sexes are upset about it but for different reasons.

Question 5

A wife who folds her hands and rolls her eyes is using what form of communication?

A)nonverbal
B)explicit expressions
C)verbal communication
D)sculpting

Question 6

With regard to new research on sexting, which of the following was found to be false?

A)Sending sex messages was more frequent than sending erotic photos.
B)About four in ten respondents reported sending an erotic photo.
C)Nonwhites sent more erotic messages than whites.
D)The younger the undergraduate (e.g., freshman), the more likely he or she was to sext.

Question 7

Which of the following is an open-ended question?

A)How do you feel about having children?
B)Do you like children?
C)Would you consider adopting a child?
D)Do you think we would make beautiful children together?

Question 8

The average number of text messages per month that today's youth send to their partners and/or peers is:

A)about 100
B)about 200
C)about 2000
D)about 4000

Question 9

"Come over anytime" typically means which of the following?

A)I care about our friendship and look forward to seeing you.
B)You are welcome to come over but call before you come.
C)Just what is says, the door is always open.
D)Never come.

Question 10

With regard to relationships, people most likely use text messaging to:

A)send erotic messages
B)send erotic photos and videos
C)give negative feedback to partner that cannot be done face to face
D)commence, advance, or maintain relationships

Question 11

Which of the following is not considered to be an advantage of using of MySpace?

A)It provides one with bragging privileges in cyberspace.
B)It connects one to others.
C)It confirms one's acceptance to others.
D)It provides support as one navigates a developing interpersonal world.

Question 12

Which of the following is not a closed-ended question?

A)Will I see you again?
B)Do you like to dance?
C)Would you like to hang out tonight?
D)How do you feel about me?

Question 13

Which of the following is not identified in your text as a function of texting?

A)commencing a relationship
B)advancing a relationship
C)ending a relationship
D)maintaining a relationship

Question 14

Which of the following is not a characteristic of addiction in text messaging?

A)loss of relationships due to overuse
B)loss of control-person feels driven to be texting
C)use of alcohol while texting
D)mechanism of escape

Question 15

According to Markman et al. (2010), how many negatives translate into a "bad week"?

A)one
B)somewhere between five and ten
C)over 15
D)if there are plenty of positives, the spouses don't notice the negatives

Question 16

Being authentic means to be:

A)open with one's partner about one's preferences and feelings
B)sensitive to the needs of the other person and avoid their "emotional G spot"
C)aware that it is one's thoughts and feelings not one's behavior that rules
D)aware that it is one's behavior, not one's thoughts and feelings that rule

Question 17

What is an example of a "correct rejection"?

A)Mark comes home drunk and Mary says nothing but cuts off sex.
B)Mary goes to bed early so as to avoid sex.
C)Mark comes home drunk and Mary says nothing.
D)Mark confronts Mary with her sexual rejection of him.

Question 18

An open-ended question is one that:

A)cannot be answered
B)encourages a person to give an answer that contains a lot of information
C)encourages a person to provide a simple, "to the point" answer
D)is vague so the person listening can "hear" what they want to hear

Question 19

When is the Internet a problem in relationships?

A)when only one partner knows how to play games on the Internet
B)when the partners spend all of their time on the Internet together
C)when partners disagree about whether to buy high speed Internet for their apartment
D)when partners prefer being on the Internet to spending time with each other

Question 20

Which of the following is not true of conflict in relationships?

A)Sustained conflict over chronic problems contributes to poor mental health.
B)Sustained conflict over chronic problems contributes to poor physical health.
C)Couples in trouble are those who never discuss their problems.
D)Couples in trouble are those who disagree about an issue.

Question 21

A message is congruent when:

A)it makes a request for change in the future
B)it conveys respect for the other person's feelings and opinions
C)the verbal and nonverbal behavior match
D)it reflects a balance of power in the relationship

Question 22

What percent of undergraduates will contract an STI during college?

A)5%
B)25%
C)50%
D)75%

Question 23

Nancy was criticizing Mike for being chronically late but ended up also criticizing him for his alcohol abuse, cheating, and lying. Her attack on him is an example of:

A)nonreciprocal nagging
B)branching
C)"You" statements
D)resentment

Question 24

"Branching" refers to which of the following?

A)a technique for generating solutions to a conflict
B)applying one solution to several problems
C)admitting that you are at fault
D)not staying focused on an issue

Question 25

What percent of undergraduates in lose-lose relationships expected their relationships to continue?

A)zero
B)25%
C)50%
D)65%

Question 26

What is the most frequent lie college students tell a new partner?

A)"I love you."
B)"I've never cheated."
C)their true feelings for the previous partner
D)the number of previous partners they have had

Question 27

Which individual is more likely to keep a secret?

A)a wife
B)a woman who just got engaged
C)a woman who is living with her partner
D)a woman who comes from an abusive home

Question 28

Suppose you and your partner are discussing where the two of you will go for Spring Break. You want to go to the beach; your partner wants to visit family. Your partner says to you: "You don't want to visit my family because you don't like my parents." Which of the following is an example of a reflective statement that you could make?

A)"You aren't exactly thrilled about my parents either."
B)"I do so like your parents."
C)"Let's talk about this later when we haven't been drinking"
D)"You feel that I don't like your parents."

Question 29

In a couple's relationship, the woman is significantly more likely than the man to:

A)disclose
B)expect her partner to disclose
C)both disclose and expect her partner to disclose
D)be coy and withhold her true feelings

Question 30

Which spouse is more likely to bring up a problem for discussion?

A)the husband
B)the wife
C)both equally
D)neither spouse will bring it up

Question 31

College students are most likely to be involved what kind of relationships?

A)win-lose relationships
B)lose-lose relationships
C)win-win relationships
D)There is no one type of relationship which predominates among college students.

Question 32

Regarding forgiveness, your text emphasizes that:

A)it is best to "will" one's self to forgive
B)it is best to be self-reflective and recognize we all hurt others and need forgiveness
C)it is best to discover the power of forgiveness that religion has to offer
D)people who can't forgive tend to be lonely

Question 33

What should you say when your partner tells you something you do upsets him/her?

A)Use a defense mechanism.
B)Take it as an opportunity to give your partner negative feedback.
C)Reinforce the process of communication by thanking your partner for telling you.
D)Gently change the topic of the conversation to something more positive.

Question 34

All of the following are ways of exercising power in a relationship except:

A)withdrawal
B)blackmail
C)physical abuse
D)gift giving

Question 35

A win-win solution:

A)is one in which both people involved in a conflict feel satisfied with the resolution
B)usually results when there is an unequal distribution of power in the relationship
C)is likely to result when partners exhibit a symmetrical style of conflict
D)is likely to result when partners exhibit a complementary style of conflict

Question 36

"Do you love me?" is an example of:

A)a closed-ended question
B)an open-ended question
C)a "you" statement question
D)an "I" statement question

Question 37

"Fighting fair" means which of the following?

A)fighting so as not to hurt the partner or damage the relationship after the disagreement
B)fighting only with individuals who have as much power as you have
C)hurting the other person's feelings as much as he or she has hurt your feelings
D)choosing a neutral third party to act as a "referee" during an argument (e.g., mediator)

Question 38

The technique of brainstorming involves:

A)suggesting as many alternatives as possible, without evaluating them
B)expressing all of the negative emotions one is feeling
C)identifying the positive and negative consequences of alternatives
D)focusing on "wants" rather than on "don't wants"

Question 39

Howard Markman and his colleagues have been studying 150 couples at yearly intervals to determine those factors most responsible for marital success. They found that
____ is the single biggest predictor of marital success over time.

A)family background
B)religious faith
C)communication skills/constructive arguing
D)having few differences

Question 40

Connie wanted her husband Phil to take a second job so they could save for a new car. When Phil found a second job, Connie complained that Phil was not spending enough time with the family. The conflict that resulted best illustrates which of the following sources of conflict?

A)leadership ambiguity
B)inconsistent rules
C)value differences
D)cognitions and perceptions

Question 41

More communication is in what people don't say (nonverbal) than what they say (verbal).

Question 42

Which of the following is not a type of lie identified by Ennis et al. (2008)?

A)self-centered lie ("I didn't do it.")
B)accusatory lie ("You did it.")
C)other oriented lie ("Your hair looks good.")
D)altruistic ("She didn't do it.")

Question 43

Fred recently found out that his partner is infected with HIV. Fred refuses to get tested for HIV and has begun to drink excessive amounts of alcohol. Which defense mechanism may be operating?

A)projection
B)rationalization
C)escapism
D)displacement

Question 44

Khalsa (2006) noted that reporting HIV infection is ____ in most states.

A)voluntary
B)optional
C)mandatory
D)being legislated in Congress

Question 45

Spouses tend to turn the other cheek in communicating-if one yells, the other is quiet.

Question 46

For Jose to forgive Maria for cheating, he might focus on:

A)the fact that he has made mistakes too
B)"willing" himself to forgive her
C)recognizing that she has only cheated once
D)going to church with her

Question 47

Which of the following is not part of the symbolic interactionist view of communication?

A)definition of the situation
B)looking-glass self
C)taking the role of the other
D)self-fulfilling prophecy

Question 48

Females tend to signal the male when they are ready to escalate a relationship.

Question 49

Reporting HIV infection and AIDS is mandatory in most states.

Question 50

When men talk to women, they tend to focus on all of the following except:

A)activities
B)information
C)solving problems
D)the needs of the partner

Question 51

When women talk to men, they tend to focus on:

A)relationships and emotions
B)solutions
C)jealousy
D)moods

Question 52

Symbolic interactionists emphasize that ____ involves each partner understanding the other's logic and feelings.

A)mating gradient reflection
B)taking the role of the other
C)the looking glass self
D)a reflective encounter

Question 53

Mary is miserable in her marriage to an abusive alcoholic but says her parents and children are better off if she stays married. What defense mechanism is operative?

A)projection
B)rationalization
C)escapism
D)displacement

Question 54

Gloria flirts with her office mate and accuses her husband of having an affair. Which defense mechanism may be operative?

A)projection
B)rationalization
C)escapism
D)displacement

Question 55

"How do you feel about me?" is an example of an open-ended question.

Question 56

If Maria wants Jose to forgive her for having an affair, what behavior will most elicit his forgiveness?

A)initiating sex more frequently to show him he is the one she wants sexually
B)becoming more sexual (variety) with him
C)not reminding him that he cheated on her
D)being very remorseful for her behavior

Question 57

Diane lost her job and ran out of gas. When she got home, she yelled at her husband. Which defense mechanism may be operating?

A)projection
B)rationalization
C)escapism
D)displacement

Question 58

The most common reason romantic partners text each other is to:

A)set up or confirm plans later that day
B)apologize
C)express affection
D)discuss a serious issue

Question 59

Who of the following is most likely to keep a secret from a romantic partner?

A)a man
B)someone in a heterosexual relationship
C)someone who is single
D)someone who is African American

Question 60

Most communication is:

A)nonverbal
B)verbal
C)direct
D)indirect

Question 61

Discuss seven steps in conflict resolution.

Question 62

Compare win-win, win-lose, and lose-lose relationships and note the frequency of college
student involvement in each.

Question 63

What are the steps in resolving a disagreement?

Question 64

One negative comment can make for a "bad week" in a couple's relationship.

Question 65

Give examples of how power can be expressed in a relationship.

Question 66

College students are notorious for staying in lose-lose relationships.

Question 67

The perception of the division of labor upsets partners more than the actual division of labor.

Question 68

Compare different styles of conflict resolution and identify those most conducive to reported marital satisfaction.

Question 69

Sustained conflict over chronic interpersonal problems is associated with decreased
mental health.

Question 70

Compare how women and men differ in their communication patterns.

Question 71

Discuss various sources of conflict in relationships.

Question 72

Identify and discuss 15 principles and techniques of effective communication.

Question 73

Discuss the benefits of using open-ended questions compared to closed-ended questions.

Question 74

Discuss the reasons why individuals keep secrets in romantic relationships.

Question 75

The number of previous sex partners is the most frequent lie told by students to new
partners.

Question 76

Men are more likely to send sex messages when texting than women.

Question 77

Identify current social policies in regard to HIV/STI disclosure to partners.

Question 78

Identify the demographic characteristics of individuals who keep secrets in romantic
relationships.

Question 79

Explain how chronic problems are associated with mental health.

Question 80

Some teenagers appear "addicted" to text messaging.