Deck 8: Enhancing Relationships

Question 1

1-2 Research has found that most adults tend to have on average _____ best friends.

A) 10 to 20
B) 4 to 6
C) 1 to 2
D) 3 to 4

Answer 1

C

Question 2

1-6 Lara has just started a new job and is feeling somewhat anxious.She can reduce her uncertainty by which passive method?

A) Perception checking with her colleagues
B) Observing her surroundings and how people interact on the job
C) Asking her coworkers for information
D) Asking her supervisor for information

Answer 2

B

Question 3

1-12 In general,relationships can _____,and they can _____ when they escalate.

A) be exploratory;intensify
B) stagnate;separate
C) reach turmoil;stagnate
D) separate;stagnate

Answer 3

A

Question 4

1-11 Leslie and Pat have reached a stage in their relationship in which they understand one another to the point that they can almost finish one another's sentences,openly discuss any issue,and are recognized among friends and family members as a committed couple.This would be an example of what stage in relational escalation?

A) Exploration
B) Intensification
C) Initiation
D) Intimacy

Question 5

1-16 A perspective that revolves around how relational partners manage tensions is called

A) Intensification.
B) relational de-escalation.
C) relational de-intensification.
D) relational dialectics.

Question 6

1-3 When considering relationships,FWBR means_____.

A) a hookup
B) a relationship built on a casual meeting
C) a relationship that is a "one-night stand"
D) a relationship that is changed into a romantic relationship after sexual activity
E) a sexual relationship between existing friends

Question 7

1-13 Jose cringed as he thought about going home after work.Lately,he and Cassandra spend every minute together fighting.He used to think the way she played with her food was cute;now he finds it annoying.What stage of relational de-escalation are Jose and Cassandra facing?

A) Individualization stage
B) Stagnation stage
C) Turmoil stage
D) Separation stage

Question 8

1-14 Maria and Andre have been married for five years,but lately they hardly talk unless it's necessary.They used to take time out of their busy schedules to go on dates or just talk.It often feels like they're just going through the motions.What stage of relational de-escalation does this example illustrate?

A) Turmoil stage
B) Stagnation stage
C) Individualization stage
D) De-intensification stage

Question 9

1-5 The most common profile of the American family in the 21st century is

A) the blended family.
B) the single-parent family.
C) the step-family.
D) both a and c

Question 10

1-15 A couple experiences significantly less interaction and begins to no longer depend as much on one another for support.They also begin to question whether their relationship has a future.This illustrates which stage in relational de-escalation?

A) Individualization stage
B) De-intensification stage
C) Separation stage
D) Turmoil stage

Question 11

1-20 The tension between revealing information and maintaining privacy is the _____ dialectic.

A) autonomy vs.connection
B) predictability vs.novelty
C) openness vs.closedness
D) none of these

Question 12

1-8 Dan and Donna begin self-disclosing information about their dreams for the future,values,and religious beliefs,but they still spend a limited amount of time with one another.They are moving into which stage of relational escalation?

A) Initiation
B) Exploration
C) Intensification
D) Interaction awareness

Question 13

1-1 According to your book,at which stage in life do relationships with our peers become the most important social influence in our lives?

A) Childhood
B) Adolescence
C) Adulthood
D) Senior adults

Question 14

1-18 When a relationship forms between dating partners after their romance terminates,it is called which of the following?

A) stagnation stage
B) initiation stage
C) FWBR stage
D) post-interaction stage
E) postdissolution relationship

Question 15

1-4 According to Satir,which of the following is a characteristic of a healthy family?

A) They keep feelings of anger to themselves.
B) They treat people differently according to their age.
C) They are careful not to violate one another's personal space.
D) They establish flexible rules that can be changed.

Question 16

1-7 Samir notices Anna in his public speaking class and asks a mutual friend about her.This example would characterize which stage in relational escalation?

A) Pre-interaction awareness stage
B) Intimacy stage
C) Initiation stage
D) Exploration stage

Question 17

1-19 The tension between stability and change is the _____ dialectic.

A) autonomy vs.connection
B) predictability vs.change
C) openness vs.closedness
D) none of these

Question 18

1-10 The relationship stage in which you begin to spend more time together,begin depending upon each other for self-confirmation,and increase the variety of activities you participate in together is the _____ stage.

A) initiation
B) intensification
C) exploration
D) intimacy

Question 19

1-9 Pablo and Nakara are exchanging information about hometowns,high schools,the weather,TV shows,and people they know.In which stage of relational escalation are they most likely to be?

A) Individualization
B) Intensification
C) Exploration
D) Initiation

Question 20

1-17 The tension between personal freedom and shared activities is the _____ dialectic.

A) autonomy vs.connection
B) predictability vs.novelty
C) openness vs.closedness
D) none of these

Question 21

1-29 Sandra and Jennifer have been roommates for several years and both love to entertain.When they want to plan a special evening for friends,Sandra plans the menu,visits several gourmet markets,and spends the afternoon happily preparing an exquisite feast.Jennifer,on the other hand,takes care of the invitations,cleans the apartment,and selects the entertainment for the evening.In regard to entertaining,this relationship would be characterized as being

A) complementary.
B) symmetrical.
C) parallel.
D) unilateral.

Question 22

1-26 Argumentative episodes that focused on a given issue that occur at least twice are called

A) serial arguments.
B) irresolvable conflict.
C) pseudoconflict.
D) ego conflict.

Question 23

1-32 Justin's girlfriend,Malika,is angry with him for spending so much time with his friends.When she tried to discuss it with him,he changed the subject and began talking about his new boss.What conflict strategy did Justin use?

A) Placating
B) Distracting
C) Computing
D) Confrontational

Question 24

1-35 Justin had a problem with his roommate's late night habit of watching TV when Justin was trying to sleep.In discussing the problem,Justin told his roommate that he could either stop watching TV late at night or he could move out.How would you describe Justin's conflict management style?

A) Nonconfrontational
B) Confrontational
C) Passive
D) Cooperative
E) Up front

Question 25

1-39 Olga is discussing her work schedule with her supervisor.She is not happy with her assignment and tells her supervisor,"You assign the best training dates to the people in your work group." Based on Olga's comment,what does your book recommend so she could be more effective at managing this conflict?

A) Check her understanding of the supervisor's message
B) Own her statements by using descriptive language
C) Use self-talk
D) Discuss the pros and cons of the solution.

Question 26

1-30 Karla and David are having a conflict over who should wash the dishes.Karla says to David,"You're just like your brother.You're lazy and don't care about anyone except for yourself.Your entire family is worthless!" This is an example of which of the following?

A) Assertive communication
B) Aggressive communication
C) Passive communication
D) Argumentative communication

Question 27

1-38 Which of the following is an appropriate example of 'owning' your feelings by using an "I" message?

A) "You make me so angry when you assume I don't understand anything!"
B) "I feel unappreciated when you do not respond to my questions."
C) "You're a jerk! Everyone says so."
D) "This discussion is giving me a headache!"

Question 28

1-25 An intractable conflict is also known as which of the following?

A) Nonconfrontational conflict
B) Irresolvable conflict
C) Serial conflict
D) Pseudoconflict

Question 29

1-34 A cooperative approach to conflict is one in which we _____.

A) focus on winning
B) keep the relationship smooth by placating the other person
C) view conflict as a set of problems to be solved
D) change the topic to keep the atmosphere pleasant

Question 30

1-27 The ability to influence another in the direction we desire is _____.

A) interpersonal conflict
B) emotional expression
C) self-disclosure
D) interpersonal power

Question 31

1-21 Which of the following is the most notable contributing factor to a destructive conflict?

A) Poor verbal communication skills
B) Lack of similar values
C) Lack of flexibility
D) Issues concerning money

Question 32

1-31 Placating,distracting,and computing responses are types of what conflict style?

A) Nonconfrontational
B) Confrontational
C) Cooperative
D) Constructive

Question 33

1-36 In managing your emotions,all of the following guidelines are helpful EXCEPT

A) selecting an acceptable time and place.
B) monitoring your nonverbal behavior.
C) using self-talk.
D) discussing only disadvantages of possible solutions.

Question 34

1-28 Peter and Paul have discussions that typically sound like this: "Where do we go for dinner?" "I don't know;where would you like to go?" "I don't care,you decide." "Anything you like is fine with me." etc.Based on this example their relationship would be characterized as being

A) complementary.
B) symmetrical.
C) parallel.
D) unilateral.

Question 35

1-37 In order to manage your emotions in a conflict situation,it would be helpful to do which of the following?

A) Immediately confront the other person so the anger doesn't fester.
B) Don't prepare what you will say so your message will be genuine.
C) Use self-talk to calm your emotions.
D) Stand over the other person to communicate that you're in control.

Question 36

1-33 People who use blame as a strategy for winning a conflict are using which conflict style?

A) Nonconfrontational
B) Constructive
C) Cooperative
D) Confrontational

Question 37

1-24 This type of conflict occurs when conflict gets personal such that people attack each other's self-esteem.

A) Ego conflict
B) Pseudoconflict
C) Simple conflict
D) Serial conflict

Question 38

1-40 The suggestion that you resist solutions to manage the conflict until both you and the other person fully understand the problem and each other's goals is part of _____.

A) managing the emotions
B) managing the goal(s)
C) managing the problem
D) managing the conflict style

Question 39

1-23 This type of conflict stems from differences in ideas,definitions,perceptions,or goals.

A) nonconfrontational conflict
B) simple conflict.
C) serial arguments.
D) pseudoconflict.

Question 40

1-22 Which of the following is a recommendation of Wilmot and Hocker on how to build a constructive conflict?

A) Hold your position on an issue firmly.
B) Try to protect yourself against conflict.
C) Be willing to lose if it means making the other person happy.
D) Focus on the relationship rather than the individual.

Question 41

2-10 The predictability vs.novelty dialectic refers to the tension of giving up and,alternately,maintaining our privacy.

Question 42

2-9 Dialectics help us to understand the up-and-down,messy,and oftentimes illogical nature of interpersonal relationships.

Question 43

2-16 An assertive message takes your listener's feelings and rights into account as well as your own.

Question 44

2-18 People who exhibit a nonconfrontational style in responding to conflict during problem-solving discussions are perceived to be incompetent.

Question 45

2-4 When partners define their lives less as a couple and more as individuals,they are in the stagnation stage of relational de-escalation.

Question 46

2-19 People who have a win-lose approach to conflict,and always seek to win,have a confrontational style of conflict management.

Question 47

2-17 According to your book,aggressive messages frequently accomplish what the speaker intended.

Question 48

2-7 "Grave dressing" describes the story we offer to others as to why a relationship ended.

Question 49

2-11 A destructive conflict is one in which combatants view their differences from a lose-lose perspective.

Question 50

2-15 If both people in a relationship attempt to assume control of that relationship,it would be considered a symmetrical relationship.

Question 51

2-2 The common family today is composed of two parents with the father as the breadwinner and the mother as the stay-at-home homemaker.

Question 52

2-13 In a complementary relationship,power continually shifts from one person to the other,depending upon which partner has the most expertise or interest in a situation.

Question 53

2-3 According to Virginia Satir,one of the characteristics of a healthy family is that the family's links to society are open.

Question 54

2-14 In a parallel relationship,power continually shifts from one partner to the other, depending on the nature of the interaction or situation.

Question 55

2-6 The importance of the post-interaction stage is in the lasting impact the relationship has on one's self.

Question 56

2-8 Relational dialectics are also known as the dialectical perspective.

Question 57

2-5 The individualization stage is a part of relational escalation.

Question 58

2-1 Friendships are extremely important in old age.

Question 59

2-20 Separating the people from the problem is one type of nonconfrontational strategy.

Question 60

2-12 Emma and Aaron argued about money a few weeks ago and then they began arguing about Aaron drinking too much on weekdays.This is an example of a serial argument.

Question 61

4-4 The ability to get another to do what one wants is known as _____.

Question 62

3-3 Briefly explain the autonomy vs.connection relational dialectic.

Question 63

4-2 During a conflict over how household tasks should be divided,Martha and Isaac were able to generate creative solutions which actually improved their communication.This would be characteristic of _____ conflict.

Question 64

3-5 Define serial arguments.

Question 65

4-1 When a struggle occurs between two people due to unmet needs,this is called a(n)_____ .

Question 66

4-7 In a _____ relationship,control shifts between partners;each assumes control when he or she has the most expertise or capabilities.

Question 67

3-4 Briefly explain the openness vs.closedness relational dialectic.

Question 68

4-9 When a participant in a conflict uses distracting,placating,computing,or withdrawing he/she is using a(n)_____ style.

Question 69

4-5 In a _____ relationship,one person willingly and continuously cedes power to the other person.

Question 70

3-2 Briefly explain relational dialectics.

Question 71

2-21 Managing conflict means preventing it from occurring.

Question 72

4-3 _____ conflict is characterized by a lack of flexibility and may do damage to a relationship.

Question 73

3-7 Distinguish between nonconfrontational,confrontational,and cooperative styles of conflict management.

Question 74

4-10 During a recent conflict between Bill and Bob,Bill tried to blame Bert,using Bert as a scapegoat so that Bill could avoid taking responsibility for the conflict.Bill was using a _____ style.

Question 75

4-8 Delores often insults others and uses profanity in order to get what she wants.She uses _____ communication.

Question 76

3-8 What techniques are involved in the cooperative style of managing conflict?

Question 77

2-22 Using "I" statements tends to result in defensiveness on the part of other people.

Question 78

4-6 In a _____ relationship,both partners exhibit similar control behavior;either both try to assume control,or both try to relinquish control.

Question 79

3-6 What is interpersonal power? How might these power dynamics play out in a romantic relationship

Question 80

3-1 Identify and briefly describe each of the stages of relational escalation.