Deck 10: Communication in Personal Relationships

Question 1

One big problem experienced by couples who are separated geographically is __________.

A) dyadic breakdown
B) lack of time to communicate
C) not being able to communicate about big issues
D) lack of social support
E)not being able to share small talk

Answer 1

E

Question 2

Passionate, intense, and fast moving love that is not confined to sexual passion and may be expressed in spiritual, intellectual, or emotional ways is known as __________.

A)eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) mania
E) agape
TRUE/FALSE

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Relationships which are governed more by what we do than who we are, are __________.

A) personal relationships
B) casual relationships
C) friendships
D)social relationships
E) unique relationships

Answer 3

D

Question 4

That people are happier and more satisfied with balanced and equal relationships than unbalanced and unequal ones is known as __________.

A) psychological responsibility theory
B)equity theory
C) social support processes
D) dyadic processes
E) intrapsychic processes

Question 5

The opposing and continuous tensions found in personal relationships are known as __________.

A) regulative rules
B) constitutive rules
C)relationship dialectics
D) dyadic processes
E) equity theory

Question 6

In negotiating safer sex with your partner, which of the following would be considered a more constructive approach?

A) "Without a condom, you could give AIDS."
B) "You just don't care about me!"
C) "If you wear a condom, I'll have sex with you."
D) "You need to wear a jacket, dude!"
E)"I feel unsafe having unprotected sex."

Question 7

Miguel's big graduation party had been planned for weeks. His best friend approached him the day before the party and told him, "I won't be able to make it to your party because something came up." Miguel was shocked. He felt that his best friend was either in big trouble over something or that they weren't really friends after all. What kind of relationship rule was Miguel following?

A)constitutive
B) regulative
C) arbitrary
D) concrete
E) contextual

Question 8

Primary among the reason(s) researchers have found on why people do not practice safe sex is/are __________.

A) they don't care
B) they found it embarrassing to talk about sex
C) drugs and alcohol impaired their rational thought
D) a and b
E)b and c

Question 9

Gus says he wants to go out to dinner and suggests a pizza at Uno's. His best friend Jim replies, "Ah, that's where we always go. I'm bored with Uno's. Let's go somewhere different tonight." Gus says, "But I feel really comfortable at Uno's, it's so familiar." The tension between Gus and Jim reflects __________.

A) the autonomy/connection dialectic
B) the closedness/openness dialectic
C) the dominance/subordination dialectic
D)the novelty/predictability dialectic
E) the trust/intimacy dialectic

Question 10

The stage in an interracial relationship in which the couple struggles with external pressures is __________.

A) racial awareness
B) identity emergence
C) navigating
D)coping
E) scalating

Question 11

Relationship culture is best defined as __________.

A) the influence of a couple's culture on their interpersonal relationship
B) the degree to which a relationship is tied into the larger culture within which it exists
C)the private understandings, rules, and meanings that couples develop to define who they are
D) the degree to which a couple enjoys cultural activities such as attending concerts and going to art museums
E) none of the above

Question 12

Dan asked Sarah to come and meet his parents. What is the name for this event that is about to occur in their relationship?

A) enrichment
B)a turning point
C) segmentation
D) a stabilizing event
E) openness/closeness

Question 13

Single-mother Michelle worked two jobs while her daughters were growing up so they could have everything they need. This style of loving is known as __________.

A) mania
B) ludus
C)agape
D) eros
E) storge

Question 14

The process of communication that aims at sustaining intimacy in romantic relationships in face of changes within the partners and the surrounding context is known as __________.

A)navigating
B) ludus
C) performance
D) mania
E) euphoria

Question 15

The two greatest influences on initial attraction in romantic relationships are __________.

A) love and commitment
B)proximity and similarity
C) commitment and equity
D) matching and possibility
E) exploration and intensifying

Question 16

Lisa wants some time alone because she feels a need to get in touch with herself as an individual. However, she also feels the need to share experiences with her partner Bob and cherishes the time they spend together. The tension these different needs are generating within Lisa illustrates which relational dialectic?

A)autonomy/connection
B) novelty/predictability
C) commitment/love
D) spontaneity/routine
E) closedness/openness

Question 17

Tina and her sister were very close when they were growing up. They kept each other's deepest secrets. Once Tina got married, she and her sister had weekly phone conversations to keep in touch. After a particularly long phone conversation, Tina's husband asked her what was going on with her sister. Tina said, "Oh, nothing much." Her husband knew this wasn't true, but didn't ask any more questions. What relationship dialect does this reflect?

A) autonomy/connection
B) novelty/predictability
C)openness/closedness
D) neutralization
E) separation

Question 18

Making a decision to remain with a relationship is known as __________.

A)commitment
B) investments
C) passion
D) personal relationship
E) social relationship

Question 19

Relationships are embedded in contexts, meaning that __________.

A) there is a tension about what is real and what is ideal
B)the surroundings influence the interactions between the partners in the relationship
C) the roles for the people in the relationship are established by regulative rules
D) stabilized relationships become contextualized as they become more embedded in each other
E) a and c

Question 20

Bob and Patina respond to their tension by deciding to spend part of the weekend together and part of it engaged in separate activities. This response to relational dialectics is called __________.

A) separation
B)neutralization
C) voice
D) neglect
E) reframing

Question 21

Marital stability is closely linked to partners' perception that child care and housework will be equitably shared.

Question 22

The style of love that is a comfortable "best friends" kind of love that grows gradually is known as __________.

Question 23

Contradictory needs or tensions in personal relationships are called __________.

Question 24

The playful and sometimes manipulative style of loving is called __________.

Question 25

For couples that are really connected, geographic separation poses little difficulty.

Question 26

Most of our relationships are personal, not social.

Question 27

In romantic relationships similarities attract.

Question 28

__________ __________ refers to the private world of rules, understandings, meanings and patters of interacting that partners create for their relationships.

Question 29

What we put into relationships that cannot be retrieved if the relationships end are called __________.

Question 30

Reframing dialectical tensions involves seeing the tensions as not really in opposition to one another.

Question 31

Commitment grows out of infatuation brought on by passion.

Question 32

One important benchmark of an established friendship is the assumption of continuity.

Question 33

Once a couple makes a commitment to an intimate relationship is made by a couple, the relationship culture becomes static.

Question 34

Violence between intimates rarely stops without intervention.

Question 35

Personal relationships are influenced by the surroundings.

Question 36

The __________ predicts that people will seek relationships with others who closely match their values, attitudes, social background and physical attractiveness.

Question 37

Friends who are open with each other about many topics, but agree not to pry into other topics use __________ as a way to mange dialectics.

Question 38

A __________ __________ moves a relationship toward or away from intimacy.

Question 39

The decision to remain in a relationship is called __________.

Question 40

Relationship deterioration always leads to the end of a friendship.

Question 41

Explore the three relationship dialectics that have been identified and offer concrete examples for each type of tension.

Question 42

Discuss the different types of love as discussed in Chapter 10. Pick three and provide examples as how that type of love is used by you.

Question 43

Name and discuss the stages in the escalation of interracial romantic relationships.

Question 44

__________ __________ predicts that people will seek relationships with others who will closely match their own values, attitudes, social background, and physical attractiveness.

Question 45

Identify the challenges (or difficulties) of long-distance romantic relationships, and explain communication strategies for coping with these challenges. Your response should focus on how couples involved in long-distance relationships can establish and sustain satisfying communication.

Question 46

Identify and discuss the three broad stages of romantic relationships. Give examples for each stage.