Deck 4: Intimate Relationships and Communication

Question 1

Anxious/avoidant relationships with parents may produce children who,when they reach adulthood,

A)find it easy to establish relationships.
B)are satisfied living a solitary lifestyle.
C)tend to be married to the same person for a lifetime.
D)are inclined to run from relationships.

Answer 1

are inclined to run from relationships.

Question 2

Our first relationships outside our family are

A)friendships.
B)intimate relationships.
C)love relationships.
D)dependent relationships.

Answer 2

friendships.

Question 3

The roots of our identity and sense of self are in our

A)childhood.
B)peer group.
C)heredity.
D)community.

Answer 3

childhood.

Question 4

Real friends

A)can be tense with each other.
B)do not share past difficult experiences.
C)should not be altruistic.
D)include passion in their relationship.

Question 5

A characteristic of friendship includes reciprocity,which means

A)give-and-take between friends.
B)mutual respect.
C)acceptance.
D)loyalty.

Question 6

Intimate partnerships differ from friendships,in that intimate partnerships

A)do not require exclusiveness.
B)are more accepting and less critical.
C)are more stable and enduring over time.
D)include the presence of sexual desire.

Question 7

Our gender role is first defined for us by our

A)heredity.
B)culture.
C)teachers.
D)sexual orientation.

Question 8

Characteristics of friendships include all of the following,EXCEPT

A)respect.
B)trust.
C)dependence.
D)loyalty.

Question 9

Friendships usually include all of the following characteristics,EXCEPT

A)companionship.
B)acceptance.
C)reciprocity.
D)passion.

Question 10

All of the following are common relationship challenges,EXCEPT

A)commitment.
B)self-disclosure.
C)expectations.
D)overfamiliarity.

Question 11

Individuals who had an anxious/ambivalent relationship with a parent may find that,as adults,they

A)avoid relationships with others.
B)avoid becoming dependent on others.
C)worry about being abandoned by others.
D)maintain their independence in a relationship.

Question 12

Emotional intelligence includes

A)responding impulsively to feelings.
B)responding reactively to feelings.
C)recognizing feelings as they occur.
D)none of the above.

Question 13

To develop a healthy intimate relationship,it is important to self-disclose

A)at a slow but steady rate.
B)early in the relationship.
C)rarely;you do not want to frighten your potential partner.
D)early and often;vulnerability is part of the game.

Question 14

Mindfulness can be cultivated by

A)speeding up our thought process.
B)thinking ahead.
C)concentrating on multiple tasks.
D)maximizing awareness of ourselves.

Question 15

The element that is least characteristic of enduring love relationships is

A)pursuit of common goals.
B)closeness.
C)absorption in each other.
D)promise of a shared future.

Question 16

_____________ is an idealization of a loved one.

A)Infatuation
B)Passion
C)Intimacy
D)Commitment

Question 17

The most long lasting element of love is

A)euphoria.
B)preoccupation with the loved one.
C)commitment.
D)idealization of the loved one.

Question 18

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic of commitment?

A)responsibility
B)passion
C)reliability
D)faithfulness

Question 19

A successful relationship has proven to improve an individual's

A)physical strength.
B)self-worth.
C)immune system.
D)earning power.

Question 20

______________ includes the activities,abilities,and characteristics that a culture has deemed appropriate for us based on whether we are male or female.

A)Gender identity
B)Stereotype
C)Self-concept
D)Gender role

Question 21

Jealousy is

A)proof that love exists.
B)a harmless emotion.
C)a measure of insecurity.
D)unrelated to self-esteem.

Question 22

Female communication patterns can often be described as

A)affiliative.
B)competitive.
C)dominating.
D)one-upping.

Question 23

____________ is a constructive response to another's self-disclosure.

A)Criticism
B)Feedback
C)Nonverbal cue
D)Issue clarification

Question 24

When you want to have a serious discussion with your partner,

A)sooner is usually better.
B)state your concern in a general way,not too detailed.
C)focus on the whole person,not just one behavior.
D)avoid blaming.

Question 25

All of the following are steps in effective conflict resolution,EXCEPT

A)clarifying the issue.
B)finding out what each person wants.
C)not compromising your position.
D)reviewing and negotiating.

Question 26

Male communication patterns can often be described as

A)affiliative.
B)negotiating.
C)cooperative.
D)competitive.

Question 27

The three keys of good communication in a relationship include all of the following,EXECPT

A)critical analysis.
B)self-disclosure.
C)listening skills.
D)feedback skills.

Question 28

If your partner expresses unhappiness in your relationship,it is best to

A)validate your partner's feelings and respond with self-disclosure.
B)defend yourself and your actions.
C)leave the room before saying something you will regret later.
D)offer constructive criticism on how your partner can meet your needs.

Question 29

Examples of unhealthy relationships include all of the following,EXCEPT

A)physical or emotional abuse.
B)a level of tension.
C)codependency.
D)communicative withdrawal.

Question 30

Which is a common expectation that can hurt a relationship?

A)expecting your partner to change
B)expecting that your partner loves you
C)expecting intimacy
D)expecting that you can trust your partner

Question 31

A characteristic of one's partner that becomes important in determining the quality and depth of a relationship after the euphoria of first attraction and initial romance winds down is

A)social status.
B)appearance.
C)general interests.
D)future aspirations.

Question 32

Of the following,which is the MOST constructive conflict resolution strategy?

A)providing selective information to minimize conflict
B)identifying alternatives to get what each person wants
C)using avoidance
D)using intimacy to smooth over disagreements

Question 33

It appears that our partner may NOT be interested in what we are saying if he or she responds by

A)looking in our eyes.
B)touching our hand.
C)looking around the room.
D)leaning toward us as we speak.

Question 34

If you and your partner find that you argue again and again over the same issue,you should

A)seek professional help.
B)end the relationship.
C)accept the differences between yourselves.
D)put the issue aside and deal with it at another time.

Question 35

Which of the following goals is MOST likely to be associated with male conversation?

A)achieving understanding
B)establishing closeness
C)establishing dominance
D)receiving support

Question 36

Which of the following is usually the basis of first attraction to another person?

A)socioeconomic background
B)appearance
C)religious affiliation
D)educational level

Question 37

All of the following are important guidelines for ending a relationship,EXCEPT

A)"Give the relationship a fair chance before breaking up."
B)"Be fair and honest."
C)"Be tactful."
D)"Move on as quickly as possible."

Question 38

Which of the following is NOT a component of good listening?

A)judging
B)respecting
C)empathizing
D)maintaining eye contact

Question 39

"Revealing personal information that we ordinarily wouldn't reveal because of the risk involved" describes

A)non-verbal communication.
B)self-disclosure.
C)feedback.
D)constructive listening.

Question 40

Which of the following is NOT a constructive strategy for conflict resolution?

A)finding out what the other person wants
B)clarifying the issue
C)reviewing and renegotiating
D)providing selective information

Question 41

All of the following are liabilities associated with cohabitation,EXCEPT

A)absence of the legal protection of marriage.
B)loss of inheritance rights.
C)loss of spousal health insurance benefits.
D)loss of protection against domestic violence.

Question 42

In traditional male-female dating relationships,the development of the relationship follows the order of

A)casual dating,exclusive dating,cohabitation,marriage.
B)casual dating,exclusive dating,engagement,marriage.
C)exclusive dating,cohabitation,marriage.
D)casual dating,cohabitation,engagement,marriage.

Question 43

All of the following are drawbacks to online relationships,EXCEPT

A)people can misrepresent themselves.
B)people can communicate in a relaxed way.
C)investing time and emotional resources in an unrealistic romance may be painful.
D)the relationship may become dangerous.

Question 44

Sexual orientation is best described as

A)sexual attraction to individuals of the opposite sex.
B)one's choice of sexual partner.
C)a consistent pattern of emotional and sexual attraction based on biological sex.
D)one's preference regarding the type of sexual activity in which one wants to engage.

Question 45

Cohabitation is

A)diminishing in popularity.
B)increasing in popularity.
C)remaining stable.
D)limited to the younger population.

Question 46

By age 30,what percentage of men and women have lived together without being married (cohabitated)?

A)20 percent
B)35 percent
C)50 percent
D)60 percent

Question 47

The most important question for potential mates is,

A)"How much money do you make?"
B)"How much do we have in common?"
C)"How flexible are you?"
D)"Will your parents like me?"

Question 48

Which of the following statements is least TRUE regarding singlehood?

A)Personal and career development can occur without the interference of family obligations.
B)There is more freedom of decision making.
C)Economic hardships are greater,especially for men.
D)There is greater access to a variety of sexual partners.

Question 49

In cultures where parent-arranged marriages are common,marriages are

A)stable.
B)likely to end in divorce.
C)generally part of polygamous relationships.
D)dependent on the fertility of the partners.

Question 50

One difference between heterosexual and homosexual couples is that same-sex partnerships tend to

A)be more equal.
B)be more organized around gender role.
C)have one partner provide for the other financially.
D)place more emphasis on role assignment and less on partnership.

Question 51

Getting together in groups,a more casual form of contemporary dating,is probably a product of

A)fear of sexual assault.
B)equality of the sexes.
C)fear of commitment.
D)the media.

Question 52

Which of the following statements is NOT TRUE of many gay and lesbian relationships?

A)They provide intimacy,security,and support.
B)Household tasks are often shared or split between partners.
C)Each partner assumes a traditional gender role.
D)Both partners are usually self-supporting.

Question 53

Having strong social relationships may

A)reduce the risk of illness.
B)speed recovery from illness.
C)improve measures of mental health.
D)do all of the above.

Question 54

If you want to pursue an online relationship,

A)use sexually oriented Web sites that will get your message across.
B)hold out for a "perfect" partner;after all,you have thousands to choose from.
C)give out only your name and placement of employment/school;never give out your phone number.
D)find out the other person's situation and intention.

Question 55

Living together in a sexual relationship without being married describes

A)roommates.
B)marriage.
C)compatibility.
D)cohabitation.

Question 56

One advantage cohabitation has over marriage is

A)health insurance benefits are better.
B)most societies are more accepting of cohabitation.
C)inheritance rights are better.
D)partners have a greater sense of autonomy.

Question 57

Today,people marry more

A)to form an economic unit.
B)to raise children.
C)for personal,emotional reasons.
D)None of these choices are reasons why people today marry.

Question 58

Marital status affects

A)Social Security.
B)federal tax status.
C)medical decision making
D)all of the above.

Question 59

Which of the following factors is not associated with the increasing popularity of cohabitation?

A)increased availability of contraceptives
B)younger average age at marriage
C)greater social acceptance of premarital sex
D)economics

Question 60

All of the following contribute to the increasing popularity of singlehood,EXCEPT

A)career goals.
B)desire for financial independence.
C)greater sexual freedom.
D)low divorce rates.

Question 61

Once children grow up and leave home,marital satisfaction

A)increases.
B)decreases.
C)severely decreases.
D)is not changed.

Question 62

The high American divorce rate probably represents

A)high emotional expectations of marriage.
B)a growing need to be independent.
C)increased mobility in our society.
D)greater maturity of married partners.

Question 63

Which of the following is NOT a predictor of happy marriage?

A)good communication
B)previous positive sexual experience
C)agreement on religious values
D)feeling good about the personality of the other

Question 64

All of the following are health benefits of marriage,EXCEPT

A)longer life expectancy.
B)more effective fitness programs.
C)less likelihood of catching colds.
D)greater mental health.

Question 65

About 75 percent of divorced people remarry,often within ____ year(s).

A)1
B)3
C)5
D)7

Question 66

Which of the following statements is false regarding gender roles in marriage?

A)Married women,even those who work,do most domestic tasks.
B)Married men suffer more job-related stress than married women.
C)There is a move toward equalization of responsibilities in marriages.
D)Married men have assumed an equal share in child care responsibilities.

Question 67

Commitment is based on

A)the level of romance in a relationship.
B)conscious choice.
C)the level of intimacy in a relationship.
D)feelings and emotions.

Question 68

The divorce process usually begins with

A)legal separation.
B)emotional separation.
C)physical separation.
D)social isolation.

Question 69

Approximately what percentage of married women are in the labor force?

A)more than 20 percent
B)more than 30 percent
C)more than 50 percent
D)more than 80 percent

Question 70

The arrival of the first child is most likely to

A)cause very little change in a marriage.
B)reinforce traditional marital roles.
C)cause an equal degree of job changes for fathers and mothers.
D)reduce relationship stress.

Question 71

After a divorce occurs,the recovery period usually does not start for about

A)3 months after the divorce.
B)6 months after the divorce.
C)1 year after the divorce.
D)1 month for every year of marriage.

Question 72

The birth of the first child is most likely to

A)make the parents' relationship more egalitarian.
B)lessen marital satisfaction.
C)increase a mother's contentment.
D)increase pressure to maintain social relationships.

Question 73

The greatest stress-producing event in life is usually

A)divorce.
B)marriage.
C)death of spouse or family member.
D)marital separation.

Question 74

The primary problems for single-parent families headed by women are

A)social.
B)scholastic.
C)religious.
D)economic.

Question 75

The four general parenting styles include all the following,EXCEPT

A)authoritarian.
B)authoritative.
C)permissive
D)absence.

Question 76

About ______ percent of all children under age 18 live with only one parent.

A)10-20
B)20-30
C)30-40
D)40-50

Question 77

Based on current rates,what percentage of people marrying today will eventually divorce?

A)30-35 percent
B)40-45 percent
C)50-55 percent
D)60-65 percent

Question 78

Approximately what percentage of divorced people marry again?

A)15 percent
B)50 percent
C)75 percent
D)90 percent

Question 79

Children in single-parent families are more likely to

A)experience early school success.
B)have academic difficulty.
C)be motivated to avoid relationships with others.
D)have professional success at an early age.

Question 80

Which of the following is NOT a characteristic that helps couples avoid marital dissatisfaction after the birth of a baby?

A)development of a strong relationship before the baby is born
B)a high annual income
C)the child having been planned or wanted
D)good communication about feelings and expectations