Deck 4: Communication and Intimacy

Question 1

According to Deborah Tannen,men and women have difficulty communicating primarily because women:

A) are more rational.
B) interrupt more often.
C) are socialized to compete with others.
D) are socialized to network with others.

Answer 1

D

Question 2

Communication in an intimate relationship involves a continuous balancing of competing needs for intimacy and:

A) dependence.
B) independence.
C) directive listening.
D) indirective listening.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

Our textbook relates Deborah Tannen's anecdote about a wife who wanted a drink while on a driving trip with her husband.She asked him,"Would you like to stop for a drink?" but was upset when he truthfully answered "no" and did not stop.This interaction illustrates which of the following?

A) In the U.S.,there are gender differences in communicator style.
B) Generally speaking,husbands are more invested in their marriage than are wives.
C) Generally speaking,wives are more invested in their marriage than are husbands.
D) none of these

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Colton is creating and sharing meaning with Luc.According to your text,Colton is expressing himself via:

A) culture.
B) communion.
C) communication.
D) community.

Question 5

Many experts agree that often times,males use conversation as a means to:

A) establish dominance.
B) establish intimacy.
C) establish humor.
D) all of these

Question 6

In Latin countries,abrazo means ________.

Question 7

According to Deborah Tannen,men and women have difficulty communicating primarily because men:

A) are more emotional.
B) self-disclose more often.
C) are socialized to compete with others.
D) focus more on listening.

Question 8

Frequent pauses,frequent use of "us" and "we",and much self-disclosure are all characteristics of a:

A) male speaking style.
B) male listening style.
C) female speaking style.
D) female listening style.

Question 9

A primary way to prevent or undo a double bind is through ____________.

Question 10

The ________ causality model best explains why conflict happened and how to escape a situation of conflict.

Question 11

_____________ occurs when a person reveals to others personal information or feelings that others would not be likely to find out on their own.

Question 12

Frequent nodding,uninterrupted eye contact,and frequent use of "uh-huh" are all characteristics of a:

A) male speaking style.
B) male listening style.
C) female speaking style.
D) female listening style.

Question 13

The way humans create and share meaning both verbally and nonverbally is known as:

A) culture.
B) communion.
C) communication.
D) community.

Question 14

Generally speaking,girls:

A) tend to play outdoors in hierarchically structured groups.
B) tend to play outdoors in large groups.
C) appear uninterested in peer relationships to the same extent as boys.
D) tend to focus on their best friend.

Question 15

Our textbook relates Deborah Tannen's anecdote about a wife who wanted a drink while on a driving trip with her husband.She asked him,"Would you like to stop for a drink?" but was upset when he truthfully answered "no" and did not stop.Which of the following was occurring in this anecdote?

A) She was playing "mind games" with him.
B) He thought she was asking an information question,but she was trying to initiate a discussion about what both of them would like.
C) He was not listening to her.
D) She was showing concern for her husband's wants,but he was not showing concern for her wants.

Question 16

Generally speaking,boys:

A) tend to play outdoors in large hierarchically structured groups.
B) tend to play outdoors in small groups or pairs.
C) appear uninterested in peer relationships to the same extent as girls.
D) tend to have difficulty understanding their best friend.

Question 17

Irregular eye contact,infrequent nodding,and continuing another activity while speaking are all characteristics of a:

A) male speaking style.
B) male listening style.
C) female speaking style.
D) female listening style.

Question 18

Few pauses,frequent use of "I" and "me",and little self disclosure are all characteristics of a:

A) male speaking style.
B) male listening style.
C) female speaking style.
D) female listening style.

Question 19

_________ is the primary motive behind female conversation.

Question 20

When do society's female and male gender roles begin to influence us?

A) at a young age
B) when we are in middle school or junior high
C) when we leave our parental home and live on our own for the first time
D) when we enter into our first committed couple relationship

Question 21

A synonym for the relationship component of communication is:

A) command.
B) report.
C) verbal.
D) nonverbal.

Question 22

Gender role differences between men and women usually:

A) fade away during adolescence.
B) continue into marriage.
C) are only prominent in early childhood.
D) are irrelevant in marriage.

Question 23

Our textbook authors restate Deborah Tannen's belief that the "best" style of com­munication in an intimate relationship:

A) develops firm and explicit rules about connectedness and separateness.
B) minimizes the influence of connectedness and separateness.
C) develops a delicate balance between connectedness and separateness.
D) develops connectedness much more than separateness.

Question 24

Two major kinds of information in people's messages are:

A) relationship and command.
B) content and report.
C) content and relationship.
D) none of these

Question 25

Nonverbal communication includes all of the following except:

A) eye contact.
B) gestures.
C) saying "Huh?!" loudly and with a high pitch.
D) nodding

Question 26

Mixed messages are:

A) the kinds of messages uttered in a group made up of both women and men.
B) the same thing as a double bind.
C) messages in which there is a discrepancy between the verbal and nonverbal components of the message.
D) the instructions on a cake mix box.

Question 27

Palomar tells Julianne a secret and later finds out that Julianne told other people.Palomar is now questioning her relationship with Julianne.This is an example of:

A) double bind.
B) mixed message.
C) metacommunication.
D) central route to persuasion.

Question 28

Ramona is talking to an acquaintance Dan at a local bar.He expresses romantic interest in her and she smiles,places her hand on his arm,and says "I'm not interested in you".This is an example of:

A) double bind.
B) mixed message.
C) metacommunication.
D) central route to persuasion.

Question 29

The usual way the relationship component of communication is conveyed is:

A) command.
B) report.
C) verbal.
D) nonverbal.

Question 30

One critic of Tannen's research is noted gender development expert,Sandra Bem,who argues that:

A) differences among individual women and differences among individual men are greater than the differences between women as a group and men as a group.
B) differences between individual women and differences between individual men are less than the differences between women as a group and men as a group.
C) there are few differences between individual women and between individual men.
D) there are great differences between women as a group and men as a group.

Question 31

Nonverbal communication:

A) is relatively unaffected by one's cultural background.
B) only involves facial expressions and eye contact.
C) tells others something about the individual sending the message.
D) all of these

Question 32

Which of these is one of the hallmarks for the success or failure of a relationship?

A) true love
B) positive communication
C) sexual attraction
D) emotional stability

Question 33

When a male graduate student from India was walking down the street with his American friend he reached out to hold his hand.The American asked him what he was doing and he responded that in India males often hold hands to demonstrate friendship.This illustrates which of the following?

A) Verbal communication is more important than nonverbal communication in interpreting meaning.
B) The abrazo is common in India.
C) Nonverbal communication of a homosexual relationship in public is more acceptable in India than in the United States.
D) Nonverbal communication can be interpreted differently in various cultures.

Question 34

The most common criticism of Deborah Tannen's research about gender and communication is:

A) Tannen did not follow human subjects' protections procedures in her research.
B) Tannen's sample is tainted.
C) Tannen unnecessarily polarized the differences between men and women.
D) None of these; Tannen's work is undisputed by other researchers.

Question 35

Our textbook authors conclude which of the following about gender differences between women and men's communication?

A) Men and women,as groups,differ by a large degree.
B) When studied as groups,women and men do not differ in their communication.
C) The two sexes differ to a modest degree when studied as groups,but these differences do not tell the whole story about individuals.
D) none of these

Question 36

A synonym for the content component of communication is:

A) command.
B) report.
C) verbal.
D) nonverbal.

Question 37

When there is a discrepancy between verbal and nonverbal messages,we tend to rely on:

A) the nonverbal communication.
B) the verbal communication.
C) We rely on both the nonverbal and verbal communication about the same amount.
D) None of these

Question 38

With a wink and a smile,Pat says to a sibling,Terry,"Mom always liked me the best of all the kids in our family." What is the most likely relationship meaning between Pat and Terry?

A) There is consistency between Pat's verbal and nonverbal communication,so Terry is likely to think that Mom did like Pat the best.
B) There is inconsistency between Pat's verbal and nonverbal communication,so Terry is likely to think that Mom did like Pat the best.
C) There is consistency between Pat's verbal and nonverbal communication,so Terry is likely to think that Pat is joking.
D) There is inconsistency between Pat's verbal and nonverbal communication,so Terry is likely to think that Pat is joking.

Question 39

Direct eye contact:

A) is one of the few forms of nonverbal communication that is interpreted the same way across cultures.
B) is accepted universally as a way of communicating honesty.
C) is one of the few forms of nonverbal communication from which meaning can be directly interpreted.
D) none of these

Question 40

According to the circular causality model,which statement is NOT true:

A) Both people deny responsibility for what has happened.
B) One person sends out a message that causes a change in and a response from the other person.
C) Each sees his or her behavior only as a reaction to the other's behavior.
D) Escalation of the conflict is avoided by both parties.

Question 41

Which of the following communication cycles includes feelings that our partner is controlling our relationship?

A) Assertiveness.
B) Self-confidence.
C) Avoidance.
D) Partner dominance.

Question 42

Females are more focused toward responding in conversation.

Question 43

A car salesperson is most likely to engage in which of these motives or goals of listening?

A) persuasive listening.
B) directive listening.
C) attentive listening.
D) elaborative listening.

Question 44

Overall,which of these three motives or goals of listening is likely to be the most efficient?

A) persuasive listening
B) directive listening
C) attentive listening
D) elaborative listening.

Question 45

Which of the following is an effective means of getting out of a double bind situation?

A) metacommunication
B) assertiveness
C) circular causality
D) win-win conflict management

Question 46

According to our textbook authors,appropriate self-disclosure in an intimate relationship:

A) is always greater in amount than in a friendship relationship.
B) should be ongoing to keep the relationship growing.
C) is unnecessary in a friendship other than the spouse relationship.
D) can easily be replaced by appropriate self-disclosure to strangers.

Question 47

When both people in a relationship exhibit a passive communication style,the level of intimacy usually becomes:

A) higher.
B) lower.
C) nonexistent.
D) ambiguous.

Question 48

Which of the following communication cycles includes the tendency to minimize issues?

A) Assertiveness.
B) Self-confidence.
C) Avoidance.
D) Partner dominance.

Question 49

Jorge is talking with his grandfather and says "I hate girls!",his grandfather laughs and says "I hate boys!".They both laugh and Jorge says,"you are just teasing me!".This is an example of:

A) double bind.
B) mixed message.
C) metacommunication.
D) central route to persuasion.

Question 50

Effective listening skills involve which of the following?

A) evaluating the accuracy of the speaker's messages
B) disciplining ourselves to withhold our reactions to a speaker's messages
C) focusing on content of the messages,rather than on the speaker's emotional state
D) suspending judgment about what we are hearing

Question 51

Spouse A says to Spouse B,"I think you're a fantastic-looking person," but then points out how Spouse B should get braces,lose weight,and wear more fashionable clothing styles.This is a double bind,and is:

A) inevitably going to cause mental illness for Spouse
B)
B) very common in family life,because all family interactions about sensitive or painful topics involve mixed messages.
C) most effectively addressed by Spouse B acknowledging and commenting on Spouse A's inconsistency in verbal communication.
D) probably not perceived as a mixed message by Spouse B,because spouses pay more attention to their spouse's direct statements than to inconsistent,indirect statements.

Question 52

Esperanza is always telling her boyfriend things like "you never take out the trash" and "you always pick your friends over me!" She is adopting what kind of communication style?

A) Passive communication style.
B) Aggressive communication style.
C) Assertive communication style.
D) Compromising communication style.

Question 53

An unwillingness to say what you think,feel,or want characterizes a:

A) passive communication style.
B) aggressive communication style.
C) assertive communication style.
D) compromising communication style.

Question 54

Which of the following communication cycles includes the ability to express feelings to a partner?

A) Assertiveness.
B) Self-confidence.
C) Avoidance.
D) Partner dominance.

Question 55

Emir often doesn't tell his girlfriend information because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.He is adopting what kind of communication style?

A) Passive communication style.
B) Aggressive communication style.
C) Assertive communication style.
D) Compromising communication style.

Question 56

Communication that aims to protect one's own self-esteem that often involves blaming or accusations characterizes a:

A) passive communication style.
B) aggressive communication style.
C) assertive communication style.
D) compromising communication style.

Question 57

The expression of thought,feeling,or desires as one's right as an individual characterizes a:

A) passive communication style.
B) aggressive communication style.
C) assertive communication style.
D) compromising communication style.

Question 58

A double bind is occurring in which of these situation(s)?

A) a father communicates only verbally with his child
B) there is a discrepancy between a mother's verbal and nonverbal communication to her child
C) a sister repeats her own verbal message without paraphrasing her brother's message
D) none of these

Question 59

Differences in communication style are the major cause of misunderstanding between men and women.

Question 60

Specifically,the term "metacommunication" includes which of the following?

A) dialogue about meaningful issues in the relationship
B) dialogue about communication in the relationship
C) dialogue about perceptions of others about the relationship
D) none of these

Question 61

The linear causality model sees interpersonal communication as having direct cause and effect.

Question 62

"Stonewalling" is a technique commonly used by avoidant couples.

Question 63

In structured support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous,group psychotherapy,or Weight Watchers,self-disclosure among strangers is actually encouraged.

Question 64

Men are less likely than women to share details about their plans because that makes them feel as though they are asking permission.

Question 65

Cultural expectations can lead to misinterpretation of nonverbal communication.

Question 66

According to Tannen,women "nag" because they believe that men really would want to cooperate if they only understood the request.

Question 67

Males receive more disclosures than do females.

Question 68

Women tend to talk a lot about problems in order to brainstorm possible solutions.

Question 69

Metacommunication is communication that tells us how a message is to be interpreted.

Question 70

Men talk more than women in a group because they are attempting to clarify who has more power.

Question 71

In most cases,verbal communication is more accurate than nonverbal.

Question 72

Although double binds usually create problems in a relationship,sometimes they actually can be beneficial to a relationship.

Question 73

According to Jane Tear,women use conversation in an affiliative way so that they can indirectly establish dominance.

Question 74

One's ability to be assertive is primarily related to one's personality style.

Question 75

According to our textbook authors,the foundation of all communication is effective listening.

Question 76

There is a natural human tendency to blame others and to deny personal responsibility for creating conflict.

Question 77

According to Deborah Tannen,whose work is reported in our textbook,spouses sometimes use different but equally valid styles of communication.