Deck 13: Hurting the Ones We Love

Question 1

Transgressions occur when:

A) people become unhappy in their relationship(s).
B) couples engage in conflict.
C) people violate rules in their relationship(s).
D) there is a major decision to be made in a relationship.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

Which of the following is the biggest disadvantage when it comes to detecting deception in close relationships?

A) behavioral familiarity
B) informational familiarity
C) the truth bias
D) a and b

Answer 2

C

Question 3

Which of the following is the best example of a compensatory restoration response to jealousy?

A) Jason presses the redial button on his girlfriend's telephone to see who she called
B) Bob accuses Steve of being disloyal to him
C) Rachel flirts with Brent to try and get Nick jealous
D) Kristen makes herself especially attractive when around Terry.

Answer 3

D

Question 4

The three most common forms of hurtful messages reported by college students are:

A) evaluations, accusations, and informative statements
B) threats, jokes, and accusations
C) deception, directives, and jokes
D) evaluations, threats, and questions

Question 5

One night while getting ready to go out dancing, a friend asks you if he looks like he is trying too hard to "meet someone." Not directly answering the question, you tell him that he's a single guy and that he might find that a lot of guys will be dressed similarly. Your response is best described as a/an:

A) concealment.
B) exaggeration.
C) lie.
D) equivocation.

Question 6

_______________ responses to hurtful messages involve giving in and acknowledging the partner's ability to hurt you by engaging in behaviors such as crying or apologizing.

A) acquiescent
B) invulnerable
C) positive verbal
D) negative verbal

Question 7

Research reported in your textbook suggests that people are most likely to forgive their partner for engaging in sexual infidelity when:

A) they witness the infidelity firsthand
B) they hear about the infidelity from a third party
C) the partner confesses after being questioned.
D) the partner discloses the information on her or his own.

Question 8

Research suggests that the most lying occurs in relationships between:

A) strangers
B) acquaintances
C) friends
D) romantic partners

Question 9

According to your textbook, the most intense hurt feelings arise when a partner's words or actions communicate ________________.

A) devaluation
B) judgment
C) negative attributions
D) metafrustration

Question 10

Which of the following is NOT one of the types of jealousy mentioned in your textbook?

A) activity jealousy
B) possessive jealousy
C) power jealousy
D) friend jealousy

Question 11

When someone wants something of value that someone else has, he or she is experiencing:

A) jealousy.
B) rivalry.
C) envy.
D) empathy.

Question 12

The three actions that people most commonly identify as relational transgressions are:

A) betraying confidences, deception, and forgetting a special occasion
B) deception, infidelity, and dating or flirting with others
C) infidelity, betraying confidences, and making false accusations
D) making false accusations, dating or flirting with others, and personal insults

Question 13

Which of the following statements about unrequited love is false?

A) Would-be lovers typically report experiencing more negative emotions than the person in the rejecting position.
B) The communication script is more defined for would-be-lovers than rejectors
C) Unrequited love can occur between strangers, acquaintances, friends, or former romantic partners.
D) a and b

Question 14

Which of the following is a primary appraisal of a jealousy-producing situation?

A) trying to figure out your partner's motives
B) comparing yourself to the rival
C) evaluating the existence or strength of the threat
D) evaluating your alternatives

Question 15

Which of the following sets of emotions have been found to be related to the experience of jealousy?

A) love, appreciation, sexual arousal
B) fear, anger, envy
C) sadness, guilt
D) all of the above are related to jealousy

Question 16

The metaphor "kiss of the porcupines" refers to which of the following statements?

A) People are like porcupines in that they like to "burrow" into their relationships.
B) Humans have the need to be social with one another, but they often harm each other in their closeness.
C) Research has discovered that partners who have been hurt by sexual infidelity often feel like kisses from the other person are "prickly."
D) all of the above

Question 17

According to the evolutionary hypothesis discussed in your text book, men and women react differently to emotional and sexual infidelity because:

A) men can't talk about their feelings as well as women can.
B) men and women have different priorities related to mating and parenting.
C) women don't care if their partners are sexually unfaithful as long as they are emotionally faithful.
D) men believe women are emotionally connected to people they have sex with, whereas women believe men can have sex without being emotionally connected.

Question 18

Which of the following is the best example of using surveillance as a response to jealousy?

A) Jason presses the redial button on his girlfriend's telephone to see who she called
B) Bob accuses Steve of being disloyal to him
C) Rachel flirts with Brent to try and get Nick jealous
D) Kristen makes herself especially attractive when around Terry.

Question 19

According to the double shot hypothesis, men and women react differently to emotional and sexual infidelity because:

A) men can't talk about their feelings as well as women can.
B) men and women have different priorities related to mating and parenting.
C) women don't care if their partners are sexually unfaithful as long as they are emotionally faithful.
D) men believe women are emotionally connected to people they have sex with, whereas women believe men can have sex without being emotionally connected.

Question 20

Which of the following is NOT one of the destructive responses to jealousy?

A) counterjealousy induction
B) distributive communication
C) signs of possession
D) violent communication

Question 21

Cupach and Spitzberg gave four reasons why pursuers continue to use obsessive relational intrusion behaviors when the person to whom they are attracted does not return their interest. Which of the following is NOT one of these reasons?

A) cultural scripts
B) direct rejection strategies
C) rumination
D) a motivational shift from pursuit to a desire for revenge

Question 22

SNUPE-ing is an acronym for "secondary network understanding pre-encounter, where you get information about a potential date from friends.

Question 23

According to relational goal pursuit theory:

A) people expend energy to develop or re-initiate relationships to the extent that they perceive a relationship is desirable and attainable.
B) close relationships help people fulfill their instrumental goals as well as their need for affection
C) people experience positive emotion when their relational goals are met or exceeded, and negative emotion when those goals are blocked.
D) personal and relational goals are arranged in a hierarchical structure that guides people's choices about what relationships they should purse, maintain, and end.

Question 24

What is cyberstalking and why is it a problem our opinion has the internet and social media made stalking a more serious issue than before social media.'

Question 25

Jealous women report using integrative communication, expressing emotion, and using counterjealousy inductions more often than jealous men.

Question 26

Counterjealousy inductions occur when a person joins a class or treatment program for their excessive jealousy.

Question 27

According to your readings and class lecture, the most important criterion for defining intimate terrorism is that it:

A) is reciprocal
B) is enacted by a man toward a woman
C) tends to be short-term because it is tied to a particular situation
D) is part of a general pattern of control

Question 28

People from collectivist cultures view deception as more acceptable.

Question 29

Constantly asking for another chance with one's ex is a form of ORI.

Question 30

Women tend to have fewer jealous feelings than men.

Question 31

According to your text a common use of social media is known as "Facebook Stalking."

Question 32

Please identify five common responses to jealousy. Next, indicate which, if any, of these responses are most likely to reduce jealous feelings and thought.

Question 33

One problem with polite or indirect messages of romantic rejection is that they can be misinterpreted.

Question 34

Jealousy can be a sign of love and attachment, but it can also be both a symptom and a cause of relational distress.

Question 35

This type of violence tends to be reciprocal (meaning that both partner's use it) and to occur in the midst of conflict.

A) intimate terrorism
B) negativity spirals
C) common couple violence
D) friendly fire

Question 36

Compensatory restoration is a form of self-improvement to try prevent one's partner from straying as solution for one's jealousy.

Question 37

Stalking behaviors constitute repeated and unwanted contact that is threatening and/or fear-provoking.

Question 38

What is obsessive relational intrusion and why is it a concern of relational communication researchers se list some forms of ORI and some possible ways people cope with others' ORI

Question 39

Lurking on someone's Facebook site to see new postings and pictures is actually appreciated by most Facebook user and in not considered intrusive.

Question 40

Hyperintimacy, a common form of cyber-ORI includes:

A) excessively disclosive messages.
B) receiving unwanted pornographic messages.
C) have a stalker pose as another person.
D) all of the above

Question 41

What is deception what circumstances is it least acceptable or moral what circumstances might it be a good thing?

Question 42

What is unrequited love and what are some choices for such lovers. What are some reactions of their partner to that kind of a situation?