Deck 5: Intimacy, Friendship, and Love

Question 1

According to your text, intimacy refers to

A) closeness between two people.
B) being in love.
C) having a satisfying relationship with someone.
D) having a lot in common with someone.

Answer 1

A

Question 2

According to attachment theory

A) a lover cannot be an attachment object.
B) all important love relationships are attachments.
C) most infants studied showed the "anxious/ambivalent" attachment style.
D) early life attachments do not influence later relationships.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

When we first meet someone, intimacy increases rapidly as we

A) make critical discoveries about each other.
B) become more and more sexually active.
C) develop a successful relationship.
D) become habituated to passion.

Answer 3

A

Question 4

Meg tends to anticipate and overreact to rejection. Her behavior is an example of

A) rejection sensitivity.
B) anticipatory rejection.
C) overreaction syndrome.
D) preemptive rejection.

Question 5

The hookup culture is believed to

A) make relationship building easier.
B) make relationship building more difficult.
C) make women less interested in forming relationships.
D) be as common today as it was in the 1940s and 1950s.

Question 6

"Nothing serious" is the motto of ludic lovers.

Question 7

Infants who sense their mother's detachment and rejection when they desire close bodily contact develop a(n) _____________ attachment style.

A) anxious/avoidant
B) avoidant
C) secure
D) insecure

Question 8

Which encounter best represents a closed field?

A) Coffee and doughnuts at a megachurch
B) A small dinner party
C) Interactions with seatmates and audience members at a major league baseball game
D) Celebrations at a political party headquarters

Question 9

There is a distortion in our understanding of love, because there is a feminization of love.

Question 10

Jealousy

A) is a yardstick for measuring insecurity or possessiveness.
B) is a sign of love.
C) proves interest or affection.
D) is rarely linked to violence.

Question 11

Women are associated with neither instrumental displays nor expressive displays in relationships.

Question 12

Kate decided to leave her husband because she believed she was putting much more into the relationship than she was getting out of it. Kate's decision to leave was affected by

A) the balance of costs and benefits.
B) normative inputs.
C) structural constraints.
D) obsessing over the relationship.

Question 13

Among___________, marriage was often entered as a means to escape economic instability and parental authority, and to be seen as an adult.

A) the working poor
B) the working class
C) the middle class
D) the upper class

Question 14

_____ is the tendency to marry people much like ourselves.

A) Heterogeneity
B) Conjugal matching
C) Homogamy
D) Pragma

Question 15

Those who are dissatisfied with __________ love often engage in extra-relational affairs to maintain the passion in their lives.

A) romantic
B) fatuous
C) consummate
D) companionate

Question 16

When examining the role that love has in American culture, we find that

A) love is less important in mate selection in America than it is in Europe.
B) love is dysfunctional in industrialized societies.
C) love has become less important in marriage in the last two decades.
D) love-based marriage match American cultural ideals of autonomy and freedom.

Question 17

_______ or deceptive love is whirlwind love; it begins the day a couple meets and quickly results in cohabitation or engagement, then marriage.

A) Romantic
B) Fatuous
C) Consummate
D) Companionate

Question 18

Unrequited love is most likely to be experienced by people with _____ attachment style.

A) insecure
B) secure
C) avoidant
D) anxious/ambivalent

Question 19

All of the following are important points about how love is experienced by people of different sexual orientations except

A) Love is neither more nor less important for heterosexuals, gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals.
B) Love may have special significance in the formation and acceptance of a same-sex or bisexual identity.
C) Some of what have been reported as gender differences in experiencing and expressing intimacy may vary depending on the relational context.
D) Love is not more important to heterosexual women than to lesbians, gay men, or heterosexual men.

Question 20

Bridget is very attractive. Therefore, others assume she is also intelligent and kind. This phenomenon is referred to as

A) generalization tendency.
B) the halo effect.
C) the do-good-feel-good phenomenon.
D) the Kohn effect.

Question 21

For Allen and Sara, love involves sleepless nights and painful, anxiety-filled days. This illustrates

A) mania.
B) ludus.
C) agape.
D) pragma.

Question 22

Describe Francesca Cancian's gender bias in cultural constructions of love that was referred to as feminization of love.

Question 23

Romantic love begins to increase as children grow up and leave home.

Question 24

Intimate relationships provide us with which benefit?

A) Preventing depression
B) Buffering us against companionship
C) Enhancing our self-esteem
D) Providing us with negative viewpoints about others

Question 25

Discuss the advantages and disadvantages associated with online dating.

Question 26

Which of the following is a central feature of romantic love?

A) Doubt
B) Butterflies in the stomach
C) Rejection
D) Sharing thoughts and secrets

Question 27

Researchers agree that attachment styles in adulthood are a result of early childhood experiences.

Question 28

True love always involves some jealousy from time to time.

Question 29

Our romantic view of love-based marriage is based on which social class?

A) Upper
B) Upper-middle
C) Middle
D) Lower

Question 30

Bill and Linda have a type of love that is chaste, patient, and understanding. John Lee refers to this as

A) agape.
B) pragma.
C) ludus.
D) storge.

Question 31

In both friendship and love, gender differences may be more exaggerated in what people say than by what they do.

Question 32

Men expect more sexual intimacy on dates initiated by women.

Question 33

Bogle suggests that hooking up makes relationship building more difficult. Define "hooking up," and discuss why this might be the case. Why do you think hooking up has gained popularity?

Question 34

Summarize attachment theory. Give a description of each of the three types of adults identified by the theory. Do you believe that early attachments determine attachment styles in adulthood? Why or why not?

Question 35

Compare and contrast Lee's Styles of Love with Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.

Question 36

The combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment results in

A) romantic love.
B) fatuous love.
C) consummate love.
D) infatuation.

Question 37

The transformation of passionate love is often experienced as a crisis in a relationship.

Question 38

Marital commitments may last longer than those of unmarried couples because

A) married people are happier.
B) norms and structural constraints compensate for the lack of personal satisfaction.
C) structural constraints do not apply to marriage.
D) married people are more satisfied with their relationships.

Question 39

Reactive jealousy occurs when a partner reveals a current, past, or anticipated relationship with another person.

Question 40

Which component of Sternberg's theory of love refers to the elements of romance, attraction, and sexuality in a relationship?

A) Intimacy
B) Passion
C) Decision/commitment
D) Mania