Deck 6: Qualities of a Successful Marriage

Question 1

There are four criteria of a successful marriage. Which one is not one of the criteria?

A) Durability
B) Fulfillment of needs
C) Romance
D) Approximation of ideals

Answer 1

C

Question 2

One measure of marital success is whether the marriage makes a sufficient contribution to individual needs, including which of the following?

A) Sexual needs
B) Social needs
C) Psychological needs
D) All of the above

Answer 2

D

Question 3

___________ has been studying what makes some marriages happy and others miserable.

A) Erik Erikson
B) Freud
C) John Gottman
D) Steinberg

Answer 3

C

Question 4

Successful couples

A) Are always happy
B) Strive for improvement
C) Are always fulfilled with the relationship
D) None of the above

Question 5

Some messages

A) Cannot be understood
B) Can be perceived as a negative
C) Can be perceived as a positive
D) B and C

Question 6

Human beings differ in terms of their

A) Needs
B) Preferences
C) Habits
D) All of the above

Question 7

According to numerous studies, one of the most important requirements in a successful marriage is

A) Economic stability
B) Good communication
C) A supportive family
D) Adequate housing

Question 8

The text identifies destructive communication as involving all of the following except:

A) Hurtful
B) Critical in a cold, unfeeling way
C) Negative comments
D) Walking away

Question 9

One of the most basic human needs in a relationship is

A) Being fed
B) Being accepted
C) Being appreciated
D) B and C

Question 10

Noncontingent reinforcement is

A) Acceptance of another person as he or she is
B) Friendship
C) Unconditional approval of another person
D) Good communication

Question 11

Unconditional positive regard is

A) Love under any circumstance
B) Acceptance of another person as he or she is
C) Unconditional approval of another person
D) Trust

Question 12

A major challenge for couples and families is

A) Having enough money
B) Long work weeks
C) Spending enough time together
D) Technology

Question 13

__________ cautions that the goal of having your spouse be your best friend is difficult to achieve and not for everyone.

A) J. Gottman
B) P. Schwartz
C) D. Olson
D) J. Hyde

Question 14

Another factor contributing to a successful marriage is

A) Sharing household chores
B) Each member of the couple working
C) Sharing spirituality, morality, and values
D) Sharing a conservative viewpoint

Question 15

Successful marriage requires

A) A sincere desire to make the marriage work
B) Solid investments
C) Willingness to expend time
D) A and C

Question 16

________________points out that a marriage takes work and it takes both people to make it work.

A) DeFrain
B) Koenig
C) Stinnett
D) Olson

Question 17

Which is not true about meeting one another's need for love and affection?

A) Marital rituals
B) Words that express warmth
C) Appreciation
D) Endearment

Question 18

What is true about problems in relationships?

A) They indicate a need for counseling.
B) They indicate a need for an attorney.
C) They are normal.
D) None of the above

Question 19

Spouses whose marriages are successful

A) Have strict boundaries
B) Have written contracts
C) Are adaptable and flexible
D) Go with the flow

Question 20

When two people start to go out with one another, each seeks to discover the other's

A) Family background
B) Professional goals
C) Arguing skills
D) Sincerity about the relationship

Question 21

Some people make the wrong choice of mate because they

A) Want to please their parents and succumb to the pressure to marry
B) Choose not to do counseling
C) Confuse sex with love
D) A and C

Question 22

Potential problems can often be

A) Pointed out by friends
B) Seen before the marriage
C) Learned through a survey quiz
D) None of the above

Question 23

There are ____ characteristics of a successful marriage.

A) 10
B) 12
C) 15
D) 20

Question 24

Most couples start out marriage engaging frequently in

A) Conversation
B) Going out with friends
C) Sexual intercourse
D) Travel

Question 25

What happens in the first ____ of marriage is important in predicting marital satisfaction over the long run.

A) 1 year
B) 2 years
C) 3 years
D) 4 years

Question 26

People regret their choices of a partner because

A) Of a number of reasons
B) They live in a fantasy world
C) They look for the wrong qualities
D) All of the above

Question 27

Culture and family values play a big part in defining both happiness and success in marriage.

Question 28

All successful marriages live up to all expectations and fulfill all the spouses' needs all of the time.

Question 29

Negative affect reciprocity is a pattern of communication in unhappy couples.

Question 30

The demand-withdraw pattern is a characteristic of a happy marriage.

Question 31

An appraisal is our perception or definition of a situation.

Question 32

In general, men and women experience sexual desire at the same frequency.

Question 33

A polygamous family is a single family unit based on the marriage of one person to two or more mates.

Question 34

Sex has long been intertwined with feelings of intimacy in committed relationships.

Question 35

Only one study has tried to describe the qualities of a successful marriage.

Question 36

When a marriage is in trouble, it is often because of poor communication.

Question 37

Couples who communicate effectively report they can talk about anything.

Question 38

One important reason for getting married is companionship

Question 39

Spending enough time together is easy for today's couples and families.

Question 40

Friendship is important in marriage.

Question 41

Non-contingent reinforcement means unconditional approval of another person.

Question 42

Marital success is more attainable if the commitment is mutual.

Question 43

"Selfism" is a personal value system that emphasizes that the way to find happiness is through self-gratification and narcissism.

Question 44

Adaptability and flexibility do not require a high degree of emotional stability.

Question 45

One source of pressure to marry can be a pregnancy.

Question 46

What defines a successful marriage?

Question 47

What is the demand-withdraw pattern?

Question 48

What are the five areas

Question 49

What does research show about couples who share interests?

Question 50

What role does commitment play in the marital relationship?

Question 51

What role do rituals play in nurturing a relationship?

Question 52

What is "selfism" and what effect does it have on marriage?

Question 53

Why are adaptability, flexibility, and tolerance part of a successful marriage?

Question 54

Why do some individuals regret their choice of a mate?

Question 55

Even if someone selects a wrong partner, can there be happiness in a marriage?

Question 56

John Gottman has studied more than 2,000 couples by conducting extensive interviews and videotaping couple interactions. What did he learn from the studies?

Question 57

What role does stress play in marital satisfaction?

Question 58

Is it possible for problems to be seen prior to a marriage?