Deck 4: Love and Loving Relationships

Question 1

Our earliest forms of love are:

A)sexual.
B)attachments to our primary caregiver.
C)Storge-type love.
D)avoidant.
E)unrequited.

Answer 1

B

Question 2

Ancient Greek and Roman mythology and early Christianity did not equate love with:
a)happiness.
b)good health.
c)marriage.
d)sex.
e)passion.

Answer 2

C
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Question 3

Which of the following have researchers NOT found to be true about romance in post-modern American society?

A)Romance is so important that people will leave marriages once the romance is gone.
B)Romance didn't even make it into the top twelve aspects of love in a 1980's study.
C)If two people in a marriage or committed relationship truly love one another, they will always have romance.
D)When totally engrossed in romantic love, people often cannot concentrate on any other aspect of their life.
E)Romance is a staple of most forms of entertainment and advertising.

Answer 3

C

Question 4

"Other people don't seem to want to get as close as I do, and it scares them away," says Lucas. This may indicate a/an ___________ attachment.

A)secure
B)anxious/ambivalent
C)motor
D)avoidant
E)infant-father

Question 5

Which represents a macro-level perspective on love?
a)Sternberg's triangular theory of love
b)a wheel theory of love
c)societies control the development of love
d)John Lee's styles of love
e)Agape

Question 6

Which statement best indicates an avoidant attachment among adults?

A)I find it relatively easy to get close to others.
B)I am usually comfortable depending on others and having them depend on me.
C)I generally don't worry about being abandoned.
D)I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me.
E)It's difficult to trust people completely, and I'd rather not become too dependent on them.

Question 7

Which of the following is TRUE about attachment?

A)Attachment theory has been proven false over the past couple of decades.
B)Men are less likely than women to be attached, according to attachment theory.
C)Our type of attachment as a young child likely affects our type of attachment as an adult, although other factors may matter as well.
D)A child who was ignored often as a child and who didn't have needs met is likely to grow up to worry that a partner doesn't really love him/her or won't want to stay with him/her.
E)Experiments conducted in France show the inherent racism in attachment theory.

Question 8

Some of the earliest stories of love come from:
a)ancient Greek and Roman mythology.
b)William Shakespeare.
c)writings during colonial America and the Revolutionary War.
d)the Middle Ages.
e)the Incas.

Question 9

When we establish eye contact with, touch, or smell the scent of a person with features we see as desirable, our brain releases a flood of chemicals to the nerves and bloodstream that are natural amphetamines such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine (PEA)that give us the rush we know as sexual attraction. This is the __________ perspective.
a)biochemical
b)historical-biological
c)macro-level
d)Sternberg's triangular theory
e)Reiss's wheel theory

Question 10

Casey and Amber have a rational, down-to-earth style of love based on practical considerations. They both had an actual checklist of traits they were looking for in a partner such as their level of education, earnings, and religious or political views. Which style of love does this represent?
a)Agape
b)liking
c)practicality-bonded
d)Ludus
e)Pragma

Question 11

Which of the following is TRUE regarding Sternberg's triangular theory of love?
a)All relationships start out at one point, and gradually move around the triangle.
b)Ludus encompasses feelings of physical attraction, romance, and sexual arousal, and is the most intense.
c)The three points represent different methods of mate selection around the world.
d)Various combinations of the three elements breed different kinds of love.
e)This theory best explains arranged marriages, as in the case of Rati and Subas in the opening vignette.

Question 12

Michael and his partner Matthew have been together for many years. They began as friends, and over time the relationship moved forward in its degree of commitment and intimacy. It is a comfortable love, with mutual trust, compatibility, and respect. Which style of love does this represent?
a)Agape
b)Eros
c)Storge
d)Ludus
e)Pragma

Question 13

Sternberg's triangular theory of love suggests that love has three components:
a)biochemical, Eros, and wheel theory
b)Storge, Ludus, and Eros
c)passion, intimacy, and commitment
d)kinship rules, close supervision, and formally free
e)Storge, commitment, and kinship rules

Question 14

In a formally free society, such as the United States, the development of love:

A)depends on the books, movies, television, and other forms of entertainment youth consume.
B)is free: people are free to choose when, how, and whom they love.
C)happens through formal structures, such as schools and athletic clubs, which closely supervise young people in order to control whom they love.
D)still follows kinship rules: cousins marrying cousins would be seen as completely inappropriate.
E)is formed through parents trying to steer their children toward homogamous relationships by limiting or directing their social interactions.

Question 15

__________ is defined as (1)a strong affection for one another arising out of kinship or personal ties; (2)attraction based on sexual desire; and (3)affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.

A)Attachment
B)Secure attachment
C)Love
D)Respect
E)Ludus love

Question 16

Meixiu and Bai Chao have been happily married for over thirty years. Their relationship is based on trust and commitment, and they feel tremendous joy and pride in the family they have raised, and the home they have built. It is likely that they experience:
a)arranged love.
b)companionate love.
c)Agape love.
d)romantic love.
e)early-stage love.

Question 17

Reiss's wheel theory of love examines the various stages in which love develops. He describes four stages of love. Which is NOT one of them?
a)biochemical processes
b)building rapport
c)self-revelation
d)mutual dependency
e)personality need fulfillment

Question 18

The "romantic love ideal" developed during the 18th and 19th centuries includes five core beliefs. Which is NOT one of them?
a)love at first sight
b)there is one "true love" for each person
c)love is a struggle
d)the beloved is (nearly)perfect
e)we should marry for love

Question 19

__________ attachments reflect children's confidence in knowing their caregiver would be available when needed, an assurance that comes from the caregiver having been warm, responsive, and consistently available to infants over time.

A)Secure
B)Anxious/ambivalent
C)Motor
D)Avoidant
E)Infant-father

Question 20

Wow! Marcus and Gwen are in love. It is a passionate, melodramatic, and an exciting experience! What type of love are they likely experiencing?
a)arranged love
b)companionate love
c)Storge love
d)romantic love
e)early-stage love

Question 21

Charlene was devastated when she found that her husband had an affair with a colleague at work. She felt threatened by the loss of an important relationship. This is an example of:

A)stalking.
B)unrequited love.
C)rational jealousy.
D)open-ended partnerships.
E)wheel theory.

Question 22

Irrational jealousy:

A)occurs more with women than with men.
B)occurs more in same-sex relationships than in heterosexual ones.
C)usually strengthens relationships over time.
D)can come about from our own insecurities about our relationships and ourselves.
E)is based on some real rival threat.

Question 23

Definitions of love, the importance of attachment, theoretical perspectives, and the experiences of love are generally __________ for same-sex couples as compared to heterosexual couples.

A)the same
B)somewhat more important
C)somewhat less important
D)extremely different
E)irrelevant

Question 24

Men:

A)are less likely than women today to fall in love for reasons related to physical attractiveness.
B)are more likely to have a Pragma style of loving, whereas women likely lean towards an Eros style.
C)have difficulty expressing love.
D)are more likely to have a Mania style of love, whereas women likely lean towards a Ludus style.
E)may not get credit for their expressions of love.

Question 25

The process beginning in the 19th century in which love became associated with the private work of women in the home, namely, nurturing and caring for family members, is known as the feminization of love.

Question 26

Which of the following is TRUE regarding sex differences in love?

A)There are no sex differences, according to the latest research.
B)Men are more likely than women to be looking for a partner and they fall in love sooner.
C)White women are more likely than White men to be looking for a partner, but in other racial and ethnic groups the trend is reversed.
D)Young women under age 25 are more likely than men to be looking for a partner and they fall in love sooner, but the trend is reversed among those who are older.
E)Our cultural rhetoric claims that men fall in love more easily than women.

Question 27

Kiesha is a 22-year-old college student who is very clingy with her friends and her boyfriend. She doesn't like to be alone, and needs to seek their constant approval. She is often afraid that they don't like her. She may have an anxious/ambivalent attachment.

Question 28

Thomas had a crush on Bobby, but the feelings were not reciprocated. This is an example of:

A)irrational jealousy.
B)prejudice against gays.
C)unrequited love.
D)Mania.
E)the feminization of love.

Question 29

According to the U.S. Department of Justice, activities such as (1)making unwanted telephone calls; (2)sending unsolicited or unwanted letters or e-mails; (3)following or spying on the victim; (4)showing up at places without a legitimate reason; (5)waiting at places for the victim; (6)leaving unwanted items, presents, or flowers; and (7)posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth are examples of:

A)irrational jealousy.
B)stalking.
C)rational jealousy.
D)Agape.
E)close-ended partnerships.

Question 30

A wheel theory perspective is an approach that looks at biological and chemical factors to explain love.

Question 31

With respect to relationships and breakups:

A)adolescents who are involved in romantic relationships have higher self-esteem and lower rates of depression than other adolescents.
B)the relationship between adolescent romance and self-esteem and emotional health may be, at least in part, a selection effect.
C)women tend to feel worse after a breakup, and therefore resume dating more quickly than do men.
D)almost half of relationships eventually come to an end.
E)breakups are most common with Pragma styles of love.

Question 32

An attachment type where infants become nervous when their parent leaves the room, and can show rejection when the parent returns, is anxious/ambivalent attachment.

Question 33

Courtly love is a poetic style of the Middle Ages when poets or troubadours would write songs of unrequited love and present them at the court of their aristocratic/royal masters.

Question 34

Anh and Thu had been a couple for nearly a year before Anh decided that she no longer was in love with him. She broke up with Thu. This is an example of:

A)stalking.
B)unrequited love.
C)Storge.
D)Mania
E)the feminization of love.

Question 35

According to John Lee, Ludus is a playful, carefree type of love, and Ludus lovers are more about fun and games than about commitment.

Question 36

Benito and Clarissa broke off their relationship recently for reasons that you would identify as micro-level factors. Which is NOT a micro-level factor?

A)The high unemployment in their community prevented Benito from finding a good job.
B)They had difficulty communicating with one another.
C)Benito is shy and Clarissa is outgoing, and eventually their personality differences got on their nerves.
D)Clarissa's mother didn't like Benito and thought he was unambitious.
E)Benito felt with so many women available, he could find someone he liked better.

Question 37

Sternberg's theory of love sees love as having three elements-intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Question 38

Rati and Subas illustrate the importance of romance to the marital relationship.

Question 39

An attachment type where infants feel safe when their mothers are out of sight is called secure attachment.

Question 40

Romantic love is a type of love that grows over time, based on strong commitment, friendship, and trust.

Question 41

A macro-level perspective on love argues that all societies control or channel the development of love.

Question 42

Who is more interested in love, according to the research, men or women?

Question 43

List the five ways that a culture may try to control the development of love.

Question 44

According to Sternberg's triangular theory of love, when the relationship contains all three components, and is all that love can be, it is called ___________.

Question 45

Using a survey tracking almost 8,000 seventh- through twelfth-graders for one year, a study found that those who entered into romantic relationships were less likely to be depressed compared to those who did not enter relationships.

Question 46

Unrequited love refers to __________.

Question 47

Which group is still not able to freely show affection in public or acknowledge their love out of fear of being ostracized, attacked, or even killed?

Question 48

What are the four stages in the wheel theory of love, according to Reiss?

Question 49

Provide four examples of different types of stalking.

Question 50

Part of the reason that women are more obsessed with love than are men is because they tend to focus more on Eros and Ludus types of love, whereas men tend to focus on a Storge type of love.

Question 51

Timothy found his girlfriend in bed with another man. He was angry and felt threatened that his relationship was over. This is an example of __________ jealousy.

Question 52

The dictionary defines love as __________.

Question 53

Briefly provide two reasons that explain negative consequences of adolescent romance, such as poor academic performance, conflict with parents, and depression.

Question 54

Jake is jealous of any man that his girlfriend, Nina, interacts with because he is afraid they will have an affair. Nina has never had an affair, nor has any interest in having one. This is an example of rational jealousy.

Question 55

Candy's mom was not often warm and responsive to Candy during infancy. This caused Candy to feel stress as an infant. She became nervous when her mother left and then showed rejection of her mother when she returned. This is an example of a/an __________ attachment.

Question 56

______________ lovers may actually have a checklist of traits they are looking for in a partner, such as their level of education, earnings, and religious or political views, according to John Lee.

Question 57

The study of how biology shapes our social life is called _____________.

Question 58

Attachment theory suggests that early attachments infants make with _______________ will have implications for the way they make attachments to others throughout life.

Question 59

Companionate love is based on __________.

Question 60

Men are more likely than women to be in or looking for committed relationships, and they report falling in love sooner and with more people than do women.

Question 61

Evaluate the statement, "Men are more interested in love than are women." Provide the evidence to support or refute that statement.

Question 62

Write an essay about stalking. Be sure to include information on the different types of stalking, its frequency, and the consequences.

Question 63

Debate attachment theory. Discuss its premise and critique.

Question 64

Using the theories of love presented in the chapter (e.g., Sternberg, Lee, and Reiss), describe the relationship of Subas and Rati in the opening vignette. How does this chapter shed light on their relationship?
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Question 65

Describe how different cultures control the development of love. Which method does the United States use?
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