Deck 12: Love and Intimacy

Question 1

What are the three components of attachment measured by Rubin's "Love Scale"? 

A) passion, intimacy, commitment 
B) affection, loyalty, openness 
C) secure, insecure, avoidant 
D) needing, caring, trusting

Answer 1

  D

Question 2

What term is used to describe love that will never be returned? 

A) platonic 
B) companionate 
C) agape 
D) unrequited

Answer 2

  D

Question 3

How did John Alan Lee identify the six different ways to love,which he called "colours" of love? 

A) He asked college students to identify feelings associated with their most recent romantic relationship. 
B) He interviewed couples who had been married for 20 years or longer. 
C) Using lists of feelings words, he asked individuals between the ages of 10 and 95 to identify the words they most associated with feeling loved. 
D) He collected statements about love from works of fiction and nonfiction including both ancient and modern authors.

Answer 3

  D

Question 4

What is another term for conjugal love? 

A) platonic 
B) companionate 
C) agape 
D) unrequited

Question 5

Which part of Rubin's Love Scale asks the respondent to complete the following sentence: "I feel very possessive about _____"? 

A) needing 
B) trusting 
C) affection 
D) passion

Question 6

Which part of Rubin's Love Scale asks the respondent to complete the following sentence: "If I could never be with ____,I would feel miserable"? 

A) needing 
B) caring 
C) intimacy 
D) security

Question 7

Brian and Ann have been married for over 20 years and they describe their feelings for each other as intimate,trusting,loyal,and romantic.What term best describes their love? 

A) romantic love 
B) passionate love 
C) companionate love 
D) sacrificial love

Question 8

According to research,what love styles identified by Lee are associated with poorer psychological health? 

A) manic and ludic 
B) erotic and manic 
C) erotic and pragmatic 
D) storgic and ludic

Question 9

What did Robert Sternberg's research propose? 

A) Love is made up of three different elements combined in different ways. 
B) Each person has a style of love that remains consistent over time. 
C) Most people will choose relationships with those who have similar love styles. 
D) Love that begins as romantic love is not likely to be long lasting.

Question 10

When asked to describe his relationship with his partner,Jason says he knew it was love at first sight and that he loves to close his eyes and feel the touch and smell of his lover.According to Lee,what is Jason's love style? 

A) ludic 
B) storge 
C) manic 
D) erotic

Question 11

Michelle likes to do sweet and romantic things for her partner.In fact,she will often put her partner's needs above her own.Her partner's happiness is more important than her own.According to Lee,what is Michelle's love style? 

A) storge 
B) agape 
C) pragma 
D) ludic

Question 12

According to Sternberg,how is intimacy best described? 

A) It involves feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bonding in a loving relationship. 
B) It is sparked by physical attraction and sexual desire driving a person to pursue a romantic relationship. 
C) It is the short term decision to love someone and the long term decision to maintain that love. 
D) It is one of the first elements to build in a relationship but also one of the first to fade as the relationship continues.

Question 13

According to recent research,what becomes stronger when people feel loved and can open up and talk with each other? 

A) religious commitment 
B) financial well-being 
C) immune functioning 
D) cultural identity

Question 14

According to Sternberg's love triangles,what term is used for the absence of the three building blocks of love? 

A) jealousy 
B) unrequited love 
C) nonlove 
D) manic love

Question 15

According to the text,how does a couple's score on Rubin's love scale correlate with their behaviour? 

A) It correlates with the probability they will get married. 
B) It correlates with the probability they will cheat on each other. 
C) It correlates with how many sexual partners they have had. 
D) It correlates with how many years they have been together.

Question 16

When did the idea that romantic love is the most desirable form of love become popular? 

A) ancient Egypt 
B) middle ages 
C) nineteenth century 
D) current generation

Question 17

Erik says "Love is a shopping list.You go through life trying to find a partner who has all of the items on your list." According to Lee,what is Erik's love style? 

A) storge 
B) agape 
C) pragma 
D) ludic

Question 18

According to Sternberg,what differentiates romantic love from other kinds of love? 

A) intimacy 
B) passion 
C) commitment 
D) jealousy

Question 19

Tess has enjoyed trying to seduce Sam over the past four months.She is also in several other relationships.What is the term for the type of love Tess is showing for Sam? 

A) eros 
B) ludus 
C) storge 
D) mania

Question 20

Which of Sternberg's types of love involves passion but not intimacy or commitment? 

A) empty love 
B) infatuation 
C) fatuous love 
D) consummate love

Question 21

Maxine has several men she is interested in having a relationship with.Who is she most likely to choose as a long term mate? 

A) someone with a different major histocompatibility complex (MHC) than her own 
B) someone who has very different personality traits than she does 
C) someone who wears cologne containing pheromones 
D) someone who has the same blood type as her

Question 22

Rick and Lindsey were on the same airplane during an emergency landing.They met at the airport while waiting for another airplane.Over the next four months they formed a long distance relationship.Lindsey says her heart races whenever she sees Rick.What theory of love best exemplifies this? 

A) behavioural reinforcement 
B) cognitive 
C) physiological arousal 
D) evolutionary

Question 23

Which style of attachment best describes babies who have caregivers who are uncomfortable with affection and force separation at an early age? 

A) secure 
B) ambivalent 
C) avoidant 
D) inflexible

Question 24

What term describes the set of behaviours developed in adolescence that we use to forge close relationships throughout our lives? 

A) intimacy repertoire 
B) attachment style 
C) relationship roles 
D) love styles

Question 25

Related to attachment,divorce,and future relationships,what factor has been found to reduce the negative effects from divorce? 

A) if the child has a good relationship with at least one sibling 
B) if the divorce occurred before the children were teenagers 
C) if both parents remained in the same community 
D) if a child has a good relationship with at least one parent after the divorce

Question 26

According to the text,what is a significant characteristic that distinguishes love from intimacy? 

A) reciprocity 
B) passion 
C) commitment 
D) loyalty

Question 27

Thao thinks Nick may like him because they have made prolonged eye contact several times during class.Thao finds himself grabbing an extra pop for Nick,offering him help on his homework,and spending time hanging out after class with him.As he thinks about this,he realizes he is falling for Nick.What theory of love does this best exemplify? 

A) behavioural reinforcement 
B) cognitive 
C) physiological arousal 
D) evolutionary

Question 28

Sixteen-month-old Latesha doesn't mind if her father leaves the room because she knows he will respond if she needs him.What style of attachment is Latesha most likely to have? 

A) avoidant 
B) loyal 
C) secure 
D) companionate

Question 29

What is one of the most reliable predictors of whom a person will date? 

A) physical attraction 
B) education background 
C) acceptance of peers 
D) proximity

Question 30

Natasha and Jake have been dating for about a year.Natasha makes Jake feel good about himself.Whenever they are together he seems to feel happier and more confident.What theory of love does this best exemplify? 

A) behavioural reinforcement 
B) cognitive 
C) physiological arousal 
D) evolutionary

Question 31

Lott and Lott found that children who were rewarded continually by their teachers came to like their classmates more than children who were not rewarded.What theory of love does this research finding reflect? 

A) evolutionary 
B) cognitive 
C) behavioural reinforcement 
D) physiological arousal

Question 32

What does Ainsworth's research suggest is highly correlated to the type of intimate relationship you form in your adulthood? 

A) the level of praise and encouragement you received as a child 
B) whether or not your parents were divorced when you were a child 
C) whether or not you developed a positive love role repertoire as a child 
D) the type of attachment you formed as a child

Question 33

According to recent research,which statement best describes pheromones? 

A) We tend to be attracted to someone with a similar major histocompatibility complex (MHC) as our own. 
B) Pheromones are more influential on human sexual behaviour than on animal behaviour. 
C) Colognes containing pheromones are effective in attracting a compatible partner. 
D) Homosexual men respond to pheromones involved in sexual attraction similarly to heterosexual women.

Question 34

According to attachment researchers,what style of attachment in infancy leads adults to have a difficult time trusting their partners? 

A) anxious/ambivalent 
B) secure 
C) avoidant 
D) irritable/insecure

Question 35

What is a term that identifies the group of people a person may be attracted to? 

A) love repertoire 
B) attraction index 
C) personality profile 
D) field of eligible

Question 36

At what age is a child's attachment style typically established? 

A) 3 months 
B) 9 months 
C) 2 years 
D) 5 years

Question 37

Which part of Rubin's Love Scale asks the respondent to complete the following sentence: "I would do almost anything for her"? 

A) trusting 
B) caring 
C) loyalty 
D) commitment

Question 38

What have love researchers determined about the role of one's mother and father in the development of healthy,intimate relationships? 

A) Those who do not experience intimacy growing up will not experience it as adults. 
B) Childhood intimacy is not related to adult intimacy. 
C) People who did not experience intimacy growing up can experience it as adults. 
D) All people experience intimacy regardless of childhood experiences.

Question 39

Which theory of love suggests that we are likely to become attracted to someone we think likes us? 

A) proximity 
B) cognitive 
C) evolutionary 
D) behavioural

Question 40

Which theory of love suggests that we are likely to fall in love with people whom we think have positive traits that will later be passed on to our children? 

A) cognitive 
B) proximity 
C) evolutionary 
D) physiological

Question 41

Where is a man who equates love with sadness and jealousy most likely from? 

A) United States 
B) Canada 
C) France 
D) China

Question 42

In which country is it most likely that a person will think first of how a mate would be received by family and friends over one's own sense of romance? 

A) Mexico 
B) China 
C) United States 
D) France

Question 43

One's culture has a more powerful impact on love beliefs than one's gender.

Question 44

What skill is Katie practicing when she maintains eye contact and smiles among people she wants to have relationships with? 

A) self-love 
B) receptivity 
C) affection 
D) trust

Question 45

Which statement best describes the matching hypothesis? 

A) As couples are together longer, their behaviours tend to become very similar. 
B) People are drawn to others with traits and levels of attractiveness similar to themselves. 
C) Heterosexual people tend to find a partner who is similar to their opposite sex parent. 
D) People are more likely to choose partners with opposite characteristics to themselves.

Question 46

Self-love is another name used for narcissism.

Question 47

According to behavioural reinforcement theory,a person may dislike someone based on the experience of an unrelated negative association in his or her presence.

Question 48

People use their body language to reveal their level of attraction when meeting someone for the first time.

Question 49

Passionate love is more valued in individualistic cultures than in collectivist cultures.

Question 50

According to evolutionary theory,the only component of love that has survival value is lust.

Question 51

What was a significant problem with Davis Buss's methodology for studying attraction across cultures? 

A) His sample size was very small, thus not representative. 
B) He only surveyed people who were married for his study. 
C) He only surveyed people who identified as Christian. 
D) He assumed all respondents were heterosexual.

Question 52

According to research,what two areas are closely related to jealousy? 

A) trust and self-esteem 
B) loyalty and self-confidence 
C) self-disclosure and self-confidence 
D) caring and loyalty

Question 53

There is a strong correlation between a person's childhood attachment style and how he or she relates to future intimate relationships.

Question 54

There is significant variation across cultures in what characteristics are desired in an ideal mate.

Question 55

Research has found that age and relationship length are both positively related to intimacy and commitment.

Question 56

Folklore has sayings that "birds of a father flock together" and "opposites attract." Current research on attraction supports both sayings.

Question 57

According to research,which of the following is strongly correlated with intimacy? 

A) the ability to compromise 
B) the ability to show affection 
C) the ability to self-disclose 
D) the ability to be assertive

Question 58

When it comes to choosing an ideal mate,what does the most current research show? 

A) Both men and women rate physical attractiveness as the most important feature in finding a romantic partner. 
B) Heterosexual men rate educational achievement higher than heterosexual women do. 
C) Heterosexual women and men rate financial stability as an important factor in attraction. 
D) There is significant variation across cultures in what characteristics are desired in an ideal mate.

Question 59

Which country tends to have the lowest degree of conflict in intimate relationships? 

A) France 
B) United States 
C) Japan 
D) Brazil

Question 60

When a person is in love,his or her body releases the drug phenylethylamine.Where else is this drug found? 

A) alcohol 
B) chocolate 
C) heroine 
D) breast milk

Question 61

Heterosexual men and women systematically underestimate the attractiveness of members of their own sex.

Question 62

Six ways to enhance our ability to form relationships were discussed.Identify and explain four of the six.

Question 63

Describe the effects of pheromones on sexual attraction and make reference to at least two research findings discussed in the text.

Question 64

Conjugal love is another name for companionate love.

Question 65

First identify and briefly define the different styles of attachment in childhood.Then discuss two examples of how they have been shown to impact the formation of intimacy in adulthood.

Question 66

Discuss three ways in which culture differences may impact patterns of intimacy.

Question 67

Imagine you are asked to give a workshop on the dark side of love: jealousy,compulsiveness,and possessiveness.Choose five points that you would want to make to your audience.Be sure to reference information from the text.

Question 68

A person is more likely to be jealous in situations where his or her partner is flirting with someone who has characteristics similar to their own.

Question 69

Identify and describe the elements of love according to Robert Sternberg and how these elements combine to make seven different forms of love.

Question 70

Provide an example either from your own experience or from research that illustrates each of the following perspectives on love: evolutionary,behavioural reinforcement,cognitive,and physiological arousal.

Question 71

In long lasting healthy relationships,the description of a couple's love for each other is not likely to vary over the span of their relationship.

Question 72

Describe two problems discussed in the text that are related to measuring love.

Question 73

More men than women report "hooking up" behaviour on college and university campuses.

Question 74

Identify and describe each of John Alan Lee's colours of love.

Question 75

Explain how images of love in the media influence our concept of what love is.Give two specific examples.