Deck 13: Attraction, Love, and Communication

Question 1

According to John Gottman,volatile couples find their happiness in their shared perception of the similarities between them.

Answer 1

False

Question 2

Complaining can be a healthy factor in a relationship because each partner can express needs and possibly get them met.

Answer 2

True

Question 3

Due to the high sexual charge and extreme passion,eros relationships tend to burn out quickly because the passion and sexuality cannot be maintained.

Answer 3

True

Question 4

The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love fatuous love.

Question 5

Good communication requires intentional listening,respect between the partners,and an attempt to understand and respond to needs effectively.

Question 6

The absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love is known as empty love.

Question 7

Standards of beauty and sexiness have remained unchanged over time.

Question 8

Nonverbal communication can serve the function of accenting a verbal message.

Question 9

The matching hypothesis suggests that people select romantic and sexual partners whose opinions and values match their own.

Question 10

Stonewalling is a characteristic of effective communication.

Question 11

As people develop greater emotional literacy,they can become more comfortable with sexual vocabulary.

Question 12

Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy.

Question 13

According to Sternberg,infatuation is simply intimacy that strong and long-lasting.

Question 14

Sexual scripts connect personalities and bodies to what culture has taught people to perceive and respond to as sexy.

Question 15

According to Sternberg's theory of love,companionate love is the complete form of love.

Question 16

Sexual scripts,then,help people to understand information about sexual nature,fantasies,sexual motivations,and physical attraction.

Question 17

Offering encouragement and showing appreciation are examples of emotion work in relationships.

Question 18

Romantic love is theorized to be the type of love associated with the "perfect couple".

Question 19

For a healthy relationship,saying no is a critical skill to learn.

Question 20

Couples who have a validating style of problem solving enjoy more stable and longer-lasting relationships than volatile and conflict-avoiding couples.

Question 21

Which of the following refers to the raw form of desire and attraction?

A) Arousal
B) Hate
C) Friendship
D) Love
E) Lust

Question 22

When Rachel first sees Todd,she finds him very attractive.She feels that he is both kind and intelligent.Which of the following phenomenon explains Rachel's reaction?

A) Halo effect
B) Pygmalion effect
C) Doppler effect
D) Galatea effect
E) McClintock effect

Question 23

_____ is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love,so it is not represented in the triangle.

A) Empty love
B) Nonlove
C) Infatuation
D) Mania
E) Fatuous love

Question 24

_____ is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion.

A) Romantic love
B) Companionate love
C) Fatuous love
D) Infatuation
E) Empty love

Question 25

According to the triangular theory of love,which of the following kinds of love does NOT the component of sexual desire?

A) Fatuous love
B) Infatuation
C) Romantic love
D) Companionate love
E) Mania

Question 26

_____ bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.

A) Fatuous love
B) Companionate love
C) Romantic love
D) Infatuation
E) Empty love

Question 27

According to Sternberg,which of the following types of love is associated with the "perfect couple"?

A) Empty love
B) Romantic love
C) Consummate love
D) Companionate love
E) Fatuous love

Question 28

_____ can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which passion motivates a commitment without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.

A) Mania
B) Infatuation
C) Romantic love
D) Companionate love
E) Fatuous love

Question 29

The "what is beautiful is good" stereotype is known as the _____.

A) Pygmalion effect
B) Golem effect
C) Doppler effect
D) Halo effect
E) McClintock effect

Question 30

_____ refers to a positive perception of someone based on physical attractiveness.

A) Golem effect
B) Halo effect
C) McClintock effect
D) Doppler effect
E) Pygmalion effect

Question 31

_____ refers to the idea that opposites attract,that individuals are attracted to what's different in others.

A) homogamy
B) monogamy
C) bigamy
D) polygamy
E) complementarity

Question 32

Martin admits that one of the things that attracted him to his wife Janice was their shared religious devotion.They are both active members of their church.In addition,they are both quiet people who prefer spending time at home with their kids,and helping their small community.Martin and Janice's relationship illustrates which of the following ideals?

A) Heterogamy
B) Homogamy
C) Bigamy
D) Polygamy
E) Complementarity

Question 33

_____ refers to one component of the triangular theory of love that consists of the feelings and desires that lead to romance,physical attraction,and sexual consummation.

A) Passion
B) Intimacy
C) Commitment
D) Elation
E) Mania

Question 34

The theory of _____ states that we tend to be more attracted to people who share characteristics such as attachment style,political and religious attitudes,socioeconomic status,level of education,and intelligence.

A) homogamy
B) monogamy
C) bigamy
D) polygamy
E) complementarity

Question 35

_____ is an intimate,nonpassionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment.

A) Fatuous love
B) Companionate love
C) Romantic love
D) Infatuation
E) Empty love

Question 36

_____ refers to one component of the triangular theory of love that includes feelings of closeness,connectedness,and bondedness.

A) Passion
B) Intimacy
C) Commitment
D) Infatuation
E) Nonlove

Question 37

_____ is characterized by pure passion.

A) Romantic love
B) Intimacy
C) Empty love
D) Infatuation
E) Fatuous love

Question 38

_____ refers to one component of the triangular theory of love that consists of the feelings leading one person to remain with another,and in the long term,the shared achievements and plans made with that partner.

A) Infatuation
B) Intimacy
C) Commitment
D) Passion
E) Attracttion

Question 39

_____ is the complete form of love and represents an ideal relationship.

A) Consummate love
B) Empty love
C) Romantic love
D) Companionate love
E) Fatuous love

Question 40

_____ refers to the hypothesis that people select romantic and sexual partners based upon the other person's attractiveness.

A) Communication privacy management theory
B) Similarity-attraction hypothesis
C) Matching hypothesis
D) Attachment theory
E) Theory of homogamy

Question 41

_____ lovers approach their relationships in a business-like fashion and look for partners with whom they can share common goals.

A) Pragma
B) Mania
C) Eros
D) Agape
E) Helios

Question 42

_____ lovers seek compatibility and choose partners who are similar to themselves.

A) Eros
B) Mania
C) Pragma
D) Agape
E) Helios

Question 43

According to Lee's styles of love,the _____ lovers have an idealized image of beauty that cannot be attained in reality and are highly sensitive to the imperfections of their partner.

A) ludus
B) companionate
C) pragma
D) storge
E) eros

Question 44

_____ lovers place great value on sexual desire and sexual interaction in their relationships.

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Ludus
D) Storge
E) Companionate

Question 45

Which of the following love styles is based on selflessness and compassion?

A) Helios
B) Agape
C) Eros
D) Mania
E) Pragma

Question 46

_____ lovers thrive on relationships born out of deep friendship.

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Ludus
D) Storge
E) Companionate

Question 47

Which of the following love styles is based on elation and depression?

A) Helios
B) Agape
C) Eros
D) Mania
E) Pragma

Question 48

According to Lee's styles of love theory,which of the following is primary love style that is based on beauty and sexuality?

A) Ludus
B) Storge
C) Eros
D) Pragma
E) Agape

Question 49

Identify the love style in which possessiveness and jealousy are common issues.

A) Storge
B) Mania
C) Pragma
D) Agape
E) Eros

Question 50

According to Lee's styles of love theory,which of the following is primary love style that is based on entertainment and excitement?

A) Ludus
B) Storge
C) Eros
D) Pragma
E) Agape

Question 51

Identify the type of love style in which the focus is on having fun in the moment.

A) Eros
B) Ludus
C) Pragma
D) Storge
E) Agape

Question 52

_____ lovers love intensely,and can be insecure about the loss of the love,which means they may experience fear that prevents them from enjoying relationships.

A) Storge
B) Mania
C) Agape
D) Pragma
E) Eros

Question 53

_____ lovers are those who see love as a game and are more interested in quantity than quality of relationships.

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Ludus
D) Storge
E) Agape

Question 54

Which of the following love styles is considered to be a spiritual love,offered without concern for personal reward or gain?

A) Helios
B) Agape
C) Pragma
D) Mania
E) Eros

Question 55

Sex in _____ love comes later in the relationship and when it does,it usually assumes no great importance.

A) ludus
B) storge
C) pragma
D) companionate
E) eros

Question 56

According to Lee's styles of love theory,which of the following is primary love style that is based on peace and friendship?

A) Ludus
B) Pragma
C) Eros
D) Storge
E) Agape

Question 57

Which of the following styles of love is all about giving?

A) Storge
B) Mania
C) Agape
D) Pragma
E) Eros

Question 58

According to Lee's styles of love,which of the following is the downside of pragma relationships?

A) Both partners are required to be selfless and egoless
B) Both partners feel insecure and suffer from low self-esteem
C) Too much importance is placed on sex and passion
D) Too little importance is placed on social qualities and practicality of the relationship
E) Too little importance is placed on the emotional bond in the relationship

Question 59

According to Lee's styles of love,the _____ lovers focus on physical beauty,attraction,and passionate love.

A) ludus
B) eros
C) pragma
D) storge
E) traditional

Question 60

Which of the following love styles is based on practicality and compatibility?

A) Helios
B) Mania
C) Eros
D) Agape
E) Pragma

Question 61

Bart and Bertha say that the growth of their romantic relationship was a gradual process.They were initially best friends who eventually fell in love.According to Lee,which of the following love styles characterizes Bart and Bertha's relationship?

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Storge
D) Agape
E) Ludos

Question 62

Stephanie often feels anxious about her relationship with her boyfriend David.She is highly dependent on him.Although David often verbally abuses and humiliates her,she still invests a significant amount of energy toward maintaining the relationship.Which of the following attachment styles does Stephanie have?

A) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
B) Preoccupied attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Disorganized attachment style
E) Dismissively avoidant attachment style

Question 63

_____ refers to a theory developed by Ainsworth that helps to explain how we bond with caregivers during infancy and childhood.

A) Attachment theory
B) Similarity-attraction hypothesis
C) Matching hypothesis
D) Communication privacy management theory
E) Theory of homogamy

Question 64

Which of the following love styles is a combination of eros and storge?

A) Mania
B) Helios
C) Pragma
D) Agape
E) Ludos

Question 65

Alan wants to find a partner who is compatible with him.Although he agrees that romantic attraction is important,he places a higher value on the practicality of the relationship.He wants a partner who his family approves of;someone who is willing stay at home and take care of his family while he goes to work.Identify the type of love style that characterizes Alan.

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Storge
D) Agape
E) Ludos

Question 66

Identify the attachment style that is characterized by a person who has highly negative views of both self and others.

A) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
B) Preoccupied attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Disorganized attachment style
E) Dismissively avoidant attachment style

Question 67

Tracy places very little value in intimacy.She is not willing to sacrifice her independence and autonomy for any sort of relationship.Which of the following types of attachment styles does Tracy have?

A) Disorganized attachment style
B) Preoccupied attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
E) Dismissively avoidant attachment style

Question 68

Trust,commitment,intimacy,self- confidence,and a willingness to self-disclose are all characteristics of _____ attachment.

A) discordant
B) disorganized
C) secure
D) anxious
E) avoidant

Question 69

Tiffany believes that love should be as it is in the movies.She thinks that her ideal mate is someone with whom she feels an immediate physical chemistry.She believes that her marriage will be one big,lasting honeymoon.Which of the following love styles characterizes Tiffany?

A) Eros
B) Storge
C) Pragma
D) Agape
E) Ludos

Question 70

Which of the following refers to an individual's attempt to change an emotion or feeling?

A) Passive listening
B) Stonewalling
C) Emotional intelligence
D) Emotional literacy
E) Emotion work

Question 71

Which of the following relationship styles is characterized by people who have a positive view of self and a negative view of others?

A) Disorganized attachment style
B) Dismissively avoidant attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
E) Preoccupied attachment style

Question 72

Which of the following love styles is a combination of ludos and storge?

A) Mana
B) Mania
C) Agape
D) Pragma
E) Eros

Question 73

Tim is often called a "player" by his friends because he never stays with one lover for long.His relationship history is full of one night stands and short torrid affairs,until he moves on to his next conquest.Identify the type love style that best characterizes Tim.

A) Eros
B) Storge
C) Pragma
D) Agape
E) Ludos

Question 74

Which of the following attachment styles is characterized by a person who has a negative view of self and a positive view of others?

A) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
B) Disorganized attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Preoccupied attachment style
E) Dismissively avoidant attachment style

Question 75

Which of the following love styles is a combination of eros and ludos?

A) Mania
B) Helios
C) Agape
D) Pragma
E) Storge

Question 76

Stewart is very possessive of his girlfriend Belinda.He often gets jealous when she talks to other men.Although he is very attentive,Belinda complains that he does have a tendency to become too "clingy".Which of the following types of love styles characterizes Stewart?

A) Eros
B) Pragma
C) Storge
D) Agape
E) Mania

Question 77

According to Buddha's teachings,love should be unconditional and selfless.John Alan Lee characterized this sort of love as _____.

A) eros
B) pragma
C) storge
D) agape
E) mania

Question 78

According to Lee's styles of love,which of the following types of lovers love without expecting to receive anything in return?

A) Eros
B) Agape
C) Storge
D) Pragma
E) Mania

Question 79

Harry does not have many close friends,and he has never been in a serious relationship.He is socially avoidant and often called a "loner".Intimate relationships make him feel vulnerable to pain and rejection.Identify the attachment style that Harry most likely has.

A) Disorganized attachment style
B) Preoccupied attachment style
C) Secure attachment style
D) Fearful-avoidant attachment style
E) Dismissively avoidant attachment style

Question 80

Which of the following attachment styles is associated with a wide variety of positive relationship characteristics?

A) Discordant
B) Disorganized
C) Avoidant
D) Anxious
E) Secure