Deck 10: Managing Relationship Challenges

Question 1

All of the following are typical types of accounts EXCEPT

A) denials.
B) apologies.
C) excuses.
D) answers.

Answer 1

D

Question 2

Situations in which a stranger or acquaintance repeatedly invades the other person's privacy,in an annoying and frustrating manner,are referred to as

A) stalking.
B) obsessive relational intrusion.
C) emotional jealousy.
D) relational violence.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

Which of the following statements about long-distance relationships is NOT true?

A) How often partners are able to get together face to face determines the impact of the physical distance.
B) The impact of physical separation is lessened today by technology and social media.
C) Long-distance relationships are more expensive to maintain than face-to-face relationships.
D) Long-distance relationships don't last as long as face-to-face relationships.

Answer 3

D

Question 4

Jealousy is defined as

A) a desire for something that someone else has.
B) a reaction to the threat of losing a valued relationship.
C) an obsessive interest in your partner.
D) anger at your partner's behaviour.

Question 5

15_{) Carla cried when Elmer said he thought Carla was a "spoiled brat." Carla's crying about Elmer's hurtful comments is a(n) _____________ response.}

A) invulnerable
B) active verbal
C) acquiescent
D) vulnerable

Question 6

Which type of jealousy involves analyzing suspicious behaviours or occurrences?

A) relational jealousy
B) emotional jealousy
C) cognitive jealousy
D) obsessive jealousy

Question 7

When Carlos lies to Jacob about how much money he makes at his new job because he's embarrassed about how little he makes,his reason for lying is best described as

A) avoiding loss of resources.
B) protecting Jacob's self-image.
C) avoiding harm.
D) protecting his own self-image.

Question 8

When Maria accuses John of cheating on her,John admits that he did go out with Angela,but that it was no big deal and Maria shouldn't worry about it.John's account is most appropriately labelled as a(n)

A) reproach.
B) justification.
C) excuse.
D) absence of an account.

Question 9

A failure event is defined as

A) a social bias against certain types of relationships.
B) a misunderstanding.
C) a misinterpretation of nonverbal cues.
D) a violation of understandings between partners.

Question 10

Biased perceptions,misinterpreted nonverbal cues,and inappropriate self-disclosures are examples of

A) barriers to effective interpersonal communication.
B) failure events.
C) relationship challenges.
D) relational termination.

Question 11

Maria's accusation that John cheated on her is called a(n)

A) reproach.
B) account.
C) excuse.
D) assent.

Question 12

Which of the following is NOT a true statement about jealousy?

A) Jealousy manifests itself in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
B) Jealousy causes us to question our partner's loyalty.
C) Jealousy is the reaction to the threat of losing a relationship.
D) Jealousy is a discontented feeling that arises from a desire for something belonging to someone else.

Question 13

Deception by __________________ involves intentionally holding back some of the information another person has requested.

A) commission
B) white lies
C) omission
D) exaggeration

Question 14

Laughing as a reaction to a potentially hurtful comment by another person _{is a(n) _____________ response.}

A) invulnerable
B) vulnerable
C) active verbal
D) acquiescent

Question 15

"Stretching the truth" is known as

A) exaggeration.
B) white lies.
C) omission.
D) baldfaced lies.

Question 16

Henry always avoids talking about his past,in large part because he spent some time in prison.When his fiancé,Carla,finds out about it,she is horrified and calls him a liar.Carla is accusing Henry of deception by

A) commission.
B) omission.
C) baldfaced lie.
D) white lie.

Question 17

The two general categories of lies are

A) altruistic and to gain resources.
B) altruistic and self-serving.
C) to protect one's self-image and self-serving.
D) self-serving and to avoid hurting others.

Question 18

A Jewish man who marries a Protestant woman has married outside his

A) out-group.
B) clique.
C) norm.
D) in-group.

Question 19

One's racial or ethnic group is one's

A) in-group.
B) out-group.
C) clique.
D) norm.

Question 20

Deception by ___________________ involves the deliberate presentation of false information.

A) baldfaced lies
B) commission
C) exaggeration
D) omission

Question 21

_____________ is the process by which conflicts continue to accumulate until they reach a critical mass that leads to the breakup.

A) Sudden death
B) Incrementalism
C) Grave dressing
D) Fading away

Question 22

All of the following are Spitzberg and Cupach's recommendations for addressing obsessive relational intrusions and stalking EXCEPT

A) make it more difficult for the person to contact you.
B) confront the person.
C) avoid contact with the person.
D) inform others of your whereabouts.

Question 23

Responding with violence to a specific relational conflict is referred to by Michael Johnson as

A) situational couple violence.
B) intimate terrorism.
C) violent resistance.
D) de-escalation.

Question 24

Which of the following is NOT one of sociologist Michael Johnson's three identified types of partner violence?

A) situational couple violence
B) violent resistance
C) de-escalation
D) intimate terrorism

Question 25

Studies show that almost _________ of college and university students surveyed feel they have been stalked.

A) 10%
B) 20%
C) 30%
D) 40%

Question 26

Women are responsible for the majority of which type of partner violence?

A) situational couple violence
B) intimate terrorism
C) violent resistance
D) de-escalation

Question 27

Which of the following is NOT one of the behaviours that marks obsessive relational intrusion?

A) offering unwanted gifts
B) arranging coincidental meetings
C) threatening physical violence
D) expressing a desire for physical contact

Question 28

Using violence to control or dominate is referred to by Michael Johnson as

A) situational couple violence.
B) intimate terrorism.
C) violent resistance.
D) de-escalation.

Question 29

Each of the following is identified as one of the paths a relationship takes to dissolution EXCEPT

A) sudden death.
B) fading away.
C) unplanned extinction.
D) incrementalism.

Question 30

Men are responsible for the majority of which type of partner violence?

A) situational couple violence
B) intimate terrorism
C) violent resistance
D) de-escalation

Question 31

Relational violence refers to

A) the full range of destructive behaviours aimed at other people.
B) specific types of violent and abusive acts.
C) physical violence against a romantic partner.
D) emotional abuse.

Question 32

When you pick up signals of _____________,you can wait to see what happens,redefine or end the relationship,or try to repair the relationship.

A) de-escalation
B) deception
C) relational problems
D) stalking

Question 33

The difference between obsessive relational intrusion and stalking is

A) stalking involves fear and concern for personal safety.
B) stalking is more common than obsessive relational intrusion.
C) stalking is not motivated by revenge.
D) stalking is unwelcome.

Question 34

Seemingly out of the blue,Karen comes home from work one day and says to her partner Sherry,"I've found someone else.I'm moving out tomorrow." This kind of breakup is best identified as an example of

A) unplanned extinction.
B) fading away.
C) incrementalism.
D) sudden death.

Question 35

Beth and David have been living together for three months.David has started to make threats and aggressive,insulting remarks toward Beth.This is an example of

A) relational intrusion.
B) stalking.
C) relational violence.
D) a de-escalating relationship.

Question 36

Getting an unlisted phone number,changing your locks,and eliminating access information on Facebook are examples of what Spitzberg and Cupach call

A) avoidance.
B) keeping others apprised.
C) hardening the target.
D) obsessive relational intrusion.

Question 37

What did Cupach and Spitzberg describe as a repeated non-threatening invasion of a person's privacy by an acquaintance who desires or assumes a close relationship?

A) obsessive relational intrusion
B) stalking
C) surveillance behaviours
D) obsessive-compulsive stalking

Question 38

Which of the following is NOT one of John Gottman's four categories of behaviour that indicate increasing problems in a marriage?

A) criticism
B) contempt
C) violence
D) stonewalling

Question 39

Meeting attempts at control with a violent response is referred to by Michael Johnson as

A) situational couple violence.
B) intimate terrorism.
C) violent resistance.
D) de-escalation.

Question 40

Repeated,unwelcome intrusions that create concern for personal safety and fear in the target are collectively known as

A) stalking.
B) failure events.
C) reproach.
D) invulnerable responses.

Question 41

Explain the factors that determine the impact of physical separation and distance on interpersonal relationships.

Question 42

In this stage of the ending of a relationship,one or both partners use a public story that they can share with others about what happened.

A) grave-dressing
B) social
C) intrapsychic
D) dyadic

Question 43

Define and give an example of a failure event.

Question 44

The stage of the ending of a relationship in which we confront our partner is called the

A) grave-dressing phase.
B) social phase.
C) intrapsychic phase.
D) dyadic phase.

Question 45

According to the research by Michael Cody concerning students' assessments of what caused their intimate heterosexual relationship to break up,the number-one cited cause was

A) faults.
B) infidelity.
C) unwillingness to compromise.
D) feeling constrained.

Question 46

When Anna initiated the end of her relationship with Tomas,she affirmed his positive qualities and worth,while declaring the end to their relationship.This is an example of Anna using

A) justification.
B) negative identity management.
C) pseudo-de-escalation.
D) a positive tone.

Question 47

Describe the difference between a reproach and an account.

Question 48

Why would someone offer a self-initiated account of a failure event?

Question 49

Trouble has been brewing in the relationship between Shawn and Trevor for quite some time.One problem seems to go away and another one emerges.At some point,the couple decides they can't take it anymore and decide to break up.This kind of breakup is best identified as an example of

A) unilateral dissolution.
B) incrementalism.
C) sudden death.
D) fading away.

Question 50

Max has been dumped by his girlfriend and is trying to work through his post-dissolution grief.One strategy that is helping him is to mentally review his ex's flaws.Max is engaging in which of Weber's strategies?

A) Figure out what happened.
B) Get some perspective.
C) Prepare to feel better.
D) Realize, don't idealize.

Question 51

When Felix and Alex end their friendship,Felix copes by talking to his other friends about what happened.Which of Weber's strategies is he using?

A) Figure out what happened.
B) Get some perspective.
C) Express your emotions.
D) Realize, don't idealize.

Question 52

Name and describe three types of deception by commission.

Question 53

Paulo and Ivan are romantically attracted to each other.Both males,they are racially and culturally quite different from one another.Based on what you've learned about relationships that challenge social norms,what can you tell them they can expect to experience as they go forward with their relationship?

Question 54

What are four specific reasons that people are deceptive?

Question 55

Name,describe,and give an example of the two general categories of lies.

Question 56

Each of the following were identified by researcher Michael Cody as categories of students' assessment of what caused their intimate heterosexual relationships to break up EXCEPT

A) infidelity.
B) faults.
C) unwillingness to compromise.
D) feeling constrained.

Question 57

In her list of strategies to help address the grief and loss of non-marital breakups,Weber's last item is

A) figure out what happened.
B) get some perspective.
C) expect to heal.
D) be ready for further punishment, or maybe reward.

Question 58

In order,Duck's phases of ending a relationship are

A) intrapsychic, dyadic, social, and grave-dressing.
B) intrapsychic, social, dyadic, and grave-dressing.
C) dyadic, social, termination, and grave-dressing.
D) dyadic, termination, social, and grave-dressing.

Question 59

When one researcher asked individuals to identify why their friendships with a friend of the same sex ended,first on the list of reasons was

A) new friends replacing old friends as circumstances changed.
B) physical separation.
C) people often just grow to dislike a characteristic of the friend's behaviour or personality.
D) one friend's dating activity or romantic relationships interfered with the relationship.

Question 60

List and briefly describe the elements of five typical types of accounts.

Question 61

Why do people lie to each other? Use examples to support your explanations.

Question 62

Name and briefly describe the three general categories of reactions to messages that hurt people's feelings.

Question 63

Describe the stages and communication behaviours that occur during the four stages of Duck's model of ending relationships.

Question 64

How can the grave-dressing phase create a negative view of a person whose relationship has ended?

Question 65

Distinguish between bilateral and unilateral dissolution.

Question 66

Name and define the three paths by which relationships end.

Question 67

Your friend Natalie just broke up with Jeff,her boyfriend for the last three years.What general and specific advice can you give her to deal with her post-dissolution recovery?

Question 68

List and define the three types of partner violence.