Deck 3: American Ways of Love

Question 1

Surveys of young adults in India have found that most young people feel it is best if:

A) people choose mates on their own.
B) people marry on the basis of romantic love.
C) their marital partner is selected by their parents or a marriage broker.
D) their marital partner is selected by a religious leader.

Answer 1

C

Question 2

A young couple fell in love and married without their parent's permission. After their parents found out, they were driven from the village. When they tried to explain their situation to their friends, no one would talk to them. The couple probably lived in:

A) ancient Japan.
B) India.
C) ancient Rome.
D) Greece.

Answer 2

A

Question 3

Ancient Japan believed that love was a grave offense unless it was:

A) characterized by sexual fulfillment.
B) based on romanticism and idealism.
C) physical and spiritual.
D) properly sanctioned.

Answer 3

D

Question 4

In courtly love, men proved their manliness by:

A) hunting.
B) jousting.
C) wrestling.
D) drinking.

Question 5

Hindu couples marry on the basis of:

A) unconditional affirmation.
B) romantic love.
C) erotic love.
D) parental approval.

Question 6

Courtly love glorified:

A) intimacy and commitment.
B) respect and appreciation.
C) love from afar.
D) spiritual attachment.

Question 7

The myth that romantic love should lead to marriage implies:

A) that love is necessary, but not sufficient for marriage.
B) that love is an indispensable ingredient for marriage.
C) that love-based marriages are universal.
D) that any way of marriage is acceptable.

Question 8

Rachel and Charlie have been married for 50 years. In the last two years, Rachel developed dementia and needs more care. Charlie takes care of Rachel lovingly making sure she is comfortable, happy, and content. The term the ancient Greeks would use to describe this kind of love is:

A) eros.
B) carnal.
C) agape.
D) fatuous.

Question 9

In India, a potential mate is judged by all of the following criteria EXCEPT:

A) economic status.
B) caste membership.
C) general physical appearance.
D) devotion to intended mate.

Question 10

Men defended women's honor in:

A) agape love.
B) philos love.
C) courtly love.
D) maternal love.

Question 11

The term the Greeks use to describe the physical side of love is:

A) philos.
B) nonlove.
C) eros.
D) fatuous.

Question 12

The feudal aristocracy practiced:

A) romantic love.
B) courtly love.
C) agape love.
D) maternal love.

Question 13

The Greeks used all of the following terms to describe love EXCEPT:

A) agape.
B) philos.
C) fatuous.
D) eros.

Question 14

____ is the Greek term for spiritual love.

A) Philos
B) Agape
C) Nonlove
D) Infatuation

Question 15

The term used to describe the kind of love that a parent has for a child is:

A) philos.
B) mature love.
C) agape.
D) consummate love.

Question 16

In ancient Japan, marriages were:

A) unimportant.
B) arranged.
C) courtly.
D) egalitarian.

Question 17

Charles is secretly in love with the woman who lives next door because he thinks she has a beautiful complexion, sexy eyes, and a perfect body. The term the ancient Greeks would use to describe this kind of love is:

A) fatuous.
B) eros.
C) philos.
D) agape.

Question 18

The typical American marries for:

A) money.
B) sex.
C) love.
D) companionship.

Question 19

Greek types of love that tend to produce negative consequences are:

A) agape and eros.
B) ludus and mania.
C) philos and mania.
D) philos and ludus.

Question 20

The idea that "romantic love should lead to marriage" suggests that if you are reasonable about being in love:

A) you probably aren't really in love.
B) you will end up with no one to love.
C) you will be unable to be intimate with others.
D) you are likely to select a compatible mate.

Question 21

Jason thinks about Sonja constantly. He thinks about her so much that he is unable to eat and sleep properly. The term the ancient Greeks would use to describe this kind of love is:

A) philos.
B) agape.
C) eros.
D) fatuous.

Question 22

Tillich believed that "chaotic desire" occurred when there was:

A) passion with intimacy.
B) philos without eros.
C) the merging of agape and philos.
D) eros without agape.

Question 23

The term Erich Fromm used to describe love that is characterized by friendship and companionship is:

A) carnal love.
B) romantic love.
C) brotherly love.
D) consummate love.

Question 24

Sheila has been dating Todd for six months. She decides that she knows him well enough to tell him about the emotional stress that she is still experiencing from her father's death. Todd comforts her and tells her he had to seek counseling after his sister died of cancer. They are in the ____ stage of the wheel theory.

A) rapport
B) self-revelation
C) mutual dependence
D) intimacy need fulfillment

Question 25

Paul and Arthur grew up in the same neighborhood and have been best friends since the second grade. The two are so close that Paul frequently says, "I would give my right arm for John." Paul's attitude toward John is an example of:

A) eros.
B) carnal love.
C) philos.
D) fatuous love.

Question 26

In the ____ stage of the wheel theory, partners are struck by the feeling that they have known each other before.

A) rapport
B) mutual dependence
C) personal need fulfillment
D) self-revelation

Question 27

Lawrence Casler attributes the development of love to the human need for:

A) intimacy and self-disclosure.
B) commitment and exclusivity.
C) marriage and companionship.
D) acceptance and confirmation.

Question 28

Self-revelation is associated with all of the following factors EXCEPT:

A) infatuation.
B) mutual trust.
C) feelings of love.
D) increased commitment.

Question 29

Societies with high crime rates tend to have low levels of:

A) eros.
B) alienation.
C) philos.
D) infatuation.

Question 30

Reiss suggests that the stages in the "wheel theory" are really:

A) independent of each other.
B) linked through eros and philos.
C) expressions of unrequited love.
D) one process fulfilling our needs.

Question 31

A corporate executive quit her job in a fortune 500 corporation to start a soup kitchen to feed the homeless. Her love for the homeless is an example of:

A) eros.
B) carnal love.
C) philos.
D) consummate love.

Question 32

A key difference between agape and philos as forms of love is:

A) agape is exclusive and philos is nonexclusive.
B) agape is only about your spouse and philos is only about your children.
C) agape indicates a high degree of caring, while philos does not.
D) agape is not part of American love, but philos is.

Question 33

The sequence that indicates the proper order of the stages in the wheel theory of love is:

A) mutual dependence, rapport, self-revelation, personal need fulfillment.
B) personal need fulfillment, rapport, mutual dependence, self-revelation.
C) rapport, self-revelation, mutual dependence, personal need fulfillment.
D) self-revelation, rapport, personal need fulfillment, mutual dependence.

Question 34

Ronald has a difficult time meeting and talking with members of the opposite sex. But when he met Latoya at a fraternity party, he talked for hours after discovering that she graduated from his old high school and was a member of the same church that he attended. They are in the ____ stage of the wheel theory.

A) acceptance
B) personal need fulfillment
C) rapport
D) mutual dependence

Question 35

Fromm uses the term pair-bonded to describe people who share:

A) their most secret thoughts and feelings.
B) physical and emotional space with one another.
C) all of the elements of mature love.
D) a common set of background factors.

Question 36

According to Fromm, mature love includes attachment plus:

A) mutual dependence.
B) acceptance.
C) sexual response.
D) self-revelation.

Question 37

Theologian Paul Tillich believes that the highest form of love is the merging of:

A) brotherly love and mature love.
B) eros and agape.
C) romantic love and consummate love.
D) philos and eros.

Question 38

Casler argues that American dating patterns have as much, if not more, to do with the development of love as actual attraction. For example, ____________leads us to pretend we like a date more than we really do, leading to reciprocal interaction and validation.

A) physical attraction
B) indifferent exposure
C) simple politeness
D) feelings of rapport

Question 39

Alex is not looking forward to summer vacation because he knows that it will be extremely difficult to adjust to the empty feeling that he gets when he realizes that he will not see Mary until the fall semester. Mary tries to reassure him by telling him she will be going through the same emotional turmoil. They are in the _______ stage of the wheel theory.

A) rapport
B) self-revelation
C) mutual dependence
D) intimacy need fulfillment

Question 40

A pair-bonded relationship is:

A) conditional.
B) nonlove.
C) triangular.
D) reciprocal.

Question 41

Couples can use romantic dinners and trips to the theater to:

A) develop mutual dependence.
B) maintain and develop a positive liking relationship.
C) solve the paradox of two beings becoming one.
D) feminize the concept of love and intimacy.

Question 42

According to Sternberg, ________ is passion without intimacy or commitment.

A) infatuation
B) consummate love
C) nonlove
D) empty love

Question 43

According to Sternberg, passion and commitment without intimacy is called:

A) empty love.
B) fatuous love.
C) liking.
D) nonlove.

Question 44

The phrase "falling in love with love" means that we have a tendency to fall in love with:

A) our own romantic ideas.
B) people who validate our experiences.
C) individuals who are giving and nondemanding.
D) a person who shares our intimate feelings.

Question 45

According to Sternberg, intimacy without passion or commitment is called:

A) liking.
B) companionate love.
C) nonlove.
D) empty love.

Question 46

Sternberg believes that the highest form of love is:

A) consummate love.
B) romantic love.
C) companionate love.
D) fatuous love.

Question 47

The stage of the wheel theory that is characterized by feelings of loss when the partner is not present is:

A) rapport.
B) self-revelation.
C) mutual dependence.
D) personal need fulfillment.

Question 48

According to the principle of least interest, the person with the most power in a relationship is the person who is:

A) indifferent.
B) hurt the most.
C) alienated.
D) the oldest.

Question 49

Fisher's study of love explored the reaction of the brain to love and found:

A) only small differences, concluding that some characteristics about love are universal.
B) dramatic differences between heterosexual and homosexual love.
C) that large differences are attributed to brain chemistry.
D) few commonalities across demographic groups.

Question 50

According to Sternberg, fatuous love is:

A) healthy.
B) maternal.
C) foolish.
D) agapic.

Question 51

Ideas like "love at first sight" and "the one and only love" are associated with:

A) consummate love.
B) maternal love.
C) romantic love.
D) companionate love.

Question 52

Love's "double cross" occurs when:

A) we fall in love and commit ourselves to a mate who commits adultery.
B) the characteristics that attracted us to our mate cause problems later in the relationship.
C) people think they are in love but find out that they are only infatuated.
D) two people are deeply in love but realize that they can only be friends.

Question 53

In the fourth stage of the wheel theory of love, partners tend to experience:

A) more and more personal need fulfillment.
B) a sense of social and cultural compatibility.
C) an intense desire to equalize power differences.
D) the irrational aspects of romantic love.

Question 54

Cox and Demmitt believe that holding on to ideals of romantic love can do all of the following EXCEPT:

A) lead spouses to try to change each other into their ideal image.
B) help spouses sustain their relationship during difficult times.
C) drive people to constantly seek passion to validate their marriages
D) lead spouses to turn away from their partner in a search for the ideal mate.

Question 55

The term Sternberg uses to describe relationships with intimacy and passion, but no commitment is:

A) empty love.
B) companionate love.
C) romantic love.
D) fatuous love.

Question 56

Paul was attracted to his wife because she was fun-loving and liked parties. Now that they are married, he constantly complains that they never spend quiet evenings at home alone. This is an example of:

A) a caring cluster.
B) the triangular theory of love.
C) fatuous love.
D) love's double cross.

Question 57

Myra seeks a mate who is handsome, strong, brave, and able to protect her. Her behavior is consistent with the description of:

A) maternal love.
B) romantic love.
C) companionate love.
D) consummate love.

Question 58

A strong physical attraction is indicative of love when it is accompanied by:

A) spontaneity.
B) sexual attraction.
C) emotional attachment.
D) infatuation.

Question 59

Robert Sternberg's theory of love contains all of the following elements EXCEPT:

A) passion.
B) self-revelation.
C) intimacy.
D) commitment.

Question 60

Romantic love constantly seeks ________, making it difficult to maintain in long-term relationships.

A) maturity
B) philos
C) communication
D) passion

Question 61

The self-love stage occurs during:

A) infancy and early childhood.
B) the teen years.
C) adulthood.
D) old age.

Question 62

The process that allows society to teach cultural values to new members is called:

A) constructive criticism.
B) socialization.
C) psychosocial development.
D) mapping.

Question 63

The cognitive component of a person's attitude is the:

A) abrasive demeanor, which is attached to an attitude.
B) emotional response that results from an attitude.
C) factual knowledge, which supports an attitude.
D) overt behavior that results from an attitude.

Question 64

Which statement best illustrates the behavioral attitudinal component?

A) "I like Susan."
B) "I date Susan."
C) "Susan is tall."
D) "Susan is Italian."

Question 65

Physical fondling is important in the __________ stage of psychosexual development.

A) self-love
B) same-sex
C) parental identification
D) heterosexual adult

Question 66

The term used to describe a situation where a negative behavior provokes a series of subsequent negative behaviors is:

A) a vicious circle.
B) the double cross.
C) immature love.
D) negative reinforcement.

Question 67

Which statement best illustrates the cognitive attitudinal component?

A) "I like baseball."
B) "I take my daughter to baseball games."
C) "Baseball is the most popular sport in America."
D) "I play baseball during the summer."

Question 68

A strong appreciation for loved ones is a characteristic of:

A) romantic love.
B) carnal love.
C) possessive love.
D) mature love.

Question 69

Cox and Demmitt believe that the inability to give or accept compliments stifles:

A) authentic love.
B) constructive criticism.
C) appreciation.
D) creativity.

Question 70

When accused of not loving their partner, American men often resort to:

A) listings all of the things that they do for the family.
B) talking about the quality of the relationship.
C) telling their spouse that they love her.
D) intimate sharing and self-disclosure.

Question 71

Bill always wanted to go into business for himself, but was afraid to venture out on his own until he met and married Katrina. He credits her with giving him the confidence that he needed to open his VCR repair shop. This story illustrates the principle of:

A) mutual dependence.
B) pair-bonding.
C) personal growth.
D) unconscious mapping.

Question 72

Which of the following examples best represents the intimacy dilemma?

A) Susan is fearful of a physical relationship with Fred because she does not want an STI.
B) Jon opens up to Beth about a painful past relationship. He wants to get closer to Beth, but knows sharing puts him at risk of being hurt.
C) Charlie has the power and control in his relationship with Rachel because he is indifferent.
D) Brian needs constant reassurance from Kate that he is worthy of this relationship.

Question 73

A child who is deprived of physical contact may eventually have a difficult time:

A) distinguishing between needs and wants.
B) establishing loving relationships.
C) identifying the proper gender roles.
D) recognizing right and wrong.

Question 74

Which statement best illustrates the affective attitudinal component?

A) "I love ice cream and cake."
B) "I eat ice cream and cake regularly."
C) "Ice cream and cake contains a lot of calories."
D) "Ice cream and cake are desserts."

Question 75

The woman's concept of love encompasses all of the following elements EXCEPT:

A) expressiveness.
B) discussing the relationship.
C) providing for the family.
D) intimate sharing.

Question 76

Stages are _________ but _____________ classifications set up by theorists to help understand development.

A) necessary; confusing
B) subtle; real
C) open; random
D) arbitrary; useful

Question 77

The first step in appreciating others is to appreciate:

A) your parents.
B) social institutions.
C) yourself.
D) your siblings.

Question 78

In America, the concept of love has been feminized in that it is expected to be expressed through:

A) emotional expressiveness and intimate sharing.
B) practical acts of kindness and support.
C) sexual intimacy.
D) being a good provider.

Question 79

The affective component of a person's attitude is the:

A) abrasive demeanor, which is attached to an attitude.
B) emotional response that results from an attitude.
C) factual knowledge, which supports an attitude.
D) overt behavior that results from an attitude.

Question 80

Brenda knows that Adam loves her more than she loves him, so she can make unreasonable demands and still get her way. This is an example of:

A) the feminization of love.
B) the principle of least interest.
C) love's double cross.
D) dirt and diamonds.