Deck 9: Friendship, intimacy, and Singlehood

Question 1

According to Sternberg,_____ is the cognitive dimension of love.

Answer 1

commitment

Question 2

In regards to Olson's Tapestry of Love,which of the following statements about traits of love is correct?

A) Because of the changing nature of language,by the 2000s we have sufficient words in the English language to describe love.
B) The phrase "love is blind" is erroneous.
C) Love-based marriages are more fragile than arranged marriages.
D) Once it is firmly established during early marriage,love tends to remain unchanged.

Answer 2

C

Question 3

The Fabric of Friendship developed by Davis includes which of the following fabrics of friendship?

A) Trust
B) Spontaneity
C) Respect
D) All of the Above

Answer 3

D

Question 4

In Sternberg's Love Triangle,____ is the cognitive attachment to another person that develops over time.

A) commitment
B) intimacy
C) passion
D) love

Question 5

According to Sternberg,_____ is the motivational dimension of love.

Question 6

According to Sternberg's Love Triangle,_____ occurs when an individual is committed based on passion,but not yet having developed genuine intimacy.

A) Companionate love.
B) Romantic love.
C) Fatuous love.
D) Infatuation.

Question 7

_____ find greater intimacy through doing activities together.

Question 8

A comprehensive marital inventory that contains 10 categories about important issues in a married couple's relationship is known as _____.

Question 9

Singlehood can be a healthy,happy lifestyle,but for many singles _____ can be a challenge.

Question 10

Which of the following kinds of love lacks intimacy,according to Sternberg?

A) Fatuous love.
B) Consummate love.
C) Companionate love.
D) Romantic love.

Question 11

In the Tapestry of Love,Amy and David Olson identified _____ traits of love that are common in our culture.

A) 4
B) 8
C) 10
D) 15

Question 12

Intimacy,commitment,and passion are components of which of the following theories?

A) Davis and Todd's Passion Cluster.
B) Davis and Todd's Caring Cluster.
C) Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.
D) Davis and Todd's Fabric of Friendship.

Question 13

_____ is defined as an emotional response to a real or perceived threat to a valued relationship.

Question 14

According to Sternberg,_____ is the emotional dimension of love.

Question 15

It appears that the strongest love relationships have roots in

A) exogamy.
B) courtship.
C) friendship.
D) heterogeneity.

Question 16

Which component of Sternberg's love triangle is characterized by a mature relationship in which most areas are open for discussion and sharing?

A) Commitment.
B) Intimacy.
C) Passion.
D) Exclusivity.

Question 17

The Fabric of Friendship developed by Davis includes which three characteristics?

A) respect,enjoyment,spontaneity
B) fascination,exclusiveness,sexual desire
C) enjoyment,exclusiveness,sexual desire
D) fascination,spontaneity,sexual desire

Question 18

In regards to Olson's Tapestry of Love,which of the following is not a trait of love?

A) Real love is immediate.
B) Love is often blind.
C) Giving love is receiving love.
D) Love changes over time.

Question 19

Robert Sternberg believes that when friends fall in love,they are simply adding _____ to the friendship.

Question 20

Which component of Sternberg's love triangle has to do with motivation?

A) Commitment.
B) Intimacy.
C) Passion.
D) Exclusivity.

Question 21

In Sternberg's Love Triangle,_____ is the motivational component.

A) commitment
B) intimacy
C) passion
D) love

Question 22

Generally speaking,what is the relationship between communication and intimacy?

A) High self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy to occur.
B) To have intimacy with a relationship partner,you should share all of your feelings with that person.
C) High self-disclosure can actually damage a close relationship.
D) High self-disclosure is necessary for intimacy to occur and to have intimacy with a relationship partner,you should share all of your feelings with that person.

Question 23

All of the following are important areas for developing and maintaining an intimate relationship EXCEPT

A) appropriate communication skills.
B) good conflict resolution.
C) different personalities,because "opposites attract."
D) couple flexibility.

Question 24

Speaking about married people in the U.S.in general (not any particular married couple): The relationship between marriage and intimacy is

A) congruous.
B) a paradox.
C) a triangle.
D) patrilineal.

Question 25

Intimate experiences include

A) emotional intimacy
B) social intimacy
C) sexual intimacy
D) all of these

Question 26

Marriage provides intimacy on a permanent basis

A) when the partners enter the marriage to escape loneliness.
B) when both partners work to make it happen.
C) when both partners have a high level of self-disclosure to one another.
D) when both partners are happy.

Question 27

In a study using ENRICH,which of the following distinguishes happy and unhappy couples?

A) Communication
B) Closeness
C) Flexibility
D) All of the Above

Question 28

An emotional response to real or perceived threat to a valued relationship is termed:

A) double jeopardy.
B) the principle of least interest.
C) jealousy.
D) the Triangle of Love.

Question 29

Maria and Landon have been dating long distance for two years.They are in love and plan on getting married.They are mutually exclusive and passionate.According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love?

A) Companionate love.
B) Romantic love.
C) Fatuous love.
D) Liking.

Question 30

Open communication in _____ doses and with good intentions,can enhance a relationship and lead to greater intimacy.

A) appropriate
B) small
C) large
D) highly-disclosive

Question 31

Sara and Guillermo have been dating for a while,they are passionate,mutually exclusive and intimate with each other.According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love?

A) Companionate love.
B) Romantic love.
C) Fatuous love.
D) Consummate love.

Question 32

In Sternberg's Love Triangle,_____ involves providing emotional support and sharing feelings.

A) commitment
B) intimacy
C) passion
D) love

Question 33

Which of the following is NOT a way to destroy destructive intimacy games in families?

A) reveal game strategies
B) make goals and objectives realistic
C) name the game
D) make the implicit rules explicit

Question 34

In an intimate _____,we have the expectation that intimacy will continue over time.

A) relationship
B) experience
C) disclosure
D) all of these.

Question 35

The area showing the lowest significant agreement among the following areas in happily and unhappily married couples was

A) conflict resolution.
B) personality issues.
C) sexual relations.
D) financial management.

Question 36

Which of the following statements about jealousy is FALSE?

A) Jealousy can create a vicious cycle of greater and greater jealousy.
B) Jealousy is seen by therapists as a self-defeating emotion.
C) Jealousy is caused by the other person in the relationship.
D) Jealousy can be triggered by both internal and external causes.

Question 37

The ENRICH Inventory is used by couples who want to:

A) improve their relationship.
B) get divorced.
C) take stock of their possessions.
D) learn more about their friends and family.

Question 38

Seen as a self-defeating emotion,jealousy typically leads to feelings of:

A) envy.
B) suspicion.
C) possessiveness.
D) all of these

Question 39

Males gain greater _____ through doing things together.

A) bonding
B) friendship
C) intimacy
D) self-disclosure

Question 40

Wren and Tariq like each other but have not had sexual relations and both are dating other people on and off.According to Sternberg's Love Triangle they have what kind of love?

A) Companionate love.
B) Romantic love.
C) Fatuous love.
D) Liking.

Question 41

Talia and her family are in family therapy and the therapist has asked that to reduce conflict she should be direct in her requests and expression of needs from others.Her therapist is asking her to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games?

A) Naming the game.
B) Making implicit rules explicit.
C) Unveiling game strategies.
D) Identifying disguised objectives.

Question 42

In the "I Don't Care,You Decide" game,

A) the initiator usually knows that the other person will make the "wrong" decision.
B) the initiator truly does not care what the decision is.
C) the initiator wants to avoid responsibility for what may be a poor decision.
D) the initiator begins by asking a direct question.

Question 43

In Colonial America,all of the following were true of unmarried individuals EXCEPT

A) they were seen as out of the mainstream of social custom.
B) they were not considered to be fully independent until age thirty.
C) they usually lived in some kind of family environment.
D) they remained dependent on others until marriage.

Question 44

Jealousy can be triggered by both external and internal causes.

Question 45

In 2005,what percentage of American women were living without a spouse?

A) 51%
B) 49%
C) 35%
D) 96%

Question 46

Which constructive intimacy game involves focusing on the positives rather than the negatives and on giving rather than receiving?

A) giving compliments
B) asking for what you want directly
C) encouraging your partner to be honest
D) self-disclosing

Question 47

Hugo is in family therapy and his therapist has asked that he stop sullenly withdrawing from arguments.His therapist is asking him to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games?

A) Naming the game.
B) Making implicit rules explicit.
C) Unveiling game strategies.
D) Identifying disguised objectives.

Question 48

_____ focuses on how children develop attachment to their caregivers usually their parents in infancy?

A) The caring cluster
B) Attachment Theory
C) ENRICH
D) Singlehood

Question 49

Generally speaking,which of the following groups are included under the term "single"?

A) widowed people
B) divorced people
C) never-married people
D) all of these

Question 50

In The Love Triangle,commitment is the cognitive attachment to another person that develops over time.

Question 51

The emotional response to one's partner in a valued relationship having an affair is called the love triangle.

Question 52

In the United States,it was during the __________ century that the position of unmarried people began to change from living with their families or with another family as a servant,to a wage-earner.

A) 18^th (i.e.,the 1700s)
B) 19^th (i.e.,the 1800s)
C) 20^th (i.e.,the 1900s)
D) 21^st (i.e.,2000 until the present)

Question 53

Zero-sum games

A) are helpful in relationships because neither partner wins nor loses.
B) are dangerous in relationships because the same person always wins.
C) are helpful in relationships because both partners must cooperate in order to keep the sum at zero.
D) are dangerous in relationships because there is always a winner and a loser.

Question 54

One piece of advice for singles is to

A) work more hours.
B) quit whining.
C) get married.
D) develop a network of people with whom to share social activities.

Question 55

Intimacy gradually decreases as closeness grows between couples.

Question 56

Attachment Theory:

A) provides a context for romantic relationships and marriage.
B) may provide explanations for happy and unhappy relationships.
C) is a relatively new theory of study.
D) All of the Above.

Question 57

In 18^th- and 19^th-century America,not marrying was usually due to

A) social circumstances.
B) economic realities.
C) personal choice.
D) social circumstances and economic realities.

Question 58

Marital therapists often ask their clients to _____ the number of daily compliments they give their partners in a week.

A) double
B) triple
C) reduce by half
D) maintain

Question 59

Ursula is in family therapy and her therapist has asked that she stop playing the "if you really love me,you'll know what I want" game in her romantic relationship.Her therapist is asking her to use which of the four central techniques in limiting destructive games?

A) Naming the game.
B) Making implicit rules explicit.
C) Unveiling game strategies.
D) Identifying disguised objectives.

Question 60

Marriages based on love are more fragile than arranged marriages.

Question 61

High self-disclosure can damage an intimate relationship.

Question 62

A zero-sum game is one example of a constructive intimacy game.

Question 63

Implicit rules add confusion to the destructive intimacy game.

Question 64

Individuals who consciously do positive things for their partners often find their partners responding in about the same way.

Question 65

In Colonial America,unmarried individuals were rarely considered fully independent members of society.

Question 66

Rules in constructive intimacy games do not need to be explicit,as they do in destructive intimacy games.

Question 67

The most common intimacy game rule is "Don't be direct about what you want."

Question 68

Attachment Theory is a time-honored and tested field of study.

Question 69

One piece of advice for single people to avoid loneliness is to appraise your strengths.

Question 70

Self-disclosure and the "brutal truth" are not necessarily a good thing at the beginning of a relationship.

Question 71

Unhappy couples often have better conflict resolution than happy couples.

Question 72

Research has found that couples in love have the same levels of serotonin in their blood as people with obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Question 73

Attachment Theory has to do with the way we attach to our parents in infancy.

Question 74

Although intimacy may include feelings of closeness and warmth,its primary component is sexual.

Question 75

Marriage and intimacy are connected paradoxically.

Question 76

Oxytocin is a hormone that promotes the ability to connect and bond with others.