Deck 11: Committed Romantic Relationships

Question 1

In reference to her love life, Mary says, "I like to shop around. It's a challenge to try to get someone interested in me, but I'm not looking for anything permanent." Mary seems to have which style of loving?

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Answer 1

C

Question 2

In terms of love styles, all of the following statements are true EXCEPT:

A) most people have a combination of styles.
B) one's love style is permanent throughout life.
C) love style is part of an overall system.
D) individual styles are not necessarily good or bad.
E) love style is affected by all other aspects of a relationship.

Answer 2

B

Question 3

Qualities that set committed romantic relationships apart from other close relationships include:

A) trust.
B) self-disclosure.
C) assumed permanence.
D) social support.
E) replaceablity.

Answer 3

C

Question 4

The three secondary styles of love are.

A) infatuation, lust, and expressive
B) like, lust, and vibrance
C) pragma, mania, and agape
D) eros, storge, and ludos
E) eros, agape, and amor

Question 5

This love tends to develop gradually and to be peaceful and stable.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 6

Men are more likely than women to be this kind of lover,

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 7

Relational culture is best defined as:

A) the influence of a couple's culture on their interpersonal relationship.
B) the degree to which a relationship is tied into the larger culture within which it exists.
C) private understandings, rules, and meanings that partners create..
D) the degree to which a couple enjoys cultural activities such as attending concerts and going to art museums.
E) the culture that develops when the participants are from different cultural backgrounds.

Question 8

The resurrection process of relationship deterioration involves all of the following except.

A) the two people move on with their lives
B) the two people conceive of themselves as single again
C) attempting to restore the deteriorating relationship
D) the previous partner is no longer an intimate
E) reorganizing their lives without the partner

Question 9

During the ____ phase of romantic relationship deterioration, individuals try to make sense of what the relationship meant, why it didn't work out, what it meant, and how it affected them.

A) social support
B) intrapsychic
C) grave dressing
D) dyadic
E) dyadic breakdown

Question 10

This is the most intuitive and spontaneous of all love styles, and it is also the fastest moving.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 11

Describing his romantic relationship, Bob says, "I just fell hook, line, and sinker the moment I saw Doreen. It was a classic case of love at first sight, and I still light up whenever I see her." Bob seems to have which style of loving?

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 12

According to research reports discussed in the textbook, the greatest influences on interpersonal attraction include:

A) proximity.
B) love style.
C) trust.
D) passion.
E) nonverbal cues.

Question 13

This is a comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 14

Of her marriage Myra says, "It wasn't like we ever really fell in love. It was more like we grew together kind of gradually. I think of my husband as my best friend." Myra seems to have which style of loving?

A) eros
B) ludus
C) agape
D) storge
E) pragma

Question 15

Which of the following comments would likely be made during the invitational stage of romantic relationships?

A) "Are you also a communication studies major?"
B) "My parents divorced when I was 5 years old, so it's difficult for me to bond with others."
C) "I'm really afraid of getting involved with anyone."
D) "How would you describe your views on organized religion?"
E) "Let's spend this weekend hiking in the redwoods."

Question 16

Which one of the following statements is true about violence and abuse in romantic relationships?

A) Only women can be targets of violence and abuse.
B) Sexual abuse incidents in the United States have declined significantly in the past 20 years.
C) Violence is rare in heterosexual cohabiting couples.
D) All abuse in romantic relationships is physical.
E) Many people do not report violent or abusive incidents.

Question 17

The three primary styles of love are.

A) infatuation, lust, and expressive
B) like, lust, and vibrance
C) pragma, mania, and agape
D) eros, storge, and ludos
E) eros, agape, and amor

Question 18

Three dimensions of committed romantic relationships are

A) intimacy, commitment, and passion
B) intimacy, passion, and love
C) intimacy, warmth, and trust
D) commitment, love, and passion
E) passion, commitment, and trust

Question 19

These lovers are likely to self-disclose early in a relationship, be very sentimental, and fall in love fast.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 20

In the ____ phase of romantic relationship deterioration, relational partners may begin to consider alternatives to the relationship.

A) social support
B) intrapsychic
C) grave dressing
D) dyadic
E) dyadic breakdown

Question 21

Passion is the primary foundation for enduring romance.

Question 22

Although passionate feelings also matter, they are less central to perceptions of love than all of the following except:

A) caring
B) honesty
C) respect
D) imagination
E) trust

Question 23

An individual's style of loving can be influenced by the love style of her or his partner.

Question 24

The pragmatic style of loving (pragma) is too cold and practical to involve real love or intimacy.

Question 25

Many lesbians place priority on physical characteristics.

Question 26

The cycle of abuse contains all of the following except:

A) tension
B) explosion
C) remorse
D) perspective
E) honeymoon

Question 27

This kind of love sees love as a game.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 28

Half of all new STDs occur in people 15 to 24 years old.

Question 29

This describes the intensely positive feelings and fervent desire for the other person. It is not restricted to sexual and sensual feelings.

A) eros
B) romance
C) commitment
D) passion
E) intimacy

Question 30

This kind of love is practical love.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 31

They commitment is not the goal. Instead, they like to play the field and enjoy falling in love.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 32

How we see ourselves greatly influences our choices in potential romantic partners.

Question 33

The feelings of closeness, connection, tenderness are associated with this dimension. ____ is abiding affection and warm feelings for another person.

A) respect
B) commitment
C) lust
D) intimacy
E) passion

Question 34

The hypothesis that the United States is classless has been disproved by the fact that most people seek romantic partners of their own social class or above it.

Question 35

Two million new cases of STDs are diagnosed each year.

Question 36

Men are more likely than women to feel a relationship is breaking down if they and their partners don't really communicate well.

Question 37

This kind of love grows out of common interests, values, and life goals.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 38

These kind of relationships don't have the great highs of erotic ones, but neither do they have the fiery conflict and anger that can punctuate erotic relationships.

A) eros
B) storge
C) ludus
D) pragma
E) agape

Question 39

To build a lasting relationship with someone, we need something more durable than passion, we need ____.

A) sensuality
B) communication
C) complexity
D) commitment
E) intimacy

Question 40

Researchers have shown that many people who engage in violence against romantic partners lack the communicative skills to constructively manage emotions and conflicts.

Question 41

Commitment involves accepting responsibility for maintaining a relationship

Question 42

Women are more egalitarian than men in regards to who was responsible for paying for the first date.

Question 43

Romantic relationships do not follow a developmental course.

Question 44

Identify the following:
Agape

Question 45

Men and women also tend to have dissimilar ideas about how men and women should act.

Question 46

Women are more likely than men to perceive companionship as a goal for a first date.

Question 47

The meanings we assign to behavior in romantic relationships are entirely individualistic.

Question 48

Identify the following:
Placemaking

Question 49

Commitment is the determination to stay together despite trouble, disappointments, sporadic restlessness, and lulls in passion.

Question 50

Women are more jealous of a partner's emotional investment in another relationship whereas men are more jealous of a partner's sexual infidelity.

Question 51

The majority of college students think that men should initiate and plan dates and control sexual activity.

Question 52

Identify the following:
Environmental spoiling

Question 53

Identify the following:
Intimacy

Question 54

Passion happens without effort-sometimes despite our efforts. Commitment is an act of will.

Question 55

Pragma love types are more likely to use online matching services to specify their criteria for a desirable mate.

Question 56

Storge love tends to grow quickly.

Question 57

Identify the following:
Relational culture

Question 58

Identify the challenges (or difficulties) of long-distance romantic relationships, and explain communication strategies for coping with these challenges. Your response should focus on how couples involved in long-distance relationships can establish and sustain satisfying communication.

Question 59

Male abusers are far more likely than female abusers to inflict physical injuries, sometimes severe ones.

Question 60

Intimacy is abiding affection and warm feelings for another person.

Question 61

The book discusses six styles of love. Describe each of the love styles and give a media example of each of these love styles.

Question 62

Identify the following:
Cycle of abuse

Question 63

Identify the following:
Ludus

Question 64

A friend who learns you are studying interpersonal communication asks for your opinion on what really holds a relationship together. Your friend says, "Some people I know tell me it's taking care of the big things like getting a home and celebrating anniversaries and stuff. But other people say the big things don't matter as much as the day-to-day stuff. Who is right?" Write out your response to your friend's question. In your response, be sure to not only state your opinion, but also to cite research findings (no need to footnote specific sources) that support your opinion.

Question 65

Identify the following:
Individuality

Question 66

Critics of on-line communities argue that there is greater potential for deceit in online relationships in comparison to face-to-face ones. In online relationships, they argue, people may misrepresent their appearance, sex, sexual orientation, etc. What are the advantages of disadvantages of having the ability to be represent yourself differently in an online community than you are able to in a face-to-face community? If you think there are ethical concerns here, discuss these. If you feel ethics are irrelevant to this issue, explain why.

Question 67

Identify the following:
Intrapsychic phase

Question 68

Relationship researchers have identified six stages of development for progressive intimacy in romantic relationships. Identify all six stages and describe the characteristics of each. Feel free to use a real or hypothetical example to illustrate the general developmental path.

Question 69

Statistics on violence between intimates are based on reported incidents. Given what you have learned about feminine and masculine socialization, why might male and female victims not report violent incidents (hint: be sure to discuss potentially different reasons for each).

Question 70

Identify the following:
Explorational communication

Question 71

Identify the following:
Storge

Question 72

Identify the following:
Pragma

Question 73

Relationship researchers have identified patterns in terms of how relationships tend to deteriorate. Put the following phases in sequential order and explain characteristics of each phase. Feel free to use a real or hypothetical example to illustrate these phases: intrapsychic phase, dyadic breakdown phase, grave dressing, social phase, dyadic phase, social support.

Question 74

Identify the following:
Eros