James has figured out that his husband, Arturo, is having an affair. James feels so angry and rejected he has had thoughts of being unfaithful himself. James's friends think Arturo is terrible, and they have been encouraging James to leave Arturo. Instead of telling Arturo what he has considered doing, and what his friends think of Arturo, James simply tells Arturo that he is very hurt, and he would like Arturo to break off this other relationship. By not telling Arturo things that likely would only hurt him and complicate the matter, James is using which of Gottman's techniques?

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James is using the technique of "editing," which involves holding back information or feelings that could be unnecessarily hurtful or harmful in a conversation, focusing instead on the core issue that needs to be addressed.

James Has Figured Out That His Husband, Arturo, Is Having