In the middle of an argument, Jack says to Kristina, "You are always so irresponsible. Last Christmas you did the same thing, and the Christmas cards never got delivered to my employees. Last week you said you'd pick up my dry cleaning but decided to stop at your mother's on the way. By the time you got done gossiping with her, the dry cleaners were closed!" What is wrong with Jack's approach?

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Jack is bringing up past situations and mistakes Kristina has made, which can make the argument become about old issues rather than the current disagreement. This can cause Kristina to become defensive and less willing to work towards a resolution. It's important to focus on the current issue and avoid bringing up past mistakes or situations.

In the Middle of an Argument, Jack Says to Kristina