Your partner says he is hurt that you forgot your anniversary,and you reply,"Well,you forgot it last year!" Which one of the "four horseman of the relationship apocalypse" are you displaying?"
A)criticism
B)contempt
C)defensiveness
D)stonewalling

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The response given is an example of defensiveness, which is one of the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse identified by John Gottman. Instead of acknowledging and taking responsibility for forgetting the anniversary, the person responds by deflecting blame onto their partner. This kind of defensiveness can escalate conflicts and make the other person feel unheard or unacknowledged.

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