Deck 4: Human Relationships

Question 1

Repair attempts are best used

A) anytime a discussion escalates into negative tension.
B) after a discussion when one is hurt.
C) when one partner is wrong and the other right.
D) after flooding occurs.

Answer 1

anytime a discussion escalates into negative tension.

Question 2

Describe two typical money conflict situations as discussed in the article.

Answer 2

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Question 3

The main message of Keating's article is

A) the meaning of an event lies in how one perceives it.
B) every cloud has a silver lining.
C) it always gets darker before the dawn.
D) flowers need moisture as well as light.

Answer 3

the meaning of an event lies in how one perceives it.

Question 4

Discuss three ways to avoid money conflicts in a relationship.

Question 5

The main idea of "Shoulders" was to be aware of muscle tension in the shoulder area as it tightens up other body areas.

Question 6

One advantage of a "superrelationship" according to Craig Cox is that it is less fragile than other ones.

Question 7

The problem of recognizing shoulders, according to the author, is that one diminishes his/her uniqueness.

Question 8

Describe what the authors mean by harsh startup, flooding, repair attempts.

Question 9

Explain the key factors that Gottman and Silver mention as being essential to a happy marriage.

Question 10

The author contends that most of us "forget our shoulders" when explaining a current ability.

Question 11

The Keating article is about

A) the beginning and ending of marriages.
B) how all careers have their low spots.
C) how seemingly negative parental actions are often good.
D) why it is OK to be depressed.

Question 12

Beginning a discussion with criticism is called

A) conflict initiation.
B) negative authenticity.
C) harsh startup.
D) the fourth horseman.

Question 13

Which of the following is not one of the Four Horsemen?

A) criticism
B) contempt
C) stonewalling
D) non-verbal negativity

Question 14

Overwhelming critical remarks are called

A) verbal abuse.
B) communication negativity.
C) flooding.
D) bulldozing.

Question 15

The key factor in a happy marriage according to Gottman and Silver is

A) deep friendship.
B) romance.
C) little or no conflict.
D) life long commitment.

Question 16

Describe what happened on a rainy day in Keating's article.

Question 17

Money conflicts often mask other kinds of relationship problems.

Question 18

Explain the main idea in "Shoulders" and give an example from your own life history.

Question 19

Describe each of the Four Horsemen.

Question 20

The article advises couples to tell each other how they spend each dollar.

Question 21

There is little statistical difference between single men and single women on
having a best friend.

Question 22

Discuss two issues in opposite-sex friendships.

Question 23

Who was Whip Gimby?

A) a right fielder with a strong arm
B) a right fielder with a weak arm
C) leader of a state senate

Question 24

The author confronted a store owner over an inappropriate statement.

Question 25

Modern women find opposite-sex friends are about as nurturing as their same-sex friends.

Question 26

According to Viorst, a friend with whom we exchange small favors and have a limited relationship is called a

A) convenience friend.
B) favors friend.
C) crossroads friend.
D) special interest friend.

Question 27

Explain two differences between men and women in same-sex and/or opposite-sex friendships.

Question 28

Discuss advantages and disadvantages of
(a) having sex on the third date and
(b)cyberaffairs.

Question 29

Sexual tension remains in opposite-sex friendships even after the initial contact stage.

Question 30

A main theme of this article is that they less talented often have compensatory gifts.

Question 31

What was Mark Murrmann's main learning concerning old high school friends?

A) They retained a special closeness.
B) Their common past made up for infrequent meetings.
C) They often turned into adversaries.
D) There is little in common anymore.

Question 32

List and describe at least three kinds of friends according to Judith Viorst.

Question 33

Discuss at least two issues of a "superrelationship" and/or intimacy.

Question 34

According to Murrmann, what is a common occurrence with old high school friends?

Question 35

Having close friends of the opposite sex has decreased over the past 20 years.

Question 36

"In Your Face" refers to

A) sport-slang
B) pie-throwing
C) blatant prejudice
D) facial expression

Question 37

Whip Gimby scored the winning run in the final game.

Question 38

The article suggests that a cyberaffair has little of the effect of a face-to-face
affair.

Question 39

Ann Lingbergh says that intermittent intimacy and closeness is the nature of good relationships.

Question 40

Discuss two issues concerning sexuality in opposite-sex friendships.

Question 41

In modern times living with your parents when you are a young adult has no
stigma.

Question 42

One indicator of being stuck in a childhood or adolescent phases is
whether you believe your parents could embarrass you.

Question 43

Describe at least two ways that Shepard recommends for learning how to view parents in a mature way.

Question 44

Suggestions for finding new friendships include all but

A) joining groups in an interest area.
B) increase indirect communication modes (e.g., IM, chat rooms).
C) create an informal social event.
D) allow for some time to develop a social network.

Question 45

Compared to non-family peers, siblings are only slightly more similar to each
other.

Question 46

Living alone is easier if you decorate a place with your own touch.

Question 47

Adult children who are stuck in the adolescent phase respond to their
parents in a rebellious manner.

Question 48

Having a healthy adult-adult relationship with one's parents depends on
whether they accept you as an adult.

Question 49

The author believes that there are sound guidelines and techniques for
learning parenting skills.

Question 50

Sibling rivalry tends to increase throughout childhood.

Question 51

Adult children having trouble relating to their parents usually are reacting
to the memories of their relationship.

Question 52

Discuss two issues for young adults living with parents.

Question 53

Explain the two forms of "stuckness" that adult children can display in their parental relationships.

Question 54

All but one of the following are reasons for young adults to live with parents. Which is it?

A) Parents like to see their parental role extended.
B) financial help
C) temporary retreat
D) having the chance to enjoy life without responsibilities

Question 55

Adult children who are stuck in the childhood phase respond to their
parents by being passive and dependent.

Question 56

Which of the following is not a type of older-adult-sibling relationship?

A) loyal
B) hostile
C) financial
D) apathetic

Question 57

Describe at least two ways to make living alone more satisfactory.

Question 58

One should not feel dependent on parents after the age of 18 according to
the author.

Question 59

More men than women tend to get stuck in the childhood phase.

Question 60

Describe at least two ways to create new social networks.

Question 61

Discuss two findings on sibling rivalry.

Question 62

Describe the stages of effective mentoring.

Question 63

Research shows that only children have significantly less peer relations skills than those with siblings.

Question 64

Describe at least two of the rules when engaging in interpersonal conflicts.

Question 65

There is less contact between siblings in middle adulthood compared with young adulthood.

Question 66

According to the author, maintaining a good relationship always takes priority in a conflict.

Question 67

Smoothing is recommended when the relationship is more important than the goal.

Question 68

The most probable conflict strategy when time is short is compromise.

Question 69

Unlike several decades ago, women have as good a chance of finding a mentor as men.

Question 70

According to the author, it is better to be great at one or two conflict strategies than good in all five.

Question 71

Discuss two issues or findings on the mentoring process.

Question 72

According to the article, some offenses are just not forgivable.

Question 73

Describe the five conflict strategies.

Question 74

Describe how sibling relationships change during the lifespan.

Question 75

Explain the two main concerns in any interpersonal conflict.

Question 76

Which of the following is not a conflict strategy?

A) owl (negotiating)
B) fox (cleverness)
C) turtle (withdrawing)
D) shark (forcing)

Question 77

Research has shown that having any kind of mentoring is better than none at all.

Question 78

Explain why Regan had great affection and admiration for "Nanny."

Question 79

For Regan, to "think Nanny" meant to

A) be spontaneous and creative.
B) act like a determined goat.
C) think of his admired Aunt Nancy.
D) act like a caring and wise person.

Question 80

Which is not a component of a successful apology?

A) taking responsibility for the offense
B) asking for forgiveness
C) Explain why you committed the offense.
D) Demonstrate true remorse.