Question 1

Repair attempts are best used

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Repair attempts are most effective when used during a discussion to de-escalate negative tension and prevent further conflict.

Question 2

Describe two typical money conflict situations as discussed in the article.

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The article discusses two typical money conflict situations. The first situation is when one partner is a spender and the other is a saver. This can lead to conflict when the spender wants to make a big purchase or go on an expensive vacation, while the saver wants to stick to a strict budget and save for the future. The second situation is when one partner earns significantly more money than the other. This can lead to feelings of resentment and power imbalances, as the higher-earning partner may feel entitled to make all the financial decisions, while the lower-earning partner may feel undervalued and disempowered. Both of these situations can create tension and conflict within a relationship, and it's important for couples to communicate openly and find compromises in order to resolve these money conflicts.

Question 3

The main message of Keating's article is

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Keating's article emphasizes the subjective nature of interpreting events, suggesting that the significance of any event largely depends on an individual's perception.

Question 4

Discuss three ways to avoid money conflicts in a relationship.

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Question 5

The main idea of "Shoulders" was to be aware of muscle tension in the shoulder area as it tightens up other body areas.

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"Shoulders" by Naomi Shihab Nye is a poem that focuses on the theme of responsibility and care for others, rather than specifically about muscle tension in the shoulder area.

Question 6

One advantage of a "superrelationship" according to Craig Cox is that it is less fragile than other ones.

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Question 7

The problem of recognizing shoulders, according to the author, is that one diminishes his/her uniqueness.

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The statement provided does not give enough context or reference to accurately determine the author's views on recognizing shoulders and its impact on uniqueness. Recognizing shoulders could refer to a variety of interpretations depending on the context, such as acknowledging someone's efforts or physical characteristics, neither of which inherently involves diminishing uniqueness.

Question 8

Describe what the authors mean by harsh startup, flooding, repair attempts.

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Question 9

Explain the key factors that Gottman and Silver mention as being essential to a happy marriage.

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Question 10

The author contends that most of us "forget our shoulders" when explaining a current ability.

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The author suggests that people often overlook or forget the foundational skills or experiences (symbolized by "shoulders") that have enabled them to achieve their current abilities, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging these underlying contributions.

Question 11

The Keating article is about

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The article discusses the beginning and ending of marriages.

Question 12

Beginning a discussion with criticism is called

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Beginning a discussion with criticism is referred to as a "harsh startup." This term is often used in relationship counseling and psychology to describe an approach to communication that starts off on a negative note, making productive dialogue difficult.

Question 13

Which of the following is not one of the Four Horsemen?

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The Four Horsemen, a concept introduced by Dr. John Gottman, include criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness. Non-verbal negativity is not listed among them; instead, defensiveness is the fourth horseman, not mentioned in the options provided.

Question 14

Overwhelming critical remarks are called

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Flooding refers to an overwhelming barrage of critical remarks or negative feedback, often rendering the recipient unable to respond or process the information effectively. It's a term used in psychology and communication studies to describe situations where one party is overwhelmed by the other's negativity or criticism.

Question 15

The key factor in a happy marriage according to Gottman and Silver is

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According to John Gottman and Nan Silver in their research and writings on marriage, the key factor in a happy marriage is deep friendship. This foundation allows couples to create a meaningful connection that encompasses mutual respect and enjoyment of each other's company, which is crucial for navigating the ups and downs of a relationship.

Question 16

Describe what happened on a rainy day in Keating's article.

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Question 17

Money conflicts often mask other kinds of relationship problems.

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Money conflicts in relationships often serve as a surface issue that can mask deeper, underlying problems such as issues of trust, power imbalances, or differing values and priorities.

Question 18

Explain the main idea in "Shoulders" and give an example from your own life history.

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Question 19

Describe each of the Four Horsemen.

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Question 20

The article advises couples to tell each other how they spend each dollar.

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The article suggests transparency and communication about finances in a relationship, but it does not advise couples to report every single dollar spent to each other, as this could be overly burdensome and impractical.

Quiz 4: Human Relationships