Is It Best to Be Realistic or Idealistic About Your

Is it best to be realistic or idealistic about your partner's personal qualities? Do we want to be "known" or "adored"? According to Swann's self-verification theory, people want to be

A) adored because love is supposed to be blind.
B) "known" because a partner's understanding of who you "really" are creates strong feelings of intimacy as relationships mature over time.
C) known because it is only through love that we really find ourselves.
D) adored because people want only positive feedback about their positive qualities and not negative feedback about their undesirable qualities.