Is It Best to Be Realistic or Idealistic About Your

Is it best to be realistic or idealistic about your partner's personal qualities? Do we want to be "known" or "adored"? A recent longitudinal study by Neff and Karney suggests that both accuracy in our partner's understanding of us and global adoration of who we are as individuals are important. These researchers found that

A) accuracy led to adoration.
B) adoration led to accuracy.
C) the benefits of accuracy and honest evaluation required a high level of adoration between partners.
D) the benefits of adoration depended on whether partner evaluations were also accurate.