Question 1

Which is true of the dating system named "calling"?

Accepted Answer

The "calling" system was a form of courtship that took place in the home, often under the supervision of a chaperone, typically a family member, to ensure propriety and adherence to social norms. This system was prevalent before the more modern practices of dating emerged, where couples would go out together without such direct oversight.

Question 2

Kitchen-sinking is:

Accepted Answer

Kitchen-sinking refers to the practice of bringing up multiple grievances or issues from the past during a single argument, rather than focusing on the specific conflict at hand. This can complicate and escalate the conflict instead of resolving it.

Question 3

Gunnysacking is:

Accepted Answer

Gunnysacking refers to the practice of avoiding confronting issues as they arise, leading to the accumulation of frustrations and problems. This can result in a larger conflict or outburst later on, as the "sack" of grievances becomes too heavy to carry.

Question 4

Which is NOT a good rule to follow in giving effective feedback?

Accepted Answer

Effective feedback should be specific and clear, not general and nonspecific. Specific feedback helps the receiver understand exactly what actions or behaviors need to change.

Question 5

Owning your own message means:

Accepted Answer

Owning your own message involves taking responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings rather than attributing them to others. It's about using "I" statements to express personal opinions, which helps in communicating more effectively and authentically.

Question 6

When Alistar responds, "Is there anything else I could do to improve my performance?" after his boss identifies three areas of work deficiency, Alistar is using a technique known as:

Accepted Answer

Negative inquiry is a communication technique where an individual seeks further criticism or negative feedback after receiving initial criticism, aiming to improve or address areas of deficiency. Alistar's question directly seeks additional feedback on his performance, fitting the definition of negative inquiry.

Question 7

Which of the following is not a strategy for resolving dialectic tensions?

Accepted Answer

Assimilation is not a recognized strategy for resolving dialectic tensions. Strategies like cyclic alteration, reframing, and disqualification are used to manage the ongoing tensions in relationships, but assimilation does not specifically address the management of these tensions.

Question 8

When "two people work out what they want, what they believe, what they hope for each other," Fulghum describes this as:

Accepted Answer

Fulghum describes the process of two people working out what they want, believe, and hope for each other as "covenant talk." This term emphasizes the deep, mutual understanding and agreement akin to a covenant, rather than a simple conversation or negotiation.

Question 9

Which of the following would not be considered a relational symbol?

Accepted Answer

Each option (A: Nicknames, B: "Our song", C: Engagement ring) represents a symbol that can signify a relationship or connection between individuals, making them all relational symbols.

Question 10

Flirting is an example of which communication behavior found in the intensifying stage?

Accepted Answer

Flirting is an example of indirect suggestion, a behavior commonly found in the intensifying stage of relationships where individuals start to express their interest and attraction more openly, but often in a playful or subtle manner.

Question 11

Which of the following is NOT suggested by Berzon as a way members of both same-sex and opposite-sex dyads should assign roles:

Accepted Answer

Berzon suggests that roles should be assigned based on interests, skills, and personalities, and that partners should discuss and negotiate roles, rather than conforming to traditional gender norms.

Question 12

Which of the following is NOT one of John Gottman's three styles of successful coupling?

Accepted Answer

John Gottman's three styles of successful coupling are validating, avoidant, and volatile couples. Harmonious couples are not one of the styles he identified.

Question 13

Ethan and Lucas communicate frequently and have developed a pattern of listening carefully and reinforcing each other's differing opinions. They are an example of which of Gottman's styles of successful coupling?

Accepted Answer

Validating couples are characterized by their mutual respect and understanding, often listening carefully and supporting each other's opinions, even when they differ. This style aligns with the description of Ethan and Lucas's communication pattern.

Question 14

Henderson and Gilding (2004) describe trusting online relationships as:

Accepted Answer

Henderson and Gilding (2004) describe trusting online relationships as "hyperpersonal," which suggests that these relationships can become more intimate and strong than face-to-face relationships due to the selective self-presentation and the idealization of the communication partners.

Question 15

Stafford says that people in long-distance romantic relationships:

Accepted Answer

Long-distance couples often maintain idealized images of each other due to the lack of daily, in-person interaction, which can mask the routine challenges and flaws that are more visible in close-proximity relationships.

Question 16

In the 19th century, falling in love depended on, and at the same time increased, one's sense of having an individual identity.

Accepted Answer

In the 19th century, the Romantic movement emphasized individual emotions and personal experience, including love. Falling in love became seen as a personal choice and expression of one's unique identity, thus both depending on and reinforcing the sense of being an individual.

Question 17

Regardless of the era in which they lived, people have always experienced love in the same ways.

Accepted Answer

The experience of love can vary greatly across different cultures and historical periods, influenced by societal norms, cultural practices, and individual beliefs.

Question 18

Occasions that can move one toward intimacy (like Valentine's Day, spring fever, or one's senior year) are examples of intimacy readiness cues.

Accepted Answer

Intimacy readiness cues are events or situations that signal or create a readiness for closer relationships, and occasions like Valentine's Day, spring fever, or one's senior year can indeed serve as such cues, encouraging individuals to seek or deepen intimate connections.

Question 19

Braiker and Kelley believe that sharing episodes is unimportant because doing things together (behavioral interdependence) seldom leads to attitudinal and cognitive interdependence.

Accepted Answer

Braiker and Kelley actually argue that sharing episodes and doing things together (behavioral interdependence) is important because it often leads to attitudinal and cognitive interdependence, strengthening the bond between individuals.

Question 20

Filtering theory holds that people use sequentially ordered criteria to sift out people who are unattractive and with whom they are not willing to form an intimate relationship.

Accepted Answer

Filtering theory suggests that individuals use a series of filters or criteria in a sequential manner to decrease the pool of potential partners to those with whom they are most compatible and attracted, thereby excluding those deemed unattractive or unsuitable for an intimate relationship.

Quiz 11: Creating Intimate Relationships