You have been bringing in food and drinks and putting them in the refrigerator at work. Your coworker, Chris, has been taking them without asking. You don't think it's fair for Chris to take your food and drinks. Which of the following would you say as your XYZ statement to initiate conflict resolution?
A) "Chris, you have been taking my food, and I don't get to eat it. I feel as though you are taking advantage of me."
B) "Chris, this is very rude of you, the way you eat my food without asking."
C) "Chris, why don't you get your own food and drinks and stop having mine."
D) "Chris, I feel you are taking advantage of me by taking my food and drinks. You need to stop it."

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DThe XYZ statement formula is used to express feelings constructively by stating the situation (X), your feelings about it (Y), and the impact or what you would like to change (Z). Both options A and D follow this structure by clearly stating the behavior, the speaker's feelings about it, and a desire for the behavior to change, without using accusatory language or making assumptions about intent.

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